How has being a mother changed you?

Question

Have you changed for the better, for the worse...or somewhere in the middle?

Answer 1

I'm more patient, have a better sense of humor, have a closer connection with my husband, am more aware of the fleetness of life, more aware of my place in relationship to others in the world, more aware of the power & responsibility that I have to make change in the world, more awed by the uniqueness of every human being, more aware of how much there is that I don't know.  

Would I have grown in this same way without the kids?  Maybe.  But, I'm glad that this is the path I landed on!  

Answer 2

It changed me so much.  I am a mother to three children.  When I had my first I was nineteen.  Before I got pregnant with her I used to party a lot, hang out on the streets, with the wrong people, and made plenty of bad choices.  When I got pregnant that all changed.  I wanted to make a good life for my precious baby.  When I had her the feelings I got inside were overwhelming.  I loved her more than anyone.  Then I had two more and I felt the same way with each of them. The most love ever, but each in thier own way for their own reasons.  It changed my outlook on life as well.  There is a reason for everything I learned.  I have learned many lessons from my little ones: to never give up, that there is a reason for everything, to look on the bright side and find the best in everything.  I learned to be more caring, and definetly unselfish... my kids always come first.  Even when I have enough money for what we may need I never seem to by myself anything... I alway say "What if the kids need something?"  Being a mom has also given me more patience than I thought I could ever have not being a very patient person in my younger years.  It made me know the greatest love a person can know.  

Answer 3

my WHOLE outlook on life has changed..it made me such a better person..

Answer 4

Absolutely for the better.  

The thing that has changed the most is what my focus is.  I can't be bothered with other people drama.  If it doesn't positively affect me or my daughter, I avoid it.

Answer 5

I think its made me a better person. I see things differently and understand my parents worrys when i was younger. I have more patience but also trust less people...

Answer 6

It has made me less selfish - I give to my kids before I take for myself and it will always be that way. I didn't have my children until later in life and this was a hard one to get used to - but I would lay down and die for them, so, in reality it isn't that hard!

It has also made me calmer - I have a quick temper, but with them, it takes a fair bit to get me going.

Becoming a parent has definitely made me into a better person, without doubt!

Answer 7

everything stopped being about me!!! im not the first thing i think of when i get up in the morning or the last person i think about before i go to bed at night. my wants and needs are not as important as my daughters needs and happiness. im a much better person now then i ever was before. and now that were working on please and thank you im super polite.  

Answer 8

my mother is probably the most unhappy person!  she is very overweight, a racist, and a very nasty person! Sorry, but i could write a book on all her nasty ways, and me and my sisters n brother thinks no one would believe us! Yet somehow we all just still let her be part of our lives, and that is because we have grown up, nice and kind despite her horrible ways ! She hasn't changed me, I am me, but the most important thing is I AM NOT HER!!!  

Answer 9

Well I had a TON of experience before I became a mother. I raised my younger sisters...literally. My mom did jack $hit. So I can't say that I've become more responsible, because I think I did a good job at raising my sisters. I became more loving though. I don't know why, but I just did. Not to say that I wasn't loving with my siblings, I was, but I think it's different when you are the child's actual mother.

It also taught me to cook! Kids don't live on love!

Answer 10

I became a mum 13 years ago. The first thing I noticed was that i sleep with one ear open even now. I used to be dead to the world but not anymore. I am also more patient now as i understand how kids work. I used to be very short and expect too much of children cause that was how i was brought up but after having my son i have learned patience. I am also a teaching assistant so when you see kids on a day to day basis you learn how best to help them. I am a much kinder person for being a mum.

Answer 11

It has definitely changed me for the better, i look at almost everything in a different way now that I'm a mum.

Answer 12

I have changed for the better, its not all about me , its about my kids. And I look at just the most simple things like the funny things my son says or my daughters funny jokes and just simplely being with them and my hubby, It is wonderful,  

Answer 13

mine has changed me to the better but sometimes worse at times when its a situation to be better.