How long can you hold a grude?

Question

I am so pissed at some of the people in my life right now, that I will remember being pissed in the next life! UGH

Answer 1

:), Depends on the grude, if it's something like cheating, betraying, dumping....anything affecting my self-esteem, then probably the rest of my life :). But small stuff range from a day to a month, past that, it's life.  

Answer 2

I can't.... too much work for me while they have moved on and are having fun.

I won't... its not fair. honestly I can say once I move on from people it's BUH BYE... away I fly.. and I don't look back.

cause when we are there in the here and now and they are messing with me I warn whats going on in my head, I ask questions.

sometimes, most times because I am so nice about it, it catches people off guard and they are like, FORGIVE ME... And I'm all, yeah did that a long time ago, love you got to go now...

don't hold a grudge, its too much work.. do what you can when you can for as long as you can, do your best working and loving and communicating and when its done? Its done.

Forgive forget and ain't gonna fall for that again.

I can't... I couldn't hold a grudge if I wanted to, it's not fair to me.

cause when you do? they own you... ain't nobody OWN me that I don't allow.

I wish you peace and all the best, give yourself a rest, toss the grudge and don't look back.

Answer 3

depends how bad it was.

Answer 4

They can last for as long as you let them.  My mother can hold a grudge over the most stupid things. She didn't even go to my brothers' wedding over some bs. I can see being mad, but that was just wrong!

Answer 5

Forever if you allow urself to.

You pay the most because the other person may not have all those negative thoughts and feelings so its like pieing in your own pants you are the only one who feels it. Those emotions cause damage to the cells of the body and that is a fact.

Go to God ask him to help you forgive the other person.

Reconciliation is another story.

If you decide to finally reconcile--a summing they were totally at fault-- they need to earn your trust back.

Forgiving doesnt equal being a doormat.