How late should I allow my 15 year old daughter to stay out until?

Question

My 15 year old daughter says I treat her like a baby cos all her mates stay out later than her.If she's goung somewhere specific ie gig, U18's club she can stay late as long as we pick her up. At the moment she has to be in 9.30 school nights and 10.00 Fri and Sat nights. Some of her friends stay out until midnight. Also she's the only one not allowed to drink and she feels left out. I wont let her drink vodka with her friends .Am I too strict or are other parents too soft?

Answer 1

I say 10 at the latest any night!

Answer 2

Other parents may be a bit soft. You should raise her as you feel she should be raised. My parents were a bit tougher on me and I turned out way better than alot of my friends because of it.

Answer 3

one the week night she should come home around 10 and then ine the week ends around 11, let her drink when she is aroung u, not with frends

Answer 4

She is 15!! You have to lay down the law, she may not thank you now for keeping her on the straight and narrow, but she will once she understands the dangers out there

Answer 5

i would say 10pm only a bit later if weekends as she will have schooling throught the week

Answer 6

I think you are bang on! Stick to your guns on this one. Just cause other parents let their kids stay out later doesn't mean you should. I grew up in a home with strict curfew and I had the same arguments as your daughter does. If you feel she has earned the responsibility to stay out slightly later, then give her some latitude but if you think its a bad idea, keep the status quo. Drinking at that age is hard to stop when she is out but if she comes home stinking of booze, I would drop the hammer and start taking away privileges.

Answer 7

Your daughter shouldn't be drinking at 15, so stay firm with that point. Don't allow it. Your curfew sounds perfectly fine to me, but maybe allow a little flexibility sometimes. For example, if there's a concert she wants to go to but it ends later...allow it. But not all the time. Just if she's behaved well, or something.

Answer 8

Around the age of 14 my mum was very lax with where I could go and with whom (guess she had other things on her mind). Although I was okay, I later felt unloved and that she didn't care for my well being.

She'll appreciate it when she's older.

Answer 9

Your a good parent, why does she NEED to drink at 15 ?

I was no saint and started drinking socially at 16 (once a week), but if I knew what I knew now, I would not have bothered and I will try and advise my baby boy when he gets to that age to take care of his body more !

Answer 10

You are doing right. Alot of parents are more laxed, but kids are getting pregnant and other issues. Just tell her Yeah and those are probably the kids that will be knocked up.

Answer 11

HI, im 15 too and my parents let me stay out till 12 but only on weekends not during school i have to be in by 800 or befor dark if i were a parent  i would let the leash out and a lil and if she mess's up then take away her privlages or w/e she likes to do.. i dont know if it helps but yeah if i were in a position like that depending on how the have shown responsibilty before would be what my disition was based on =] i hope it helps... i know im just a kid but im kinda smart... i think... lol

Answer 12

That's WAY too early, if you don't give them more room then they'll snap and may do somethings that you'll regret and they'll regret. So give her wiggle room. I'm 14 and I have friends who's parents did the same thing as you and they are now eithe pregnnt or not virgins. So give them a little room and extend her time till 10 on school nights ad 12 Monday and Saturday that will make it better, trust em that's mine and I'm still a virgin.

Answer 13

you should let her decide her curfew then talk it into a sensible time, it'll make her feel responsible.. let her drink..just teach her safety and everything! good luck!

Answer 14

I would let her stay out until 9:45 on weekdays and 10:30 on weekends.I think you are a good parent not letting her drink and responsible parent because you pick her up only.

Answer 15

OMG...Are you serious, DOnt let her drink please..My mom was an alcoholic and let me drink when I was 15, It ruined my life, I became a full blown alcoholic by the time I  was 24 because I was never taught the dangers of drinking, I thought it was all ok, I nearly died from the alcohol, besides all the other problems it came with, Please educate her, Im sure that she will drink sometime, You can not avoid her drinking underage but at least educate her and DO NOT PLX OFFer it to her, I have been sober for 5 years, and life is good now...

