How long did it take you to tell your parents you were sexually active?

Question

How long did it take you to tell your parents you were sexually active?

Answer 1

I have a really close relationship with both my Mum & my Dad so I've never really had to tell them. I've been on the pill since I was 12 for medical reasons so they've never really asked. My brother knows I've been sexually active though. But so has he.

Answer 2

I haven't had to... and I don't plan to become sexually active until a good few years anyway.

Answer 3

Well I'm not sexually active yet BUT when I do I'm not going to tell her right away but later in life I will when she cant me out of the house or not allow my guy friends to come over (which there is only 1 guy coming over my house. hes just my friend.. actually ex boyfriend lol...)

Well actually I'll tell my mom whenever I don't talk to the person who took my virginity anymore, for the protection of him and me...  

I'm already on birth control anyways (cause of my really bad periods with really bad cramps not because im sexually active.)

Answer 4

I don't ever intend to tell my parents because I don't plan on having s*x until I'm grown and moved out of the house. If I'm an adult why should I tell my parents about my s*x life?

I'm 17, by the way.

Answer 5

Hmmmm well mine found out when rumors went around that i was pregnant so i just admitted to her that i'd had s*x. . . . (Just for the record i was not pregnant). . . .I guess its one of those thing where you don't tell your parents unless you want to or unless they ask. .

Answer 6

Well I was 18yrs old out of high school and i'm now 22yrs old but i told her like after my first time and she just thought i ws joking until my boyfriend started staying the night then she knew! lol

Answer 7

My parents are the kind that believe that s*x before marrige is evil...blah blah blah. I'm not active yet, but when I am, I'm deffo not telling them.

Answer 8

My mother knew the same day i lost my virginity. i had been on birth control for a year already to regulate my period and we still used a condom too. my mother was easy to talk to.

Answer 9

For me it actually took 7 years.  I lost my virginity at 14, and at that point in my life I didn't have a good relationship with my parents....however I didn't keep it a secret because if something serious happened I think it would have made the situation worse, so I told my sister who was 4 years older than I. Well after many years when we had a good relationship, my mom just asked if I was active with my then boyfriend...I was honest, said no, but then said, I am not a virgin either...

As long as you're being safe, and a responsible adult of some sort knows the situation, then telling your parents doesn't have to be the first option.

Answer 10

I told my mom about an hour later.  He left and I went straight to my mom's room, woke her up, and cried about it for about an hour.  She needed to know, and it changed our relationship, but in a good way.  I never told my dad.  I've been married for over 7 years now, and I'm 25, and I still don't think I could tell my dad.  Obviously he knows, but I wouldn't talk to him about it.

Answer 11

not to long, my mom walked in on us. it was so embarrasing. You should tell them, it will build a stronger relationship between you, trust

Answer 12

I think she suspected that I was, but we never really had a conversation about it, and I never admitted or anything...I started having s*x when I was 15, and when I was 16, I told my mom I was pregnant..which wasn't a very good way for her to find out...

I believe it is important to talk to your parents about s*x, because they will probably try to help you out...I mean I'm sure they won't like it, but they'll have to accept the fact that you're having s*x so they'll be sure that you're being safe...

Answer 13

"Mom?"

"Yes?"

"I'm sexually active"

....

Why WOULD you tell your parents?

Answer 14

Well im 15 and not sexually active but....wen i do do sumthan i wont ever jus come out and tell her. Shell jus figure it out once i get married and have a child one day (no time soon)

She kinda already thinks im tryin 2 anyway so....OMG shed imprison me ;-( lol. And my dad is already talkin about gettin me on Birth Control pills??? I jus said watever

Answer 15

ummh i thik dat yur parents will start 2 ask when you have a b/f there wonder what you guys are doing and i have a good realonship with my mom but i dont think i could ever tell her  shw probaly would be angry or sad well she had me when she was 14 but ill tell you what gose thur theti mind...It may be the most important talk you will ever

have with your child! The "big talk" about s*x should

come early ...........................................

it is never too late! A "preemptive strike" can give your

child a healthy, positive, respectful view of human intimacy

that will stand up to all the garbage that will come from the media

and the peer group. And being able to talk together about THE MOST

intimate subject will make any and every other subject "on limits" between

you and you child.

