How long does it take times to heal ?

Question

This man , which is my ex boyfriend . we broke up it seems already 4 months but I still cant deeply forget him .

I got to recover a little , last time I used to got mad , when he came to talked to me in msn or even moblie messages but now , when he came and talked to me again , I doesnt feel anything ANYMORE , just like Im talking to my normal friend but when I see through his photos and I got to know he already got a girlfriend . I started to got mad again and keep on cursing his girlfriend .

how can I fully recover in everything ? I really hate this feeling . I dont wanna got stuck anymore , he fooled my relationship and he took my virginity , I real hate him but why , when I know he got to couple and I got so angry ? PLEASE HELP ME GET OVER EVERYTHING !

Answer 1

You need time and space.  Do not keep tabs on this man anymore.  Let him be.  To forgive another person, you have to give yourself space from that person.  Do not fuel the flame, by that I mean don't answer his messages anymore and definitely do not look through his pictures.  I am sorry to hear you are going through these rough times but trust me, time heals a lot..not everything, but a lot.  Allow yourself to be the bigger person and forgive him for what he did.  Do not forget what he did to you but just know that that's not what you want and keep that in mind for the next guy so you won't allow the new guy to hurt you the same ways.  Let go of the anger and the hate for your ex and his new girlfriend.  Let them be.  Do not wish anything bad upon them because karma will come right after you.  Just let time heal your pain.  Good luck.

Answer 2

try and find yourself a new bf...promise it will help...always helps me ! find a new love to get over an old one. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 3

Stop hanging out and talking with him.  It takes time to be separated - sometimes short, sometimes long.  Depends.  But you can't "hang out" with him until you are over him; or you'll go through what you're going through.

So don't answer phone messages, txt messages, etc.  Just take a REAL break; not a pretend one.

Answer 4

just try not to think about him or say his name  

Answer 5

Aww, i can understand how you feel.

I think time is a great healer. These days that you are suffering now are the bad times and there is always light at the end of the tunnel so remember that! I was once in your position, and you always learn from failed relationships. It makes you stronger and more cautious the next time round.

I understand you feel regret and sorrow over losing your virginity and all that. But remember that one day you will meet someone who loves you well and will look after you always.

You should avoid thinking about him if you can and ask your friends to take you out shopping or anywhere out of the house so that your mind can be diverted and distracted.

Answer 6

I know this is not the answer you want to hear but time heals a broken heart and in time (approx 1 year) you will find the pain of losing him less and less and hopefully move on to love another. I find if you make yourself busy with things like going out and making friends and enjoying yourself then the pain we be less and less. Take care.