How long is to long for an engagement?

Question

Is two years a long engagement? We just got engaged on Tuesday and my fiance wants to wait two years, but I want to get married next year. The reason I want to get married sooner is because he is in the process of joining the RCMP and once he is done the training god knows where we will live, so I want to get married while we still live here and are around our families. I think it will be hard to plan a wedding from a different province away from everyone and then have to fly out here for the wedding... anyways is two years long or a good amount of time? Thanks in advance!!

Answer 1

Congratulations on your engagement!

There is no such thing as too long.  It is up to you and your fiance.  It seems like a year is average, but that doesn't mean thats what you have to do.  Its all based on your circumstances and its a decision you two need to make together.

Answer 2

Two years is a long engagement. But it's not "too long". For my personal tastes anything over 3 years to cutting into the too long category, however that is different for each couple. A short engagement is less then a year IMO. And a year seems to be 'normal'.

When I get married to my fiancé we'll have been engaged exactly a two and a half years

Good Luck and Congratulations on the engagement

Answer 3

Congrats! Well, I agree with you! Having it next year makes sense. He'll be away from you once he goes to depot - then, depending where you are now because of distance, first postings can be somewhere far away - what if it's Fort St. John or Yellowknife?

If you've been dating long enough and seriously enough, and are ready to get married, a year engagement is plenty enough time. Usually a couple is engaged just as long as it takes to plan a wedding.

But, on the other hand, it would be pretty cool to have him as a groom in his red serge!!

Some info on marrying an RCMP member -

http://boards.weddingbells.ca/showthread...

http://www.oldcrow.ca/weda.htm

http://www.partypop.com/Forums/Weddings/...

Cool cake topper -

http://www.apictureperfectwedding.com/pp...

Good luck planning!

Answer 4

Since the average wedding usually only takes a year to plan, I don't consider anything lasting longer than a year an a half to be an engagement (especially since the engagement is the time in which the wedding is planned). I totally agree with you in that planning the wedding for next year while still around your families would be the best idea.

Answer 5

Personally I think 2 years is too long. I think a year or less is good. A year gives you lots of time to plan and save for the many things involved if you are having an actual wedding. In my opinion, if you know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, plan just enough time to make wedding arrangements and give family time to arrange to come to it. I think if my husband had asked for it to be 2 years, I would have thought he was "stalling" in case he changed his mind.

Answer 6

You have a good point. I would talk to him about this. If he asked you to marry him he obviously is ready to take that step. If he isn't then he shouldn't have asked you. I'd tell him that the wedding day is more of the brides thing, it is a guy could care less, and you want it on that day. Its going to be special to him, but not as special as it is to you. Good luck Darling! Hope everything is alright.

Answer 7

Two years is fine and knowing the RCMP, you'll be living in a small town in a northern part of the country.  You can still plan your wedding where you are living now and if you do move out of province, well it will be easier to have you two go back to your hometown for the wedding than get everyone to your new home.

Answer 8

Anything OVER 2 years and I start to doubt that a marriage will actually take place. I think we all know of a person or two who has said "I just got engaged...we're planning it for 2012!!!  Two years, while on the long-ish end of the spectrum, isn't outrageous.

Answer 9

get ready to compromise!!! ask him about  a year &a half from now. two yrs seems long rite now, but it will go by so quickly once it gets here. Congrats & good luck!!!

Answer 10

no two years isnt too long..its seems a long time away but it will go quickly- and this way you can still set the date for that year and start planning certain things (venues etc) when he is still here.

We set the date for two years away, it seems forever away to me but we have his family all over seas so we want to give them plenty of notice as well.

Answer 11

I have a 16 year old friend who just got engages, kinda awkward. Not only do i know the relationship wont last until legal marriage age, which is 18.

Shes a total gold digger, but two years is perfect.

Never run into a marriage fast, year also works.  both are fine.

Answer 12

Yes it would be a good thing to get married now while your still around the families.

But then again it might also be good to wait and see if the marriage will last.

Answer 13

There are not rules.  The engagement length is up to you.  I have heard of some engagements that are quick - 2 months and some that are two years.  My engagement was 3 yrs... only because I went away to school and we took our time.   i will be married in 3 wks.  If you are stationed some place far then it will be difficult for family and friends to attend.  Keep that in mind.  Talk about it and think about how you envision the day - if you want a larger wedding then you might think about how challenging it might be for people to travel to where you are...