How long should I wait for a 20's something to lose interests?

Question

She mid 20's I'm 51 she's one of my sons friends. I've known her for 7yrs. She ie perfect in every way except this interest she has in me. She has had a long string of relationships maybe two or three a year. Her bf's seem to all start out the same. They act like she is the one for a while then they start to treat her like c**p.

Over the last year she has come around more often. The hugs are longer+ tighter. She has started to press her lips to my neck and tell me she just needs some one that really loves her. Which I do but not like that. I've Been around to see her go from a crazy teen to a beautiful loving young woman. I'd like to keep her in my life but how long will this last.

Answer 1

til you set boundaries.

Answer 2

In all honesty she is probally just after money if you have it, or she is looking for attention and feels very comfortable around you.

Instead of waiting for her to lose interest even if it may hurt her, if she truely likes/loves you she will understand that you cant take it any further then what it is at for the sake of your sons relations to her as a friend and for the sake of your relations to her.

so its not how long you should wait for her to lose interest. the real question is how long will it be until you let her understand that you dont want to take it any further? Younger ladies can be naive and it could take forever if you are waiting for her to move on.

Answer 3

Until you make it clear to her that you are not a love interest and that her touch is inappropriate.  

Answer 4

Lucky guy.  :)~

Answer 5

Keep dreaming, Grandpa!

Answer 6

Did she lose her Dad or something?  It sounds like she's got some issues with needing men.  If you love her like a daughter, then tell her that, so she understands that's what it is.  Sounds like she might need a father figure more than anything anyway.

Answer 7

This situation is so weird, but love has no age. Are you married?

Cause if you are, forget about her! And if you are divorced..how would your son feel knowing that his friend is now his step-mom? I don't know but it's all up to you. When you do get older and she figures she has to care for you, maybe she'll lose interest in you.  

Answer 8

How long will it last?  Let me see. You're 51, she's hot and 20 something.  I figure you'll last about 40 seconds, maybe 60 seconds if you've got staying power.

Answer 9

well that depends on your financial situation - if wealthy - i would say after the money is gone -

if not - well maybe its real -

you say she has developed into a loving woman - this is something you should be discussing with her - not strangers on a yahoo forum -

keep in mind should you pursue this relationship - chances are it will forever change the relationship you have with your son

should he take it badly - you do not need his approval - but the choice is yous to make