How is your life affected if you weren't popular in high school.?

Question

I'm not a total loser, but I'm not part of the popular crowd either. Do all those things not matter anymore after high school? Or does it stick with you the rest of your life?

Answer 1

It wont stick with you don't worry. what makes a kid popular and what makes an adult popular are two different things. kids can be unpopular because they are intelligent and are therefore branded as geeks. an intelligent adult will have no such problems and can go on to have a far more successful life. sometimes kids can be unpopular just because they are more mature than their classmates - this is a problem that disappears as an adult. some kids take longer to develop their personalities - again a problem that passes when you become an adult.

there are many more reasons but thats all the main ones i could think of.

the main point is.... dont worry about it !

Answer 2

I found a lot of people who were unpopular in HS moved on to become successful in their careers. That is something they could control, and worked hard to be successful in it!

I was a floater in HS, hung out with popular and unpopular kids. I liked everyone and everyone liked me. It is good because I can kind of see the trends everyone followed because I stay in touch with a lot of them. Not to say everyone who was unpopular turned out to be successful, but I believe it gave a majority of them a drive that the popular kids didn't need to have at the time.

I think you'll be alright, just focus on the things that mattered. Because, like someone said previously, in the long run... none of it matters but the grades you made! Those are the things that get you into the good schools :)

Answer 3

If you live in the past, it will trash you.

HS is meaningless in the long run.

If it makes you feel better, a good portion of those "popular kids" will grow up to be the biggest losers on the block with no life except to plan reunions.

Answer 4

ollie im sorry but its so sad i cant say it butt i will  

it stick with you for the  rest of your LIFE  mwhaha

Answer 5

Just wait until youre older. In a few years or so. Most of the popular ones who asked you  "why are you such a loser" would be asking you "would you like fries with that"

Answer 6

Being popular in high school generally means you're a "Crowd pleaser".

It depends on the depth of the experiences you went through during high school.

And of course, there are those who had a great time in high school but spent their lives in abject misery afterwards.

Answer 7

i was never popular, EVER, i had friends who were nerds or weird. It didnt bother me after i left because after i left, i didnt know them anymore and they never were important.

The popular group in my school, are probably failures by now and knocked up since they were stupid.  

Answer 8

it's okay because i can live peacefully without anyone watching my steps.....

Answer 9

high school wont matter too much

chances are in about 5 years youll forget probly almost everybody

Answer 10

No it doesn't the drama  should end as soon as you receive your diploma. It is what you do after high school that affects your life. It is ok to bring up some good times during reunions, but if some jerk off, talks about how awesome he was and better he was than you and rubs stuff in your face bout how popular he was, then that a*****e needs to grow up. I mean you are supposed to have fun during high school. Just b/c you are popular doesnt mean it is exactly good news. I mean some girls can be popular like being a s**t, everyone knows her as being easy but not everyone worships her and becomes a friend of hers. Things like that can be affective b/c she can get pregnant or diseased for putting out to every guy.  So to make a long story short: Unless You did something very drastic during high school to become popular, popularity does not affect your life, but it is what you do after high school  that affects your life.

Answer 11

They really do not matter after high school. you'll be surprised by what happens to the 'popular' kids after high school.  Really dont let this worry you. I've found that 9 times out of 10 its the 'unpopular' kids that get on better in life. Be yourself and dont worry what others think.

Answer 12

Omg, it SO doesn't matter!

I would really love to share with you my viewpoint on that, because i was just like you, and now when i look back, seriously, the attitudes and viewpoints held in high school  are so narrow, small - minded and a silly world of it's own.

now i understand, why some parents, or much older ppl can't understand or remember younger ppl's "obsession" with their "world" in high school.

besides, theres such a thing as late blooming. i think it having your blooming time in your early 20's and young adult life is much cooler,if you didn't "have" it in your teens.

but to cap it up, so called "cool" and "popular" pppl in my high school, who made fun of me cuz i studied or various other superficial reasons, hello what are they doing!?! they're just bumming around confused, and reality finally hit them that in the REAL world, you gotta earn your respect or you're just a joke otherwise. now i'm the one laughing :P

high school hasn't affected me at all. i  find at university theres much diversity and acceptance of different personalities, partly because ppl grow up and realize differences are normal and not "uncool."

it doesn't stick with you for the rest of your life, because you learn that small minded mindsets and ignorant views affect those people in the way they live their lives, and affects what they get because everything comes from your mind. think about it, if you're racist or always angry, aside from the frustration you may cause others, you frustrate yourself ultimately cuz you live ur own anger everyday. way to live your life. you would also attract similar minded ppl who hold similar attitudes or temperament, so if you're someone who lacks respect, ur gonna bond  better with others the same way. and when tough times come in friendships, those ppl are gonna cop you more c**p cuz they lack respect for ppl too.

small minded views and ignorant attitudes are just that. it doesn't earn you much virtue as a person anyway, and doesnt do your karma good :P

i'm 19 btw...dw bout it okay? in short, you learn to look back and really just see it as high school, an institution thats it.

life, or reality only starts after it!!

Answer 13

Back in  high school I was bullied by both guys and girls. I had a crappy home life and I'm sure that's what made it worse bc my parents were also trashing me and I had no one to turn to.

I've become a hard@ss, stronger in person and don't put up with any cr@p from anyone. It's made me a little less sympathetic when I hear people complain about how miserable they are bc they have no idea.

These same people, who were the popular kids back then are actually the losers in life. One of the guys I know is a janitor and dates high schoolers bc that's all his brain can handle. The other ones are at the bar still in their high school jackets talking of their past.

Myself I've moved on, did not go to the reunion and I'm secure in who I am.

You'll find when you get older that those people who were popular, needed to be popular bc it was the only way you liked yourself where as someone like myself learned who I really was and altho I wasn't liked back then, I can at least sleep at night.

Answer 14

I guess it depends on the person.  

Answer 15

Really it's two different questions.

Yes, it sticks with you for the rest of your life. If you're oriented to the success in H.S., - then that H.S. environment does not continue too much after 30.

But everybody has a time for their life. My late teens were worthless. Only after 25 did I come into my own.