How long is to late to have an abortion?

Question

My girlfriend is pregnant and I definetly dont want a kid, I dont think she will give it up for adoption and I think it might be to late for an abortion

Also if I want to have an abortion and she doesnt or if I want to give it up for adoption and she doesnt would I still be forced to pay child support

Answer 1

The legal "too late" for abortions varies from state to state.  Also, I haven't heard of a single case of the father's wishes being taken into consideration legally when it comes to abortion.  Your girlfriend has the right to do whatever she wants to do with the child, whether that be aborting it, keeping it, or giving it up for adoption.  You have no say in the matter.  Bet you wish you'd worn that condom now, huh?

The fact is that you messed up and got her pregnant.  If she so chooses, you will be paying her for the next 18 years.  Welcome to reverse discrimination, where a man has no legal right to decide how something will affect the rest of his life, but a woman does.

Answer 2

The cutoff is usually around 21 to 24 weeks. If your girlfriend wants an abortion, that's her choice. If she doesn't want an abortion, that's her choice too. Stay out of it. It's not your body. Don't even give her a suggestion about what you'd like her to do.

Clearly, you're unprepared for any possible consequence of a pregnancy. If you can't handle the possibility that your girlfriend will get pregnant, don't have s*x or be more responsible about it.

Answer 3

idk and anyways 2 things.. why did you have s*x in the first place if you didn't want to have a kid? and second of all what cruel person would want to abort an innocent child who hasn't even been born yet?!

Answer 4

While I understand that accidents happen, you cannot decide what a women is going to do for her baby if you aren't together.  This is stuff I wish couples would talk about before they have s*x...Sorry to be negative, but I am against abortion because of a sexual mistake..can't change something that was already done...You are going to have to be a man and help her during this pregnancy..You may have to pay child support especially if you are the father...you owe it to this child to be a good dad and to be there for it...to love it and to help it grow and develop...good luck in your decisions.

Answer 5

call kids help phone they will be able to answer your question professionally and help you get the right answer..hope this helps..trust me your girlfriend will regret abortion later in the end...

Answer 6

Well, first of all, you should be saying "how long is too late to murder my unborn child?" Because that's what you're doing. You don't want the child? Should have thought about that before you unzipped your pants. Yes I'm being harsh because you want to kill a child. People who say it's not a child until birth don't understand what LIFE is, and are lucky their parents didn't feel the same way. How about stop trying to find a way to kill your child, and start preparing for his/her arrival.

Answer 7

  Ok, well, abortion is not a viable option. Let me explain why. But first let me tell you there are places that will help her out while she is pregnant and once the baby is born too. They can give her stuff like diapers, baby clothes as well as counseling and information about adoption. Go to OptionLine.org They will be able to tell you the closest care pregnancy center to you is.

So here is why you cannot have her get an abortion If your girlfriend gets an abortion she has a 50% or more chance of dangerous complications. These complications include massive bleeding, death, tears in the uterus or cervix, sterility. She will have  higher chances of getting breast cancer according to many studies.

Women who have abortions carry alot of emotional and mental scars. You do not want to encourage  her to do this. If  she gets an abortion she will eventually regret it and have grief and pain as a result. I do not think you want to cause that pain in her 1) because I hope you care about your girlfriend and don't want to cause her sorrow 2) because I'm sure you don't want her angry with you. So even if you ignore the fact that the abortion could cause physical harm to your girlfriend, you would not want her to to get one because of the emotional dangers.

Now I haven't even started to mention what abortion is, it is actually killing a child. You see as soon as your sperm fertilized her egg a new human being was created, with it's own DNA and everything. By the time your girlfriend knew she was pregnant your babies heart was already beating, and he has a brain too! In an abortion they kill this child who CAN FEEL PAIN so not only is the baby murdered but painfully so. You already are a father whether you planned on it or not, if she has an abortion you will be the father of a dead baby.

Please do not tell your girlfriend to have an abortion, you will also have regrets and emotional pain as a result of an abortion. The following is a quote from a dad who was scared by abortion:

"I was a participant in two abortions with my ex-wife ... it has been six years since the last abortion, nine since the decision for the first one. Every time I see children of the approximate age of the two lost ones, I cry, no matter where. I want to call their names. Their legacy is gone. There beauty unfinished, nullified by a descision to which I agreed."

