How long do you have to wait before you give a handjob?

Question

I met a guy online and we have been voice chatting for over 6 months. We met in person a few weeks ago and we are gonna have our 5th date next week. I really like him cause he is a great guy.

On our 4th date, we got into a passionate kiss and I sort of saw that he had an erection. The reason why I wanted to ask a question is, althugh i am 24, i have never had s*x before and i dont think that i am ready to engage myself into a sexual intercourse with him yet.

the thing that i would like to know is, therefore, how to know if i am ready to give him a handjob while making out with him

thanks

Answer 1

LOL are you kidding.

A man can give himself a hand job he doesn't need a woman for that.

Give him oral instead believe me he will enjoy that much more.

Answer 2

If you aren't ready to have s*x with him, then don't do it.

First off, one thing will eventually lead to another. Second, you'll you'd be sending him mixed messages, implying that you're ready to be sexual with him, when you really aren't.

Third, If you do become physically intimate, then you should do it because YOU want it and YOU feel good and ready! Not just to please HIM, or just to "make him like you"..... Does that make sense? s*x and intimacy is something that needs to be shared It needs to go both ways.

Fourth, YOU need to take time to develop a relationship based on respect, trust, commitment, and communication, not just "sexual gratification." I don't think five dates is enough to do that. I don't think you really know as much about this guys character as you think you do. If a man isn't willing to wait, then he's not worth *waiting for.*  

Answer 3

Well, if you do that , you're letting him know that you want to have s*x. Why else would you grab it. So if you're not ready for s*x don't do it. One thing leads to another and then you'll be regretting it. Maybe that's what he like about you, that you don't give it up so fast.

Answer 4

only you know when you are ready to cross that line, if you reach in and grab his **** i'm sure he won't mind.

Answer 5

I'm married and i never given him one even when i was pregnant i refused

Answer 6

If you're not ready for s*x, then don't play with his ugly stick.

If this guy is right for you, he will wait for when you're ready, for everything.

Answer 7

First becareful. Second if you feel like doing it just reach for it, he will let you know if hes up for it and you will know if its what you want to do by how you feel when you go for it. You can always talk to him about this first, but dont rush into anything you may regret, my thoughts are he really likes you and respects if for you to have talked online for soooo long before meeting, so go slow and maybe talk about intimacy first. Good luck~

Answer 8

Don't do it !

Answer 9

Was a handjob part of the deal for you to go out with him a 5th time?

Why do you need to do that?  Why do you have to spoil the fun of having a sexual encounter now, rather than when you're actually with the person you commit to later on.

Once you start doing one thing, it's hard to stop and eventually you'll end up having s*x.  You're giving the message that you want s*x.

I don't get why you kids do this.

I never regretted waiting until I was married to do anything sexual.

Answer 10

If you're asking the question, you are ready.  Question is, is he?  My guess is yes...

Answer 11

first of all, u don't need to ask just do it but i don't think he will be happy with ur hand-job, becuz he already thinking of more than that, u can say mouth job *** job **** jobs, normal thinking of a man about a woman, like u said u r 24y/o so he thinks about much more than u want to give him so be ready for him or this will be ur last handjob with him becuz he will not be on-line again

ciao bella

Answer 12

Personally, I don't like to skip any of the "bases" because if you go right for the genitals you miss some of the fun stuff along the way, and sometimes that's the best part. Once you go to s*x, it's never as fun to just make out. So I would spend at least one date in above-the-waist land before I start going for the sausage. Or here's an idea - if you're uncomfortable making that move, let him be the one to venture into that territory first on you.  And if you want another intermediate step, there's always a well-placed hand outside his pants to know that might be in his future. Anticipation is at least half the fun.