How is it practically possible to be a "good" mom and be a working mom?

Question

I am not looking to be critical. As a SAHM, I work all day to keep a clean house, cook nutritious meals and play with, teach, guide and support my preschool age children- these last things being the most important. I worked for 6 months full-time last year and found that all I had time for when I got home were what I saw as the lesser important things (i.e. cook dinner, tidy up a bit, bathe kids and get them to bed).

For the working moms out there, do you feel you are a good mom and if so, specifically what are you doing on a day to day basis that makes you a good mom. Again, not looking to be critical. Just curious how people say women can have it all.

Answer 1

Of coarse a working mom can be a great mom. Loving, Teaching, Protecting, and Providing for the child it what makes a good mother. Staying at home doesnt necessarily make a good parent. Its what you do when you are with them.

Umm and school is necessary to raise your child....so is having the child in a social environment: Daycare School Etc. And they are not raising your child. I will tell you right now that i am a nanny and just because someone else is around your child doesnt mean that they are raising them...Mommy will always be Mommy and Daddy will always be Daddy. You have lessons throughout your life that dont always involve your parents even when your parents Stay at home, this doesnt mean that someone else raised you....it means that you are having life experience.)

Answer 2

h**l yeah I am!  Working to make sure my child has everything he needs and going to school to get a better education for an even greater paying job.  Some women can't afford to stay at home all day...they wear the apron and the pants and need to provide.  

Answer 3

i work full time and i have two babies, 16month, and 4 months. personally i stayed home with each of them the first 4 weeks and then went back to work, not by choice financially i had to but in order to keep my kids happy i learned that you have to be happy. you need to find time for yourself and not feel guilty when you get a sec to do something other than cook and clean and wipe butts, take the time to take a long hot bath or just go for a drive to get out of the house. then when you get back your refreshed and can be a better mom and you might even miss your kids. i personally find it exhausting to work all day come home make dinner and then want to play with my kids, sometimes even talking to them is so hard. and with working all day i feel that i never get a min to myself. i am not a selfish person i am doing what i have to do to take care of my kids. what makes me a good mom is that because i am gone all day and don't get to see them i am more happy to see them and to do little things for them and to just play, i am a happier mom. therefore my kids are happy because i am, their mood reflecs yours most of the time.  maybe consider working part time, that way you get to get out of the house and then on your days off, take some time out of each day to spend quality time with the kiddos. thats what i would do if i could.  

Answer 4

Of couse working mums can be good mums, if they are a good mother during the time they spend with their children, then how could they not be? Quality not quantity.

Answer 5

must be nice not to have to work huh? not everybody can just stay at home and be as great as you sorry but I find this question offensive  

Answer 6

i personally dont think so

daycare must be a necessity and if you think about it, that is letting someone else raise your child,, frankly so is school

if you are blessed enough to be in a situation where you can choose to stay home with your children, then do. and this is coming from the child

not the parent

and women dont need to have it all

i would think satying at home with my children would really turely be having it all

Answer 7

I am a teacher with three children, ages 7, 3, and 1. I think that with my work day being shorter than most I have a good job to still be a "good mom". With one my oldest in school and the middle starting school next year, I feel as though it is better that I work. Also my parents live on the same property as us, so they are always there to watch our children.