How long should I wait between giving birth to my child and trying to conceive again!?!?

Question

My husband and I both have younger siblings....I am 4yrs older and he is 7yrs older! We both hate how far apart we were born fro our siblings bc we have nothing in common and hardly ever get along!! I want to have our chldren closer together but how soon is too soon!! I have a 4 week old and am already thinking about names for our next baby!!

Answer 1

My 2 children are going to be about 16 months apart when the 2nd is born. I really wanted to wait til she was between two-two and half before OUr next one was born.

My sister and I are about 2.5 years apart. and Throughout most of our child hood, we were super close. Still now today, event though we have been living far away from each other.

It does all depend on your situation. Are you prepared to have two babies fight over you, two babies in diapers, Two in daycare, if you both work.

I am a little scared myself about them both wanting attention from me and double the diapers. I am a stay at home mom, so I don't have to worry about that.  But I think in the long run, my kids will be good together, just a little hard in the beginning.

Answer 2

well i would wait at least 8 months but you should try at one year but remember just because you didn't like how far apart you were born from your Sib doesn't mean that they will want it that way too but it is your decision so i would wait a year for your childs sake..... sorry if i offended you or not  hope i helped

Answer 3

i think you should wait until your baby is at least 8 months. me and my brother are a year apart and we are very close we hardly fight (we havent fought since we were like 11) and im 17 and he's 19 i think he's the only guy i really trust we have each others back. i plan on having my kids close together.

let me add. i dont plan on getting pregnant again until im over 18 lol so maybe when my son turns a year i will start trying

Answer 4

Doctors will vary on what they recommend, but a general guideline is that they most likely prefer at least 12 months between pregnancies. However tons of women have pregnancies closer together than that all the time and do just fine.  I also wanted them somewhat close together and as it turns out they will be about 18 months apart. If we had been successful in our first cycle trying they would have been 15 months apart. I didn't want to have them too close (especially since I had a c-section) but knew I wanted 2 under 2. Oh and my husband is an "Irish Twin" to his older sister - they are 11 months apart (and he was 3 weeks late!) I wouldn't recommend purposely having them THAT close (he was a total accident and surprise) but people have done it.

It could take awhile for your period to come back - especially if you are breastfeeding. That usually puts it off more, as I am sure you know. Also the usual recommendation for starting to have s*x again after giving birth is 6 weeks, so wait at least until then before you even start...umm, practicing again. lol

Otherwise I don't have much advice. Personally I think that purposely trying for 2 under 1 would be way too early, but after that (13 + months apart, so getting pregnant when #1 is about 4 months old) it is not too awful...Just do what you want as long as  your doctor has no specific reason why not (such as complications with your previous pregnancy or something). Remember too that it might take several months to get pregnant once you start trying - or you might get lucky and get pregnant right away. It is a c**p shoot...so consider the possibilities carefully. Good luck!