How long does a couple have "dibs" on a wedding/anniversary date?

Question

I've notice a trend of brides who are angry because a sibling or friend selected the same wedding date as they, but A YEAR LATER. The allegation appears to be (1) that the sibling or friend "copied" them; and (2) the injured bride must spend her first anniversary at someone else's wedding (nevermind that it is a friend or loved one).

My question is, is there a monopoly on a wedding date? If someone has a NYE or Valentine's wedding , does that mean that her friends and sibs can't have an NYE or Valentine's wedding the next year? How about the year after that? Does the moratorium extend into perpetuity?

If someone got married on June 6, 1959, are they entitled to be offended when one of their great grandchildren gets married on June 6, 2019?

Answer 1

i wouldn't be offended if someone got married the same day as me!! me and my hubby got married same day as my parents did 30 years ago and my parents were honored that we picked that date!  

Answer 2

That is just silly.

There are only 365 days in a year.   If every bride had to schedule her wedding around the anniversary date of all their friends and relatives, then they would never be able to pick a date without stepping on someones foot.  

If the bride is that offended about spending her anniversary at someone else's wedding, she shouldn't attend the other wedding.  It's as simple as that.

The reality is that when one schedules ANY event, it is going to conflict with something for someone who is invited.

And for that grand parent celebrating their 60th anniversary on the day of the great grandchildren's wedding , I think that would be a WONDERFUL serendipitous event...celebrating a wedding and a 60th anniversary in the family on the same day, just lovely!!

Answer 3

There are no dibs on a date. I've seen some of these questions too and always think the bride is seriously over-reacting.

Muffin said it best.

  

Answer 4

As long as it's not the same year, I don't see the problem!

Answer 5

Well, personally, I am getting married on September 6th, which just happens to be my grandparents 49th wedding anniversary. It wasn't intentional, it just happened to be the only Saturday available in September at the place I wanted to get married at. My grandma in particular is excited about it since my one year wedding anniversary will be on their 50th wedding anniversary.

In my opinion, if people get married on a holiday like NYE or Valentine's Day, they should just expect that their friends or family could also one day get married on that day as well. Sure they might make a fuss about it, but honestly, they don't have to go if they don't like it.  

Answer 6

I was just talking about this with my fiance last night.  How some brides think their wedding (the most important wedding that has or will ever happen in all of history) think they are entitled to a 2.5 year "buffer" of not just other weddings, but anything good/exciting happening in any acquaintances life.

No friends or family can get engaged, have a wedding, get pregnant, or have life-saving organ replacement surgery within a decade of their wedding because if anything nice happens to anyone else in that time then it is their personal vendetta against the bridal couple to ruin their special day.

You must give them a half-year engagement excitement buffer, a year before the wedding buffer, and just to be fair to the precious bride, nothing exciting or life-changing can happen to anyone for a year after the wedding as well.  You wouldn't want to have your good news spoil the thank you card arrival!

I think it's ridiculous how self-centered brides can be about their DAY.  It's a DAY, and it's just a wedding!  Other's people's lives continue to function, the world continues to rotate. People having babies or also getting married or getting engaged isn't a purposeful attempt to ruin the wedding atmosphere, it's just other people's lives happening.

I agree with you completely!  It's just one day of the rest of a bride and grooms life.  You don't hold dibs for decades to come.

Answer 7

No, it's silly of the couple to expect their date to never be used by any other family member, friend or anyone they know.

I wish I could give bridal muffin two thumbs up. :)