How long before engagement?

Question

Me and my BF have been together for 8 months, and we are in love. We are both going to be sophomores in college. It has been going really well, we've never even had a fight. My question is, is it normal that I am wanting him to propose? This is my first boyfriend, but i don't believe in soulmates. I just really love him, and I want to be with him forever and I think we could have a successful marriage. Is it crazy that I'm hoping for him to propose? He's never given any sign that he will, but he has mentioned several times that a lot of his friends are getting married from high school. He says it in a "OMG we're so grown up where did the time go" way and not in a "they are crazy" way. What do you think?

Answer 1

8 months isn't very long...so i would wait another year a two.  but if you are curious where he stands then talk to him about it.  my bf and i knew the first month we were dating we wanted to get married but there is no need to rush into anything so now we have been together over 3 yrs and are still very happy and in love.  and i know he's been looking for a ring for quite some time now.  

Answer 2

It's way too soon. You need to be dating a year and a half to two years. No harm in waiting - then you are sure.

Answer 3

While it is completely normal for you to want a proposal, I think you know in your heart that this is much too early for an actual proposal.

Both of you need to complete your educations and start your careers before marriage.  You know this.

I think the very earliest you two should consider engagement is toward the end of your senior year (near graduation time).  Then work at your careers for a year, to save money for wedding and household expenses.  Then wed.

Don't rush things.  I think if you rush things, you will regret it in the future.    

For now?  Just enjoy your time together.

Answer 4

I hope you are planning to wait for that proposal for a long time.  It's normal to be thinking about this kind of stuff in a newer relationship, it shows you really do think about the future with him.  The fact that you haven't had a fight yet is a reason NOT to get engaged yet.  Just because you haven't you haven't fought yet doesn't mean you never will, and fighting with someone is an important way to learn about them (maybe he is a total immature a**hole when he doesn't get his way - that's important to know).

My (now) fiance and I didn't have our first real fight until almost 2 years into our relationship.  It was an important step, we learned how to deal with our issue, and we haven't really had a big fight since.  No good couple *never* fights.  If you don't then you aren't telling each other everything you should.  That being said, couples that fight all the time really shouldn't be together because that's no way to live!

I know after about a year I knew I wanted to marry my BF (now fiance) but it's was totally up to him to propose because guys take a bit longer to be ready for a big step like that.  after 3 years and 9 months though ... he proposed in the most unforgettably romantic way, it was perfect and the timing was too.

You can fantasize all you want (that's the fun part) but don't put time limits or pressure on it, that will just make you both miserable.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I knew that my man was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with just after we started dating. After about 4 months I started hoping that he would propose but I also thought that I hope he doesn't propose until we have been together for at least 2 years - yeah it doesn't make sense.

He waited until we had been together for just over three years.

Anyway I knew he was the one but it's always best to make sure and the best way to make sure is to have a couple of years in each others lives so that you get to know each other and get use to the bad habits before you sign up to be together for ever.

Just wait for the right moment. If it'll happen well..it'll happen

Answer 6

I should say that's not a long time at all, but who am I to talk?

I got engaged a month an a half after we started dating, and got married three days after that!

It all depends, just remember, it'll be a decision you'll have to live with for the rest of your life...  

Answer 7

eh.. thats hard to tell. but hey you could propose, theres nothing wrong with that. although i do kinda agree with the guy proposing.