How is it that women often plan most things about their weddings but seldom pay for them?

Question

How does the math on that add up.

Answer 1

I paid for a lot of mine....my parents help out to.

but then I didnt have a huge all out wedding....

Answer 2

you think having to spend a lifetime with you is not paying?

Answer 3

Women often do not pay for their own wedding because it is tradition that their parents pay for them.  However with women marrying later in life and having successful careers many are now paying for their own weddings along with their future husbands.  This is also true with Honeymoons, of which a man's parents traditionally paid for.

I was lucky enough to have very kind parents who paid for the majority of my wedding, though I paid about 25% of it because I had just graduated from college and gotten a full time job.  I did do most of the planning simply because as he put it "It's drapes"...meaning all of the fru-fru stuff looks nice but is unnecessary.

Answer 4

Because they are smart :)

Answer 5

I don't know, I hate big weddings and don't understand why anyone wants to have them.  We got married in a registry office,a nd as it was my husband invited far more people than I wanted there.  We had lunch in a local restaurant after the ceremony, and my father did pay for it.

Personally, I think the custom that was prevalent in the pre-modern era was more sensible.  After the wedding, the party all adjourned to the new couple's house, and they gave a feast for the guests.  It was paid for by the bride and groom, not by the bride's family.  it was supposed to show that the bride and groom would be good householders and generous providers.  Parents did not take centre stage in weddings the way they do now, it was supposed to be more an occasion for the bride and groom's peer group, a farewell to their bachelor existence.

Answer 6

because most men never help plan the wedding. they leave ALL the details to the women. so it's like they pay to not really get envolved.

Answer 7

I do not understand your Question.  Most of the weddings I've attending over the last 5 years.  The Bride, her family and Groom worked together to plan the wedding.  It's not really a question about WHO pays.  

Traditionally it's was the brides family that paid, if you go back far enough it was more of a payoff (dowry) for the brides family to have her taken off there hands.  

As our society matured it became a tradition for the Brides family to pay for most of the wedding.  

Today given the COSTS of a wedding both families will/should share in the costs.

I've also seen a lot of Weddings were it's the happy couple who paid for everything.  Don't forget once married it's not His or Hers ....rather OURS.

Answer 8

The Bride or the Bride's family pays for the wedding.

Answer 9

Actually it's tradition for a woman's family to pay for (most) of the wedding.

But thanks for coming out. See ya next time ;)

Edit: You have plagiarized both Heather's and my quotes by not properly quoting them, as well as not citing them and not giving credit where credit is due. We'll be seeking compensation for that, thanks very much.

Answer 10

Yes you are clearly showing your indepth knpowledge and research on this matter - not. Grow up

Answer 11

I guess this question takes in account, where you are from and what the customs are. We are splitting the cost of our wedding and Im doing ALL the planning. I would much rather have him plan it and all I would have to do is show up in my dress.

he is a very lucky man and he knows it.

Answer 12

It's obvious that you don't know much about weddings.

Answer 13

I think weddings are a huge waste of coin.

Answer 14

Traditionally the bride's family pays, isn't that close enough?

Edit: Get out of my head, Kitana.  :P

Edit 2: If that's the logic you're using, then why is it that men often plan little of their weddings and seldom pay for them?  I mean, it's THEIR wedding too, why not pay for half?

(For the record, I think this whole question is full of c**p, but if that's the sort of "logic" you intend to use, then I will respond in kind)