How long should I wait before asking her out?

Question

I'm 21 and met a girl who is a new transfer student at my college. She's the same age as me. I would like to ask her out on a date, but we have only talked twice at church. Would this be too soon? School has only been in session for 1 week. I am worried she might not want to be dating so soon into the semester till she sees what our college load is like. Should I ask her out this week, or wait longer (at the risk of her finding some other guy). Or should I try to move in as a friend first then ask her on a date at the risk of being put in that "friend" category? I said I was going to go to this popular ice cream place and asked if she'd like to join me (IE not a date, just getting ice cream) but she said she wasn't free, but didn't offer to do something some other time. Would you suggest some other time if you had any inclination towards a guy that suggest an activity that you couldn't make due to timing issues?

Answer 1

well since i am in high school, it could be a different situation, but my best advice is to not to try too hard when it comes to talking to her, but make it casual when you do like "hey we should get coffee, dinner, etc." Just try to be as casual as possible, trust me, because then she wont feel as pressured or be freaked out as if you were too over zealous by trying to ask her out. as far as timing goes, don't wait too long because chances are there could be someone else looking into her also. Advice in a nutshell: Be proactive, play it cool

Answer 2

The reason why we don't get a lot of things we desire is because we're usually afraid, scaredy cats! We usually never regret doing something we want to do but we always regret not doing something when we should have.

If you like this girl, time is of no consequence, ask her as soon as possible, ask her today, ask her now!  You want something or someone, go for it, if you fail, try again but ask her today.

Answer 3

I wouldn't necessarily suggest some other time if I was distracted or busy with something else. However, if I was really interested, I would have made sure you knew that. In this situation, she gets one more shot. Ask her for coffee as soon as possible. If she knocks you back this time, let it go.

Answer 4

It sounds like she just wants to be friends with you.

Answer 5

Before you can ask any girl out, you must know her as a friend first. That creates a solid base for your relationship. So, I suggest that you can try talking to her some more, outside of church, and she will open up more to you, and trust you more as you get to know each other. And, don't worry about being stuck in the friend category. I mean, at least you will get to know her and hang out with her! But, yeah. Don't even think about asking her out until you really get to know her. And if I liked someone, yes, I would suggest another time, because I want to be with him. But, I would only ever go out with someone if I knew them, and many other people are the same way. Good luck with everything!!! =]