How is wanting a person only for s*x worst than wanting them only for EMOTIONAL gain?

Question

Women are always complaining about men being "pigs" for wanting a woman for s*x and nothing more. I STILL don't see whats so "bad" about that.

What do women usually want men for? Some kind of emotional security.. right? You can talk about deep connections all you want, but at the end of the day... you are in a relationships because it SERVES YOU and BENEFITS YOU in some way. If it didn't, you would LEAVE. Same for all your friendships. Same for your job.

So if s*x is what a man wants, and companionship is what a woman wants... both people have a self-serving agenda anyway.

Companionship is give and take, but s*x is also give and take.

So why the backlash against the male pursuit of s*x?

Answer 1

The problem is that as men we seperate the two and women rarely do. Then, they don't understand why we don't.

Answer 2

Same difference; one's emotional the other physical.  The bad apart is not going up to him and her coming right out and saying.  "hey the only thing I want from you is s*x; get those other notions out of your head."

Answer 3

Its not, as long as intentions are disclosed up front.  I plan on doing this myself, I'll just make sure he knows so I don't end up having him calling me and bothering me all hours of the day.  What a nuisance.

Answer 4

I don't think it is wrong to want s*x. It is natural for people to want this. And you either have it or you don't. If you have and then call someone a 'pig' for that who's fault is that. You had s*x so you are as much to blame too is what I see.

Answer 5

Because emotional fulfillment is far less fleeting and more self-affirming than lust?

Answer 6

Because s*x is a very animalistic and invasive act (my opinion)  and s*x has alot of negative results but only two or three positive ones   orgasms, babies, deeper connection to partner

However, there is overpopulation, so right now even babies might be considered a negative effect

Emotional connection to my knowledge is only bad when the relationship ends or if the relationship was emotionally terrible but otherwise it is always usually a good thing

MAN CANNOT SURVIVE ON s*x ALONE   LOL

P.s women are not nearly as horny as men      Men have more testosterone and that is the hormone that makes ALL humans have a s*x drive

Answer 7

you're very jaded and bitter. this is obvious.

Love actually exists, and can cause people to be SELFLESS.

Just because YOU'VE never experienced it doesn't mean it's a fantasy.

And the point is being HONEST about it. If you want s*x, don't lie. There ARE women who also only want a physical relationship, and if you don't believe this, you've obviously never been to COLLEGE. Lots of college girls only want s*x, too.

And I don't understand how you don't understand the difference between wanting a person FOR THEMSELVES, to love them and receive love, and just wanting them for s*x. In the first scenario, it's the INDIVIDUAL who counts. In the second scenario, the person might as well be a hole in the bed...a thing. THEY don't matter. If you don't get this, then you are woefully emotionally stunted.

BTW, s*x is INCLUDED in the love scenario. You get it all. Too bad you'll never have it.

Answer 8

I think what the problem with that is, if a man only wants a sexual connection, then he needs to be upfront, open and very honest about that!!!! Lots of men aren't and play with the emotions in order to get that sexual gain/fullfilment. Women are emotional people, that is a well known fact, so when a man isn't open about what he wants, then a woman starts caring about him and then he leaves because he wasn't honest. This is where the resent comes in. If a man is open and honest about his intentions, then he can have the opportunity to find someone who is complaicant with that.  Not all women are saps who would fall for a guy like yourself.

Answer 9

Men hound me for a date because they can't get over the fact that I simply chatted with them and that's all I care to do.

Why am I blamed by men for 'stringing guys along?'

I don't care that men pursue s*x, it's the stupid girl who doesn't look out for her own interests first if she gives in to a man who wants just s*x.

Answer 10

It's not! so long as you're an adult and they are an adult who's business is it?

I do have a problem if it is all about getting the better of someone to make yourself feel big and superior (unless that's what your both after if you get my drift) to the detriment of an other, but if you both know the score why not!

Answer 11

Good point. You don't think its another double standard, do you? 'Bad old men. They only want your body' etc etc.

Answer 12

To echo almost everyone else on this question, most women do not care if a man wants s*x as long as he UPFRONT about it. There are many women who are willing to go along with this kind of arrangement. Friends with benefits is a phrase that comes to mind.

However you must be upfront about it. s*x is not something that should be taken lightly no matter how "casual" s*x is and to enter into that kind of relationship without letting the other know beforehand is underhanded. The few guys that do this are unfortunately what has earned men the name pigs.

Answer 13

It will eventually get old having to find someone every time you want to have s*x. Lots of people need that emotional connection for s*x to happen. You have to be a very strong person to be able to just have s*x and walk away. Not everyone is like that. I have done it both ways. It's more satisfying if there is an emotional connection.

Answer 14

Nothing is wrong with either if both parties are honest.  However, when a person only wants s*x, they are rarely honest about it.  When a person wants emotional support, they have to be honest that that is what they want or they won't get it.

Answer 15

Most women have no problems when men who merely want s*x...if they are upfront about it.  

But the thing is, there are plenty of men who only want s*x, but will PRETEND that they want more so that women will have s*x with them.  This is taking advantage of another person, leading them on, and it is wrong.  

In short, if all you want is s*x, that's fine.  Just be upfront about it.

Answer 16

i think women who look down on men because all they want is s*x are unfair and holding a double standard because mostly some women keep guys cause they give a good ****, or so they can have someone to hold on to.

i think everyone wants that ideal person of someone to have "that"connection with to marry so thats what that BS is about

Everyone is a little selfish  just be honest end of convo.

Answer 17

I use men for s*x...  maybe i'm backwards...