How long into your relationship did you move in with your bf/gf?

Question

My bf and I have been discussing moving in with each other. We've been together for 10 1/2 months but have known each other for 4 years and of course, like everyone says are truly in love with each other. I like to think of myself as a practical person who think of both the positive and negatives and have discussed it all with him. I'm very excited to move in with him and want to 100% but I still get scared. I've heard a bunch of stories where relationship went downhill after moving in with each other.

So my question is - how long into your relationship did you move in with your bf/gf and what's your story? Still going strong, broken up, married??? Anything...

Also - please don't over analyze me being "scared." I get scared about every large decision I make in my life.

Thanks a bunch!

Answer 1

We started dating in October and were living together by January 2nd.  After dating for 15 months we got married.  We both had been divorced before and between the two of us had 4 kids. About six months into our relationship he gained custody of his kiddos and the six of us started living together!   Now we're a family of almost 8 with yours, mine, and ours!  Our latest little bundle of joy is due any day now.  =)  We've been married for almost 4 years and are completely and totally in love.  We just knew with each other.

Answer 2

I would say 5 months...... then we got engagged 6 months after that. I knew he was the one.

Answer 3

Four months after we met and started dating, we moved in together.  A year later we had a child.    Many years later we got married.  We are not happy at the moment.   As a matter of fact, I don't think it will last another three years.

Answer 4

we moved in together about a year and a half after being together....were now married and very happy =) the nice thing about living together before we were married is the fact that we got used to living together and being in each others space all the time and made sure that we could be together and live together forever...so it worked for us!

Answer 5

We moved in after 14 months of dating.  After 2 years of living together, we got engaged. Im glad we tried living together first, its what was right for both of us.  We are getting married next summer.  The positive side was that it was fun and some insight to who they are as a person, because you get to know someone a lot deeper.  Its also nice to know what their habits are, andif they are ones that you can live with. The negative side....I cant really think of one right now...but its good that you are thinking of this seriously and carefully, and being scared is natural.  I guess you will never know if its the right decision unless you try it.  You can however go into this smartly (as you seem like a smart careful thinker)- keep your own bank accounts and each person share the cost of bills, food, etc.  Make your expectations clear from the beginning- if you dont want to be like his mother and have his laundry washed, folded and put away everyday while supper is cooking on the stove, dont do it- or do it together as a couple.  Share chores- in our house we have a "pink job" and "blue job" allocation.  Garbage- blue job.  Mowing the lawn- blue job.  Grocery shopping- pink job.  Cleaning the bathroom- pink job.Folding laundry- blue and pink job.  You get the picture :) Good luck with your decision, you're going to have a lot of fun!

Answer 6

We knoew each other a year before living together, we lived together for three years and then married. We have been married for 14 yeras now and still going strong.

If you are worried that things may go down hill sit down and have serious talk about where both of you want this relationship to go, what is the 5 year plan? if he has no intention of ever getting married then you need to think long and hard if you are happy with that situation and prepared to maybe not get married.

By sorting things out now you are minimising the chance of things going wrong later.

Answer 7

We moved in together 5 weeks after our 1st date. Since that night on, we have been inseperable. We have a fabulous marriage. We are still as happy and as in love as we were when we 1st started dating. We have an incredibly strong and loving relationship. We welcomed our son 9 months ago.

Its been 29 months. And still pure bliss.