How long before they split up?

Question

My boyfriend of over 2 years was starting his divorce process (they both had lawyers) when wife found out about us. She went nuts and now they are in therapy and he says he's afraid to leave his children. Why does she want to keep him? How long will they last?

Answer 1

they won't split up.  she is too afraid of being on her own financially or emotionally.

or...   he is lying to you and the wife does not know about you.    There are plenty of fish in the sea, you don't need to mess around with one that is married.

Answer 2

Am I understanding this correctly? Were and are you having an affair with a married man?

Why does she want to keep him? Ummm...I don't know. Maybe because they're MARRIED and a have a FAMILY and a life together. Are you an idiot?

Answer 3

thats a tough call. i think its terrible when a family gets torn apart. maybe they re-discovered what they loved about the other person?  

Answer 4

This is a difficult one hun and my heart really goes out to you, if they had started divorce proceedings then they obviously were ready to call it quits on this relationship.

By starting therapy after she found out about you would say to me she doesn't want him but she also is not ready to give him up to another.

I wouldn't say it would last that much longer but the sad part is you never know....... Sorry I couldn't be more help xx

Answer 5

shes a jealous b..tch! and he cant be too good of a guy if he went back with her.

Answer 6

difficult to say

Answer 7

Well honey it has been over 2 years... If it is not done by now it probably wont happen, especially not for your sake.... I say leave him and get a new one...

To answer why she want to keep him is because of a combination of reasons!

1. She knows that another woman is involved! Women can and will be vindictive and down right rude...

2. Because she realized what she had and does not want to lose that to another woman.

3. She is a B****

Answer 8

Forever.

Why are you cheating with a married dad?

Hurting his children, his wife, making yourself cheap.

Ever think of taking time off from the drama, taking a good look at yourself and doing a values makeover.

Someone I knew had an affair with a married man she met at church, who then divorced his wife, tearing the teen daughters apart, only to divorce two years later.

Of course his wife "went nuts" when her husband broke up everyone's world to be with this "girlfriend". You're "going nuts" now because you see he's going back to his family.

Do the right thing. Move on.

Answer 9

do your self a favor and get out.

Answer 10

They will never split. Face it, you were used.

Answer 11

I certainly hope you weren't with a man who was still commited to his wife.  Was their relationship already over when you started dating?

Seriously, if they have kids and are trying to work it out, leave him alone!

Answer 12

She only wants him coz you have him, hes probably liking the idea of two women wanting him too :( sadly tis a mans fantasy to want 2 women, i would talk to her like a adult.

Answer 13

Don't get attached to married men! Especially those with children. He will probably try to work it out with her, and I know that's not what you want to hear but it's the truth. She wants to keep him because they fell in love and had children together. The last thing either of them want to do is put their children into that difficult situation.  

Answer 14

The odds / statistics are AGAINST you.  You will be lucky if he leaves her but even baring that, the vast majority of men that "cheat" eventually dump the woman they were cheating with (over 75% I believe).  Even if the relationship didn't fall apart before it materialized into something further, I have to ask "Why are you so sure he wouldn't cheat on YOU?  He did it before, not a great track record".  In this you don't sound very intelligent.  Move on, go find another guy.

Answer 15

The first mistake was getting involved with someone who had unfinished business. My advice to all is stay clear of someone going through a divorce; even more so when there are children involved. No matter how "ready for another relationship" this person appears to be, take caution. There's ALWAYS a chance for them to want to work out their differences, etc.

Answer 16

They will try to work it out and who knows how long it will last?  I suggest seeking company elsewhere for now.

Answer 17

She wants to keep him since you are there.  It is almost like an Olympic competition in a way..

Answer 18

You're a homewrecker I hope he cheats on you

Answer 19

If he is going to therapy with her it sounds like he is serious about working his marriage out. I would back off and leave them to it. There are children involved here. Much as it may hurt you their needs are greater than yours. She wants to keep him because she still loves him! It was foolish of you to get involved with a married man, surely you must have known it would end like this? Next time find a man who is free to love you without any excess baggage.

Answer 20

Doesn't matter how long it will last.

That's why they always say to wait until the divorce is final.

Answer 21

Alot longer than you hoped for. Break it off!  when kids are involved, the girlfriend will lose.

Answer 22

NEVER FORGET (caps are intended):

   If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you.

Stay away from him.  He is immature and manipulative as shown by the fact that he would like to eat his cake and keep it as well.

Answer 23

He may never leave her. If they are married and want to work it out then you need to move on and respect that. I have to say it is kind of trashy to sleep with a married man anyways(especially with kids involved) and it is messed up on his part to. But maybe the wife can forgive him and maybe she wants it to work and so does he.