How is abstinence possible ?

Question

I mean especially for adults. How could a couple not have s*x, it seem rediculous and unreal. Abstinence is a good idea , but practiclly impossible for highly sexual people. What do u think?

Answer 1

lots of self control and a LOT of masturbation!!!

Answer 2

I think unreasonable and socially forced abstinence, together with the repression of all expressions of human sexuality, accounts for much of the sexual frustrations of the individuals in a society. Our sexuality, like our curiosity or our inventiveness, among others things, is an essential part of our humanity. To repress it without due justification will lead to a form of psychological and sociological pathology.

With the problem of STD around, I think the best solution is the promotion of masturbation (among adolescents of both sexes) and humane, non-sexist pornography. This program was once proposed by the health department of America during the Clinton administration. As usual, the unreasonable and noisy religious right acted to the demise of such a brilliant idea.

Answer 3

Right -- some people are just going to have s*x no matter what.  It's in their nature.  Almost as if evolution programmed it that way.  

On the other hand, there are people who really don't like s*x at all.  They would be the likely candidates for abstinence, or s*x strictly for procreation purposes.

Though perhaps I don't really understand what you are asking.  Are you talking about pre-marital s*x?  

Well, I think for responsible adults, who are willing to accept whatever the consequences of intercourse might be...then there is nothing wrong having s*x before they're married.

s*x is important in a relationship (to some people at least)...  Waiting until marriage could actually be bad, because then you might find you are sexually incompatable with that person and if s*x is important to one person and not the other, it could be an extremely unhappy marriage.

It's hard to say for sure.  But if a couple waits until marriage to have s*x, is it safe to say that neither couple really likes having s*x? It is possible, t hough highly unlikely, that they're still virgins.  In that case, they may find they like to have s*x.  

I think birth control has made abstinence irrelivant.

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Yes, but Chibi, what's the point of not having s*x?  s*x never killed anyone either.  And it may be a good idea to find out before you're married if you enjoy having s*x with a person, seeing as how after marriage you're technically not allowed to sleep with anyone else.

Answer 4

It's possible, through hard work and self-control....It's like treating any other addiction....You might fail a few times on the road, but you can get there!

I would assume that an abstinent person at least masturbates to control the urge.Avoiding masturbating and s*x would be even more harder.

Artistlo-s*x can make people miserable, if you're doing it with the wrong person. My FWB was verbally abusive and jealous, and he intimidated me from even pursuing other men! (before you ask why don't I just find someone else to have s*x with)....On top of that, he didn't even fully satisfy me..the s*x was always about him..

I feel much better NOT having any s*x than having s*x with him and putting up with his verbal/mental/emotional abuse.

Answer 5

In response to another post, marriage in itself is no protection against AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases, and unwanted pregnancies. You might have a partner who has been less than truthful about past sexual experiences or who currently cheats on you. You can also have unwanted pregnancies, too, especially when you or your partner are not yet ready emotionally or financially for a child. My mother used to tell me that when I got married, wait at least several years to have a child. That way, you can be sure if your partner is really the right one and that the marriage will last. That's because having a baby will never make a marriage better and will destroy an already bad one.

Answer 6

sweetie.... its simple...  jus lern to say NO when ur boyfrend or husbend pressures u for s*x....  remember u NEVER got to do anything u dont want to...   dont let him give u that bull bout it being ur duty to satisfy him.... u dont have ANY duty to him...  in fact u cud do jus fine by urself without him....  y do u think u even need this guy in ur life???

Answer 7

Yes, it's possible - it just requires self-control, which a lot of people like to pretend is an unreasonable concept. Nobody ever died from not having s*x.

Answer 8

It's not impossible at all. Either you want to or you don't. I have no idea how we got to a point in society where if you are in a relationship it's automatically assumed that you are having s*x.

You can have a relationship without s*x. I'm sure that is out of your world of thinking but it is most definitely possible and I know people who live like that.

Edit: Whoever said abstinence is harmful is a braindead moron. Get an education. No one has ever died from not having s*x. Stop spreading stupid myths.

Answer 9

It's possible if people have self control and aren't fixated on immediate gratification.  It's not easy, but it is most definitely possible.

Bradley...people HAVE died from having s*x.  Many people who've acquired HIV because of sexual contact died when the infection progressed to AIDS.

Answer 10

Abstinence is good for teen-agers, but for responsible adults, it seems ridiculous.  What for?

Answer 11

I can't really imagine why anyone would want to, quite frankly. It wouldn't work for me. But to each his (or her) own.

Answer 12

It's not that hard really.

Answer 13

WEll abstinence is MEANT for people NOT in serious relationships like marriage n what not because of the risk of AIDS, STD's, and unwanted pregnancies.  THen there are the moral upgringing some people have and are abstinent for the sake of waiting til marriage, which makes sense as having random s*x just complicates things....you get with someone, they end up being married, you look like a **** even though you didn't know, or the guy/gal has some disease like AIDS and you're screwed for life pretty much...or even worse herpes.  Or you get pregnant by some loser and have to deal with either keeping the baby or abortion and all the split opinions that judge you regardless (sh*t like this DOES happen so it's not like i'm blowin smoke up your *ss.).  

People are highly sexual yea, but we're also MINDFUL and SELF-AWARE of ourselves and our responsibilities, and can CONTROL our urges....it's why most successful marriage last fidelity wise, and while some don't because their partners are too weak or too stupid to realize they shouldn't be in a relationship if their sexual urges rule their life.

I was ABSTINENT for 23 years before i lost my virginity, mainly for both religious and mindful reasons like the STD, AID, and also i wanted love not flings (love s*x is way better than flings in my opinion.).  And i consider myself HIGHLY sexual, thankfully my wife is the same and can keep up.  So it's possible but it CAN be hard.

Answer 14

Possible? Of course it's possible. It's just not very enjoyable, for most people at least.

Answer 15

It's fairly simple and easy. You just don't have s*x. Do you really have such little control over yourself?

Answer 16

Abstinence is harmful to one's health.  s*x is healthy, and keeps people sane.  If a highly sexual person is abstaining from s*x and they are miserable, they might as well have unprotected s*x with strangers and die from an STD sexually satisfied than live an entire life unhappy.

We take risks every day when we walk out of our houses.  s*x can be relatively safe with proper protection.  People who say "anyone who has s*x should be ready to take care of a child" are pretty much saying that anyone who walks out onto the street should be prepared to be shot in the head.  We use condoms to stay safe, and we use police officers to stay safe, but nothing can ever guarantee safety.