How likely is a marriage to last if the girl is 18 and the guy is 23 when they get married?

Question

My sister is 17 right now but she will turn 18 in April, she has been with the same guy since she was 15 they have been dating a year and a half as of right now. They seem to get along really good....But there planning on a marriage?

Answer 1

Depends on the maturity level of each person.  My wife and I got married at 20 (me) and 18 (her).  23 years later we are doing great.

However, we put a lot of faith in God, attend church weekly, and hold our vows to each other as a life long commitment.  We simply don't believe in divorce.  If this is not you, then you need to wait.

Answer 2

Bad Bad Bad! Getting married young is never good because later on down the road you will wonder what if. You start to think about all the things you never did. This is not the movies not everything ends with a happy ending. sorry to sound this way but hey this is life. Ask them this. How will they live? Where will they live? What will they do when kids come?  getting along good is great but when you live together ALONE. thats a whole another ball game

Answer 3

Fine, everyone has ups and downs and needs to grow a little before they marry but staying together is great, wouldn't advise marriage for a few more years. I got with my boyfriend when I was 18 and we still together, he was 22, now I'm 26 and he's 30, thats 8 years so far, and yes we married recently and have a 1 yr old, so it can work, but be advised loads of ups and downs when you're young and still growing mentally.

Answer 4

hes a pedophile

Answer 5

The age difference isn't that bad, but 18 is too young.

Answer 6

They are WAY too young to get married.  They need to wait until they are adults.  Many, many changes happen between the ages of 18 and 25.  They both need to grow as adults first, learn who they really are, and then decide whether then want to make a lifetime commitment to each other.  And maybe they will - stranger things have happened.  But they are both much too young, especially your sister, to make that kind of commitment right now.

Answer 7

That's a dumb question only because age has nothing to do with. It all depends on how much you love each other and how much you Desiree to be with each other and how far you both will go to keep it that way.

Answer 8

i think it depends upon the couple because everyone is different. that being said they are pretty young to be think about a serious commitment like that .

Answer 9

not a good chance of the marriage lasting.  i am not a fan of couples that young getting married.  especially when one party is 18.  an 18 year old hardly knows how to be a grown up, let alone a wife.  she will grow to resent this guy for not letting her experience her youth.  after all, while all of her friends are partying and getting drunk, she will be a wife with a few kids.  girls like that, get around the age of 30, and end up getting divorced and going wild.  you will usually find them at hotel bars, hitting on 22 year old guys.

Answer 10

it depends that how mature they are,

some times ppl acting immature and argue and fight on so tiny lil details and make life imposible and then they  divorce!!!

i think they need to see if they are realy ready for it

marriage need a real responsibility and care and it shud be on and off

they shud promise to take care of each other in evry situation and what ever happens, but sadly these days  young ppl are  not that kind,

but i hope them luck

Answer 11

most people are about that far apart when theyre married...but maybe she should move in with him, date hi a little longer, like a Mock mairrage.

Then they can decide, maybe after another year.

of course, thats an opinion. my friends 15 and dating an 18 year old girl, so...

Answer 12

It has nothing to do with age...it's a matter of maturity.

Answer 13

Not good. most couples under the age of 24 break up. i think its 60% of those couples end up divorced, so i wouldnt count on it to last long, but then again maybe they are ment for each other who knows.

Answer 14

lessee...she was 18, I was 20..four kids and 27 years together, still BFF. My plan... put the other partner's interests first and do what's best for them, then they do likewise. Works like a charm. Cultivate maturity, give up jealousy.  

Answer 15

Not all young relationships end badly. My auntie and uncle have been together since they were 15/16 and they have to kids and are now both around 40. So it could last.

Answer 16

As likely as any other marriage. If they love each other and vow to make things work, they'll be great. If either of them chose to do things that will cause a break up or any kind of problem between then, there will be problems they may not feel they can fix. It's up to them.  

Answer 17

Very good chance if she is kinky 5 to 7 times a week

Answer 18

Not likely. She is living in fantasy land or a chick flick. He just wants to make her happy. She will probably have a baby immediately trying to make the picture perfect family. She will resent him for going out with his friends all the time. They will get divorced after they have their second baby (they had to "fix" the marriage)

Answer 19

It can work. They have been together a while now so it does not seem like it is something that they are rushing into. If they have been together this long and there is no lies or deception on either one of their parts, then maybe it is true love and all they need is your support. If it works out for them then be happy for them and if it does not then just be supportive to your sister she will need you more then than she needs you know worrying about something that does not concern you,

Answer 20

dont do it...its going to end....it just is.  

Answer 21

They may make it, but there are many, many obstacles in their path that will make that commitment extremely challenging. As other posters have mentioned, both parties maturity has a lot to do with it.

Other things that may play a factor--

1) What sort of home life did each come from? Is there a pattern of women/men marrying young, and staying married, or are both sets of parents divorced, dad or mom a "player", etc? Not that every marriage where one or both come from broken homes is doomed to failure, but it does stack the odds against them. Conversely, when both come from stable homes where successful marriages were modeled, they stand a better chance at being successful at marriage themselves.

2) Does your sister plan to go to college? Waking through the challenges of college while at the same time maneuvering the waters of the first couple years of marriage is a juggling act for anyone, let alone when one or both partners are so young. And if she plans to put off college for a few years, there's a higher chance, a few years will come and go, a baby or two will be introduced, and it'll be that much longer before she goes back to school. They would be better off waiting until she gets through school, and see where things are at that point.

3) Is he financially stable and secure in the direction he wants his life to go? If he's still flipping burgers or waiting tables at 23, and she is basically just out of high school, in this day and age the financial stresses will soon catch up to them.

4) Are both of them willing to take a true, good look at the obstacles they face in addition to the "good" things they have? They are both just young enough that they may be in love with the ideal of marriage, but have no real idea of what marriage is really all about. Premarital counseling with a trusted spiritual adviser (or trained counselor if they have no faith-background) would be a very good idea. (Premarital counseling to some degree is a good idea for most marriage-minded couples, regardless of their age and life experiences.)  

Answer 22

Well, my brother was 22 and his wife was 18 when they got married and she wasn't ready to mature so they divorced before a year. If you marry right out of high school, you'll always feel like you didn't live your life before you dove in. Regrets, lots of regrets. when your friends are running off to college and having fun partying, and your sitting at home cooking dinner and cleaning up after you and your husband, it gets really depressing. She WILL regret her decision. I don't know if it'll last or not but she'll definitely be living with regrets. I don't think that's a very healthy marriage myself. btw, i'm 22 and my husband is 27. we started dating when i was 19 and got married two months ago after living together for 2 years. I was in college and lived my partying life to the fullest... I have no regrets. Good luck to her and her decision.  

Answer 23

My best friend was married at 18 and her husband was 23. They are doing really well. They have a big house with 3 kids and one on the way. She seems so happy and sometimes I can't help myself but to wish I was her. I think if she really love this guy and feel that he can provide for her, then she should do it. So many people look at marriage like its a bad thing and it really not. Tell her don't based her decision on other people experience, but find out for her self because everybody relationship is not the same. Good luck and best wishes

Answer 24

It all depends.

if they are willing to stick together,if they are willing to always be apart of eachothers lives.

my grandparents were 11yrs apart and they have lasted

50yrs, with 4 children.

if they truely love eachother and want to make it work, then if should work.

but they need to try hard. and realize when things

go wrong, not to give up on making them right.

personally age shouldnt matter...unless your like 6 and 30 :S