How important is physical attraction to make a relationship work?

Question

I love my boyfriend of 2 years, hes an amazing person but Ive never felt attracted to his looks...I know hes about to propose soon and Im wondering if its imp in a marriage to work??

Answer 1

It has to do with individual, but in my opinion i strongly think physical attraction is very important as it plays a vital role in any relationship.i can't imagine sleeping and waking up next to someone am not attracted to.The attraction is first follow by love.

Answer 2

yes it is 100%

Answer 3

On a relationship communication is very important,more than physical cause communication you let the other  what are your likes or dislikes from each other. As long you are communicating you are letting him to know what you don't like without hurting his feelings. Talk to him, the sooner the better.  Good Luck and Blessings to both of you.

Answer 4

I think physical attractiveness is important at first, but less so in a "relationship"

I will confess, my wife's looks attracted me initially, she is drop dead gorgeous, really.  But if she had a bad personality I woul dhave dated her exactly one time and said "thank you, goodbye".  On a scale of 1-10, I am a 6 or 7 and she is a 10+...off the scale!  She didn't marry me for my looks, she could have had anyone she wanted.  She didn't marry me for my money, I am strictly middle class.  Her previous "boyfriend" was a very wealthy man but it lasted only a few weeks because he was an ***hole!  She is physically attracted to me (judging from all the s*x she initiates) but I think love does that also.  When you are deeply in love with someone, I think you just WANT to be intimate with them.  

It doesn't hurt that she is so beautiful, but if she wasn't intelligent, kind and caring, I couldn't be with her JUST for looks.

Answer 5

Only you can say how important it is. You will probably get a range of answers to show that there is no one answer that works for everyone.

Personally, I would love my partner if he were disfigured (yes, really) -- at least he'd have no other women after him, and that would be a positive in terms of our relationship.

Answer 6

No. Looks are not important. I am no catch in the sea, and neither is my husband, and we have been married for 13 Happy Years. Please don't be shallow and not marry him, because you don't like his "Looks". Go for his personality and the shared interests and compatiblilty that you have with each other. Looks are the least you should be worrying about.

Answer 7

Yes physical attraction is important in a relationship.  

Answer 8

Well some strange people on the YA community are going to tell you that it is not important because looks fade, looks do not matter, you should not be shallow, you are not perfect either, and YADDY, YADDY, YADDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My two cents say that physical attraction is very important. Physical attraction is not based on looks nor is it shallow but rather it is a deep intangible force that cannot be pinpointed, boxed or explained. Physical attraction simply is.

Answer 9

Then, there is no way for dilemma.

You have to take him as he is.

No double mindedness in relationship.

Everything is important including understanding.

If you are interested in looks, you will never get everything in a single person.

Then you have to marry so many persons with so many looks.

This is too much for illusion.

I am sorry man!

You will never get an answer for your question.

Please decide your self about this confusion.

Answer 10

marriage is intended for a life time. LIFE TIME. you should be completely satisfied with your choice. unless it would be one of those ''sexless marriage'' cases, which I must say I don't understand the point, sexual appearance is very important. will you be able to 'stand by your man' when all those 'muscles' are walking around? or will you be able to be happy missing him all your life? how long will that great feeling of an o****m with a gorgeous guy make you happy?

so check you accounts. do you have a positive balance you would rather not risk?

Answer 11

It is entirely up to you to make this an important aspect of your relationship / marraige or not !  It's to do with your attitude towards it.

Most people equate 'chemistry of connections' with physical appearance which may attract you.  Not so.  We can be so sexually attracted to someone is not physically attractive to look at.  'Look' can be just a mental concept of what we believe to be desirable.  This is not necessarily the same as true attraction and flow that comes from true love, deep connection and real chemistry (energy exchange / sharing during love making).  As long as does not repulse you then his look shouldn't matter.

The question is why are you concerned?  Are you getting cold feet?  Is it because you don't really want to marry him?  Is it because you lack confidence that this relationship could last?

You say you love him and he is an amazing person.  Do you really loe him?  Yes, look change.  We all get older.  Things happen.  What would make a marriage last is love, committment to making the relatipnship work and having the common goal of taking care of each other and making each other happy.  It's like building a team.  Is he the one person you would want to be in a life long team work with?

What does your heart say about him?

I think you will marry him, hopefull for the right intentions!

Answer 12

If YOU are having to think about attraction i believe you might want to work on some things before you move on with this relationship or ask him to perhaps date a little while longer before you take that step to that next level?

Perhaps you should focus in on the Law of Attraction as in the spiritual aspects.

You did say he is an amazing person and when it comes down to it, that is what holds the pieces together.

Do you like good food and clothing?

If so, do you read the labels or do you buy into the marketing and end up paying a ton of money for an item that lasts a short time?

For some people it takes time before they are able to get past physical attractions of people and there is the possibility that some NEVER do grow out of it.

It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with that.

People are who they are and some may even find a mate who is compatible in that way.

The bottom line is you cannot force love and either you do or you do not love someone.

That is spirit.  

Answer 13

For me personally physical attraction is important in a marriage. When we feel attracted to a person, we feel more desire for that person and it makes love making much more pleasant. If you can married to a person you don't feel attracted to, then one day you would come accross a man towards whom you really feel attracted and you would experience the feelings you have when someone really attracts you physically. You would be tempted I think throughout your marriage. Remember we do not make love with the mind of a person but with the person's body. So it's important we feel attracted to that person

Answer 14

Physical attraction is very very important. If you do not find him attractive then you are not going to want to make love etc etc and it only gets worse.