That is so sad you do not want to be like that years from now. FOr your own sake, your girlfriends, and your child, don't even consider abortion an option, because it's not. Choose life.

Let us know what happens!

I wish your new family of three the best

Answer 8

You play, you pay.  But you already knew that, didn't you?  You're going to have to grow up real quick and realize that you have a child on the way.  Congratulations!  You're going to be a daddy!  And yes, that means child support for the next 18 years.  If you love your girlfriend, get married.  Help her with her pregnancy, and help her buy the supplies and things needed for your child.  Stock up on diapers.

This is your child.  You created the life.  Once you see this child born, you will hold it and never want to let go of your own flesh and blood.  Those big eyes will look up to it's daddy and smile.  Those are moments you will never forget.  A child is a gift from God.  You have been gifted.  Take your child, and be a proud father and raise this child with all the love you can.  This little innocent life will love you back unconditionally and admire you.  

Answer 9

after 12 weeks = 3 months its too late.

but don't force her to do anything she doesnt want. if she keeps it. you need to tell her that you arent ready to be a dad but i mean its ur responsability since you coulda easily wore a condom.

so man up.  

Answer 10

First off men have no say about abortions and if you don't want to be apart of your baby's ife then give up your rights. I respect your honesty and point of view and most likely she will put you on child support and the court will enforce you to pay regardless if you wanted her to abort or not. I suggest you for the future to use protection when having sexual intercourse so things like ooooppppssss pregnancy can be reduced. Abortions are up to 6 months still very risky and a two day procedure. Good luck

Answer 11

if u didnt want a kid.. uhhh i believe there are condoms u could of used... and if she wants to keep it... oh well... u should of used that condom and u should man up and take care of ur responsibilties...and yeah u would have to pay child support..  

Answer 12

yea unless u move to another contry or contient den u gotta pay child support if she takes u to court

Answer 13

Absolutely cannot stand people making judgemental comments on here. It makes me sick. Unless the question clearly asks for an opinion, I just can't understand how people can think they have any use, or right in stating one! I don't believe that ANY of those people know how huge, how difficult, and how PAINFUL the decision was to decide to abort your own child, when 99% of the time, you wouldn't know the first thing about the woman's situation.

Concentrate on your own lives, your own situations and your own children, and leave everyone alone! Your belief that abortion is wrong, is just ONE belief, whereas other people think abortion is a right. Can you not just accept that everyone has different beliefs? You're NEVER going to change the situation, and most of you who go around shouting abortion should be illegal don't seem to realise that abortion has been around since the begin of humanity, there are plenty of natural ways to induce a miscarriage that don't involve a trip to hospital, and they can often cause death.

So anyway, what I'm trying to say, is that I respect all opinions and beliefs, but whether somebody who has had an abortion regrets their choice or not, you seriously cause so much pain to people who may accidently or not stumble upon these questions who have recently had an abortion, so I'm just asking that the judgemental comments stop, because believe me, unless someone has no heart most people feel enough heartbreaking feelings without reading abuse on the internet, even if they stand by the reasons they did it for.

Answer 14

12 weeks.. but abortion is not the answer.... i suggest you try talking her into adoption..... if she does not have a abortion and she does not give it up for adoption, you can be made to pay childsupport as long as you 2 are not living together. In some states and Im not sure which ones, it could be all of them you would have to check for your state, if your girlfriend applies for assistance, medicaid, foodstamps, cash assistance (afdc) she will have to comply and cooperate with childsupport. Adoption is a hard thing to do.. but abortion is even harder. I had a friend went thru this in high school (we're both in our 40's now) and to this day she regrets having the abortion.

You and your gf need to talk about this more. Its not always easy raising a baby, I know I had 3 boys and raised them for 10 years as a single parent. Please think about it, dont do the abortion.. at least if you gave the baby up for adoption when they are old enuff you might be able to be put in contact with them, if thats what you and the child want. Its alot of responsiblity and I hope you make the right choice.. I'm here if you or your gf need someone to talk too...