How long do rebound relationships last? Do they ever last?

Question

This is why I ask my guy and I broke up 5 weeks ago and he said he met this person 3 weeks ago, now I'm so confused.........my guy and I were serious, we were together for almost 2 years......I'm so depressed........I want answers but..........none of which make sense to me......this is so confusing.......

Answer 1

its not confusing he obviously has moved on and you must do the same I know it hurts and yes u do get depressed but you must look forward u will find someone better..believe me

Answer 2

First of all, I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Break-ups are incredibly painful for sure. But maybe I can offer you a little comfort in this situation.

It's not at all uncommon for a man to find himself in a new relationship shortly after he has broken up with his girlfriend. You, as his former girlfriend, are probably thinking that the fact that he is already in a new relationship means that he has moved on and is over you, while you, who probably can't even imagine being in a new relationship right now, are still grieving over what you've lost. I'd imagine you're probably wondering right now how he was able to move on so fast, while you are still grieving intensely, and maybe you're even wondering if he really cared for you very much in the first place. If he did, he couldn't have found another woman so quickly, right?

Well, actually, I suspect your former boyfriend isn't doing as well as he makes it seem. It's really very common for men who've just broken up to seek out a "rebound relationship." They do this as a way of comforting themselves and trying to forget the pain they are feeling over the break up. It's their way of coping. But really, they couldn't be doing worse. If you are worried that your boyfriend didn't really care for you very much in the first place, I'd say that this actually means the opposite. I'd bet that he really did care for you a lot, and that's why he found a rebound relationship so quickly. He needed a way to forget his pain and prove to himself that he was going to make it. So he found another woman to help him forget. While seeing him with another woman is very painful for you, rest assured, it actually means he cared for you a LOT. So much that he had to comfort himself in any way he could. His rebound relationship is evidence of the strength of his feelings for you, rather than the reverse.

I know this is small comfort, but at least you know that you don't have to torture yourself by wondering why he moved on so quickly or if he cared for you. Because he really HASN'T moved on. He's just trying to forget. Take heart. You WILL get through this! Hang in there, sweetie! :-)

Answer 3

Yes - they can last.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry your going through a rough time.  2 years is a long time to be with someone.  Rebound relationships don't usually last, but there are always exceptions to the rule.  The first thing to keep in mind is that you have a very valid reason for feeling depressed, confused etc. You need to take time to grieve your loss.  Take good care of yourself.  Then, realize he is going to miss out on someone pretty great.  And, eventually, he'll dump this one for someone else.  : P

Answer 5

DEFINAETLY MY LIFE!!

it can last but only if  he has reall really really strong feelings for this person! i never got over my frst boyfrend who i had been thru so much with and he hasnt either!! it tok me 3 years to actually have strong feelings for another but ill never feel the same way about anyone else. and sometimes you may think its serious until you really get into a serious relationship and thats why people say love is blind!!

if you truly are not over him, get out do something with your friends, im talking from experience you should keep yourself occupied or you will  think too much about him and feel worst everyday!