ALso my 14 year has a 9 o clock curfew, when she turns 15 it will be 10..

PlZ consider what I said plz..

Answer 16

Depends on the town's curfew for minors.  You have to follow that.  I was allowed to stay out until 10 on the weekends but school nights is 8pm.  She has it better then I did.

Answer 17

930-1000 on a school night, and 1030 on weekends thats resnable i think...and i think its good that you dont let her drink vodka she's only 15 not 18!! x

Answer 18

I live in America and the drinking age is 21 so I dont find you being strict on that because most kids arent responsible enough to handle alcohol but as far as the curfew is concerned I would increase it to midnight on Friday and Saturday until she does something to lose your trust. Tell her its a privilege and the first time she messes up then you are goin to change the curfew back to ten

Answer 19

i would let her stay out till 10:30 on weekends but 9:30 is the right time during school year. I would not let her drink either.

Answer 20

Well, I certainly would not allow her to drink alcohol at all at this young age, but on Friday and Saturday nights I would let her out a little longer (11.30 - to be sure she's back at midnight) and I would not allow to let her out during the week when she has to go to school. Furthermore, the "going out's" would be completely suppressed for a while if her school results were bad. Nowadays lots of parents want to be the "pals" of their children and they let them do anything. This is not good, even at 15, the children need some authority and the parents have to show them the way it goes. I know it is very difficult with a 15 years old but you have to discuss the matter with her and act consequently.

Answer 21

I'm fourteen and my dad lets me stay out until eleven,

:D

My nine year old sisters curfew is nine thirty.

>:]

Answer 22

its good that u worry about your daughter. and one day in the future, shes gonna look bak at the past and thank u for being sucha  good mother and not letting her get carried away. youre doin the best for her and yourself, but she doesnt understand that yet.

Answer 23

10.00 is fine as for the drinking let her drink but only when she at home so you can control how much she has. But if you say its ok to drink with her friends she will get smashed.

Answer 24

The other parents are too soft and their kids are going to end up in hospital or in jail.  I think maybe 11pm at week nights, but 9:30 is OK for a school night....

Answer 25

i think 9.pm is late enough as she has school the next day.i dont think you are being soft she is too young to drink alcohol and you are being a responsible parent.if the other parents let their kids drink thats their lookout and if their child gets caught by the police they will be liable,stick to your guns you are the parent and a good one from the sound of things.

Answer 26

Other parents way to soft-if you slide now she will get  worse-but in the long run she will be glad you were this way-my child started just staying out and not calling-so i cut her off and kicked her out-now she wishes she would listened-parents dont=friends

Answer 27

10:30 and as late as they want on fri ans sat remember teenagers stay up late and sleep in

Answer 28

That's too strict in my opinion.

My sister whom is 43 lets her daughter drink and go out, kids usually turn rebellious when their parents are overprotective but since I'm not an adult yet, I'm a teenager & I would of love if my parents let me do a lot of stuff..

Well it's okay to drink a little bit, but staying during midnight is fine too.

Just don't let her get used to that all the time.

Answer 29

Your guidelines are right on target. the other parents are definitely too soft. i wasn't allowed to ride in a car with anyone until i could drive. at least not another teenager, just if their parents were taking us somewhere. how is she going all these places. where can she be at that time of night anyway, at that age? you could even be a little stricter with the rules and it would still be okay.

Answer 30

I say you are one of the few still being a parent. 9 school nights latest and on the weekends it depends on what they are doing, if they are somewhere movies or something then midnight and pick her up but I would say 10 if not. There is no need fo rher to be out all night, friends or not. Keep it up...good to see someone is still being a parent. I wouldn't let her drink either...

Answer 31

your right not to let her drink shes way to young. Agree to let her stay out until 11:30 on a saturday night if she promises you to come home eary on the week day nights and there is no drinking involved.

:)good luck:)