How long did it take for you to fully trust your spouse?

Question

I remember when we first got married, for at least 5 torturous years, every time he was out of my sight I'd be thinking "what if he's cheating on me? where is he? what's he doing?".

It was only after that that I finally dropped it and now I just trust him not to cheat.

What about you?

Answer 1

i trusted him from the beginning of our relationship. he can go where he likes i trust him implicitly

Answer 2

5 tortuous years. That's real nice to say. YOU should have had trust before you married him and that trust should have been built up every single day of your marriage (unless he's cheated on you before).  If you didn't then then you are a little late.  To say that you finally dropped it and just trust him not to cheat is pretty sad and shows that you have an issue with him in general.  Maybe you feel this way because YOU want to cheat or already are, only you know that.  By the way I have been with the same man for over 17 years and NEVER once have i mistrusted him.  

Answer 3

Why would you marry someone you don't trust from the beginning??  

Answer 4

I trust my husband completely and we have been married a little over a month. It will really put pressure and stress on your marriage if you don't trust the person you are married to.

Answer 5

When she said "I Do".

Answer 6

I never really lost trust in my spouse until he gave me reason to lose trust in him.  As soon as he cheated on me and stayed out most of the night I had reason to lose that trust in him.  If he had made a real effort to change those things I would have regained trust in him over time but that did not happen.

Answer 7

It depends in which capacity.

In taking care of children, 100%.

In being there if I'm in trouble, about 95%.

With money? About 75%.

In being faithful if she is in a situation where she thinks she can get away with it, about 50%.

Answer 8

Well i guess it was a little different for me because he was my best friend before we even started dating so i learned who he was as a person and to trust him when we were just friends .

Answer 9

I've fully trusted him since we started dating and became exclusive. Why would I waste my time with someone I can't trust? I'm not a baby-sitter or a mind-reader. If he calls and says, "I have to stay late at work," I believe he's staying late at work. I'm not going to drive by and see if his car is in the parking lot. Frankly, I just couldn't live with that kind of paranoia. It would drive me crazy.

Answer 10

Before we got married. I don't think I could have made the decision to spend the rest of my life with someone I did not trust.

Answer 11

I think it is completely natrual for people to have doubts at times about there spouses. I trust my husband very much and i know he owuld not cheat on me. ALthough there are time i will questions myself but he always resuures me that he would never do that.