How long before you moved on after being dumped? Let see what kind of feed back we get.?

Question

How long did it take before you decided to move on after a break up. Say the relationship you was in you was together over 2 years. That person wants you to put your relationship on hold and you feel that they got you there just in case. You are the one that was dumped. When did you decide to end it and what happened. Did they fight for you or did they just went on there way? I hear that the dumper realizes that they made a big mistakes down the road and tries to get you back. Has this happen and if so what you do and how it end up. All I know is that I am very angry and full of bitterness. One time or another we have chased someone we loved deeply and when you come to that point in next relationship that we don't want to go down that path again giving that person time to think on what they want to do. Putting your life on hold, until they disappoint you. Tell us your story and what the out come was. This is for married and not married people.

Answer 1

Took me less than 24 hours. Plenty of fish in the sea. Don't rush into another relationship, just go out and have fun-no strings attached.

Answer 2

To be "dumped" is VERY sad.  No one is going to tell you it's NOT; except sadistic people, maybe.  It hurts A LOT.  But once you ARE dumped, you need to start the "HEALING" process right away by allowing yourself to grieve.  It's natural.  Just like the death of someone you've cared deeply for, so is the death of a relationship worthy of that process.  In fact. . .I'd say it's a "moral imperative".  

What you DON'T want to do is go into the NEXT relationship with "emotional baggage".  The NEW person you will meet DOESN'T deserve the "negativity" from your old relationship.  They'll be NEW, EXCITING, AND EAGER to please.  So DON'T make them pay for the SINS/ANGER/RESENTMENT/HURT your old "flame" caused you.  If you DO. . .you WILL get dumped. . .and should be dumped. . .again.  I wouldn't like it.  NEITHER WOULD YOU!  

Pick yourself up!  Shake yourself off! And start all over again.  Healing DOES occur!  And SOMEONE out there DOES want you!  They're thinking the SAME THING ABOUT THEIR LIFE!  You just need to allow yourself to cross their path!

Now. . .it's a NEW day!  GO MAKE THAT HAPPEN!

Good luck to you!  You sound like a nice person!  The "dumb-***" you were with before WILL . . .one day. . .know that!  BUT DON'T GO BACK TO THEM!

Answer 3

when i was with one of my ex's, i was so happy, i thought i'd found the one who i was going to spend the rest of my life with, i was only young but i was mature for my age i was always told. he was 4 years older than me and he really looked after me. he got himself involved with new friends and then started to take drugs, i didn't think much of it as everyone is doing drugs lately but then he started being horrible, i still thought nothing of it, i loved him and he'd been there for me so long and i just wanted it to last forever; one night, he came to mine from being out with his friends and he started shouting at me for nothing, he then hit me, sevral times, i was only young and i didn't know what to do, he then just left. i rang him and begged him to come back, i didn't want to lose him, i felt so alone; it went on for days, everyday he'd hit me, usually in the ribs so no-one could see the marks he left me. i finally told someone and they made me leave him and that day, i realised, he didn't love me, you can't do what he done to me if he loved me. we had a break and he come back to me, said he was sorry and he had changed, i still wasn't completely over him so i got back with him, a week or so into the relationship, he hit me again but this time he knocked me over when hitting me and i fell to the floor, hitting my head and cutting it open; i got out of the relationship straight away. near christmas time, he asked me to get back with him, got his friends telling me he changed, obviously there was no-way i was going to believe it and he told me that if i never went back to him, he'd kill himself christmas day; obviously, this got my attention but my friends told me it was a mind game and not to fall for it; so of course, he ruined my christmas as i was so worried but he never killed himself that day, so i was angry as my friends were right, he ruined my day for nothing! but i was happy he never killed himself. well new years eve come and i was really to party the night away, but there was my ex, saying he'd kill himself if i never seen him and spoke to him but i thought ***** that, i'm going to enjoy this night and i ignored him; then to wake up 01.01.07 to hear that he had been found dead - that broke my heart. he wanted me back but i chose to ignore; i felt bad for months but he hurt me and i shouldn't of had to deal with that pain any longer.

it goes to show what people would do for the people they love; i still think to this day that maybe he was the only person who loved me as he would die for me, he wanted me so much that when he couldn't have me, he felt he couldn't go on any longer and he had to die.

i feel like that about my recent ex, i feel like i can't go on anymore because he has moved on and i'm still in love with him. i think about what i went through with my ex that died and to how my ex is acting now, not realising how much he is hurting me but now i realise, how much i was hurting my ex for him to kill himself.

life is a game and you need to play it correct, make the right moves and don't get caught up in loads of mess, be calm, don't be stressed, be sure to pass the test, stand your ground and don't let others put you to the test - something i now live by.

Answer 4

Time had not passed yet.

And I was moving on.

Answer 5

Yes. I got dumped - she said we need time apart. She got a bf during the time apart, so I got a gf, which led to her getting kinda jealous which led to some awesome pre-divorce s*x. We didn't get back together though. I stayed with the gf, who doesn't know about the divorce s*x. I'm not crazy.  

Answer 6

if you really loved the person, never.

you will always remember the amazing times you had together and you just have to find someone even better to distract you from your memories of past relationships.

Answer 7

took about 14 months to fully heal and just come to terms with being happy with who i was

Answer 8

humm...took me more then a year to feel that i dont hate him anymore. i just plainly am too good for him and to pity him.

Answer 9

I was with someone for few years it took about a week to get over. She said i was not empathetic.  I guess thats why it only took a week

Answer 10

If your mate dumps you, you cry for a day and move on.