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Answer 16

She talked to me about it once,

saying that if i was sextualy active She would help me get the right stuff,

but i just yelled at her i wasn't having s*x,

It was REALLY awkward,

then she left me alone.

That was about a year before I actually had s*x for the first time.

But I wasn't using the pill for protection when I had it the first time,

I'm not gonna do that ever agin.

Answer 17

Heya

Well technichly it was 6 months later. But my mum thought i had slept with a past boyfriend when i was 15 (which i hadnt) so she thought i might be at 15 but when i actually was at 16 she found out when i told my mum i had a boyfriend and he was 19, she asked me if i was on b/c and i said yeah and she said good. that was it really , then she started letting me stay at his house (she thought i had only slept with him and one other guy but it was abit more than that) , moved in with him about 3 months later and never looked back , im now 20 weeks pregnant. =] x*x

Answer 18

After the 2nd time I had s*x...I told my mom it was very important I get on birth control. She made the appt the next morning. She told me I could always come talk to her so I did. (she was about to pass out I think but she was fine after)

My dad found out when the Drs. office called and left my mom a message he wasn't supposta get. This was about 2 years later he wasn't happy but I was 18 so he didn't say much.

At that time I was 16. I'm still dating that same guy almost 5 years later.

Answer 19

my dad found out when she found condoms in my room, he didn't speak to me for weeks, but eventully we had a long talk about how all he wants is for me to be happy and safe. i eventully gained his trust back, usually parents are just afraid of you not being their little baby anymore and the  thought  that your getting "close" to someone else scares them.

Answer 20

Just a couple of days after I had lost my virginity.

Me and my mom have an open relationship, and she pretty much guessed it, so I wasn't gonna lie to her about it.

It's not a big deal anyway, she just knows the fact, it's not like we sit and have conversations about my s*x life...

Answer 21

2 hrs after i lost my virginaty

i walked into the liveing room and told them that i was sexeuly active and left .....................

yep its that simple

Answer 22

I honestly think its none of there business unless you are under 16 and you cant physically drive yourself to doctor appointments to get yourself checked out or STD screenings or even to the drugstore to get your birth control pills. If your older then that I honestly dont think they want to know and or would care unless your pregnant and then they would definitely know you were sexually active, but its not their business unless you make it theres.

Answer 23

When I came down the stairs with a pregnancy test in my hand and said "mom i'm worried" she pretty much got the hint. oh and if you're wondering, it was negative. :)

Answer 24

like three years, i think she figured it out when i told her i was pregnant.  but who knows she probably knew before that, we just never talked about it

Answer 25

the moment after i lost my virginity i said " MOM i had s*x and it was great!!! thanks for listening

..............................

dont be dumb why the h**l would you tell your parents.  Ull put them through h**l.

Answer 26

i'm in high school when hormones are raging and i can proudly say um yeah i'm not sexually active! but you know i have a pretty much open relationship with my mother.

i talk to her you know like i would to a friend but i think i wouldn't exactly just go and say, "hey mom, i'm sexually active" b/c to her i'll still be her little girl besides i don't think she would like to know! she trusts me and that's good enough

Answer 27

Well i'm still a virgin, but when i do become sexually active, i don't want to tell them. haha how awkward is that!? I'd rather let them find out on their own. =]

Answer 28

LOL IM 13

but

hmm

not until i tell her i think i want to have kids and i am married and stuff

i mean

kids=s*x

why else should she know

Answer 29

I personally am not and if I were wouldn't tell my parents.

I would only tell them if I wanted birth control or something.

Answer 30

I am 34 and married. Waiting to your an adult will GUARANTEE you do not need to have this discussion with your parents. I do think open communication between parent and child is of the utmost importance.......That said no parent really wants to hear there children are sexually active.

More so of father's regarding their daughters.

ETA:

  Mama Bear   hahahahaha

Answer 31

I never told my parents.  I grew up in a very strict catholic house and it just wasnt talked about.  I used protection and was choosey about my partners.  The key is being safe.