How hard is it for you to be yourself?

Question

For people I know It's harder than ever to express and be yourself around kids, what with peer pressure, trying to be cool and not being themselves. For my friends and I, we find ourselves being judged over the internet and in real life. Just of the way we dress and how our hair's done. What I don't get is how people could care so much about looks-and just put a person down based on that when they know nothing about them. I think It's quite sad, and I know that that's just how the world works I suppose. But it goes to far, What with people bashing kids over their right to express themselves through clothing-It just lowers kid's self esteem, which is very valuable nowadays, more and more girls think of themselves as ugly, not good enough, so they feel like they have to make themselves over for a guy to notice them, Or maybe drinking or doing drugs. I for one, would never do anything like that, since I know better and I'm only a teenager; This may be an odd question but I was wondering if you ever went through something so bad, that you were scared to be yourself. I'm sure, everyone has because It's sort of normal now, but I was wondering if it has ever gotten to extreme.

Answer 1

it depents with who i am .

I find it hard when i am arround with peple who can do some damage to me if they don't like the way i am, like my boss, coworkers, brother, sister in law, relatives in general...people in general who i think i am not good enough for em.

Answer 2

"How hard is it for you to be yourself?"

Not hard at all...myself is the only way I can be, it's the only person I am.

There seems to be this common but misguided notion that somewhere inside each of us there is a "true self" waiting to get out. That's nonsense. We are who we are and no one else.

However, that isn't really your question, is it?

More like an entree into what you wanted to say,which (sorry, English teacher in me) is scattered and almost irrational. Next time, please tighten your thinking and writing. We'd like to be able to understand what you mean.

-- Dr. Bob, Adlerian Psychologist

Answer 3

It isnt hard for me at all.

Im 19 years old and have never smoked, nor done drugs, and never drank. Most of my friends do all that stuff but i never found it hard to say no. I actually think thats what set me apart from other people and i was proud of that.

Answer 4

Not very. At the end of the day you are you and you are always exercising genuine qualities within yourself. It is just sometimes difficult mainly for adolescence because they have external factors influencing on how they express themselves. The key is to see that you and everyone else has a special and unique quality about them that makes them different and learn to appreciate it. You should know what your standards and your values are and they should never change because of the pressures from other people.

Know who you are and live it regardless of what others may tell you.

Answer 5

not hard for me at all!

h**l,I'm 15,most of my peers are under intense pressure(lol,hence peer pressure) but me?not one once on my shoulders!how i do it is just in 4 simple words..... DON'T GIVE A d**n! yup,just don't!other people do ot have a right to define me,i define myself.it doesn't matter what you look in the outside,h**l,I'm over weight,extremely weird, and my face looks like a goat chewed it up,spit it on the side of a road and an 18 wheeler ran over it! and guess what? i don't care.you just have to accept who you are and not try to act any different.

and what have i to show for ti?i have the best friends in the world,i gain respect from most of my peers,and i dont have to constantly deel with people ragging on me all the time!