How important is religion in a relationship???

Question

Is it hard for inter religious people to get married and bring up a family on a common grounds???? I am in a starting relationship with a christian woman.... and I am a hindu..... she wants to get married in a church.... I am not sure... but I think in order to get married in a church you need to be a christian.... I don't beleive in conversions....also she wants to rise children... (eventually when she is married) as per christianity.... I beleive in god but not in religion.... do you think am i heading towards a disaster???

Answer 1

Yes.  The Bible says marrying a person with a different religion is like putting two animals under one yolk to plow the land.  It won't work.  Religion plays a DEEP part in your lives.  It affects your thinking and how you see things.  Even simple things like how Hindus revere cows and Christians don't may become a conflict.  

If you're Hindu, don't you believe in gods?  What will the child be?  Christian or Hindu?  When the child ask life questions, who will answer?  It seems like you're Hindu but not religiously so it could work since you are not really religious.   But again, you seem unease about getting married in a church.  You don't have to be a Christian to marry in a church because if that were true, you would also have to be of that denomination which you're not.  

Since you don't really practice your religion and the fact that she fell in love with a guy who isn't a Christian (which also says something about HER beliefs as most religious people marry into their own religion), it could work, but culturally your Hindu beliefs will come into play sometime and that will cause conflict.  However, given that she is marrying you, a Hindu, religion don't really seem a higher important part of her life.  

Answer 2

A True Christian would NEVER marry outside of the faith.

Believers are NOT to be unequally yoked with UNbelievers under ANY circumstances. The  fact that your friend professes to be a christian but sees no problem with marrying outside her beliefs, tells me she does NOT understand what being a christian means.

Being in a church (whether it is to be married or NOT) does NOT make one a Christian. She doesn't KNOW what she believes or why she believes it.

What do her parents think about her marrying someone not of her faith?

It will NOT work. I would advise against it.

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Answer 3

religion is important mostly because religious differences can break a relationship.

if neither side condemns the other over religion, but accepts them... then differences are not a problem

if either side feels the other will "go to h**l" unless they convert them, then the relationship will not work, until both are agreed on the religious points... however conversion just to appease someone isn't real, and will also result in problems later when it is found out.

Answer 4

Only if you let it happen...

Answer 5

I am in a similar situation, my boyfriend is a devout Christian and I am not religious, but I accept buddhist beliefs. This has caused just a bit of turmoil only because we are worried things might not work out in the end. We have talked about our different religions and what we do and don't believe and there are definantly some differences but that doesn't change the way we feel about each other. Im still not sure about the future but I think if you feel very strongly about someone these things can work themselves out if you let each other believe what they want to believe, conflicts about what religion the children should be is definantly are definantly hard ones to solve. I was raised Christian but I was exposed to different religions and I have chosen for myself which one feels right to me, maybe that is the best way, just to expose them to different beliefs and see what path they take.

Answer 6

Nope

Answer 7

Religion is one very important thing for a christian. However, christianity never forbids inter religious marriages. I think in your relationship, the most important thing that you both should do is to accept and respect each other for who you are. As for the children that you are planning to raise, let them have their choice when the time comes that they understand things. What you can only do is guide them to what is morally acceptable norms.

Answer 8

I am a Christian and you may find my answer tilted towards Christianity.  Nonetheless, what I feel is:

It takes a lot of effort on both sides.  Inter-caste marriages are always a difficult time for both.  I would also like to add that my mother and my sisters married Hindus.  Despite difficulties, the marriages survived.

Non-Christians can have their marriage blessed in the Church.  I think some Protestant Churches may allow Christians to marry non-Christians in their Church.

I feel it is better for the children to follow a religion.  Since you do not follow one, why not let them follow Christianity?

You are not headed for disaster.  Christians are the salt of the earth.  They are lovely people.  Tough time lies ahead but your marriage can survive with a Christian partner.

I would also like to add that there is no surety that your marriage to a Hindu would survive without working on the marriage.

Take a chance and plunge into it.

Answer 9

My wife is a Catholic and I'm an atheist. She does her thing and I do mine. No problems, as the practice and non-practice of religion is at the bottom of our priority list.

I feel sad for you and your woman, that religion should get in the way of human love. If your woman is very devout regarding her religion, she will insist on having religious matters go her way. I do not hold out too much hope for your relationship if this is the case. You're heading for one of the most important decisions in your life, but it's your call and yours alone. I wish you a resolution that you can live with.

Answer 10

If religion is important to you (or her), then not being spiritually united will eventually become a problem.  Your faith (if important to you) would be central to your life.  And if you cannot share your beliefs with your spouse, then you will live a very lonely life.

I'm not saying that it's impossible to live in a religiously divided household, but again, it will become an issue only if faith is important to you.

Be aware too, that people often take their faith more seriously as they age/mature.  That's why even people of the same faith will experience difficulties if one person becomes more seriously involved in the faith, or one partner becomes a Muslim/Christian/Jew/Hindu/Buddhist in name or on paper only.

So it is good that you're talking to her about this now.  Being aware of the issues will help you make a better decision for your future together.  You might be able to reach a compromise or come up with a game plan.  If you are planning on having children, then you also need to consider what is best for them because your choices now will have an impact on their emotional well-being and spiritual health.  I applaud you for giving some forethought in this matter.

Answer 11

You just need to be straight

to get married in churches.