My ex has been being physical with the children but leaving no bruises, and says its just a 'game'. my four year old son has complained of his ear being twisted when he is in trouble, being pulled down the stair by his leg, being yelled at to go to the potty, pinching, knucking and proceeded the other day to punch his stepfather in the back and called it smashing, and being pushed into his room. my ex has also told me to my face he would make my son sit on the potty until midnight if he had to. my daughter rarely needs discipline and is his favorite so nothing ever happens to her. she did witness a violent episode on the last visitation from her father to myself and my spouse and is very afraid to go to her father's house because she is afraid she cant come home because he wouldn't let her last time after this altercation.
i filed an application, without counsel because i couldnt find a lawyer in time. he was asking for two weeks vacation this summer and i put in an applicaiton for supervised visits due to concerns. when i filled it out the court counselor said, just put point form, no details, you can do that in court. they brought an application for vacation, served me on the 13th and i had to appear in court yesterday on the 15th. i had no chance to file a response and due to court law, i wasnt allowed to give any evidence and because of the lack of detail on my previous application the judge said there was no grounds and granted him vacation. so i have to make the kids go for two weeks.
now, for the past few years i have been considering moving for school. this isnt recent. these allegations have been consistenly popping up more and more with the children and i did what any mother would do and tried to protect them. he has known of my intentions to move eventually when i get my education sorted out and a final future plan figured out. he used that in his affidavit saying that i was only making these allegations to be able to move with the children in the future.
so now how long should i wait before i DO make an application to move? these events are completely separate and id never make false allegations about their father, he has been exercising access for two years and ive never denied him anything. how do i prove to the courts that it is not related? im getting a referral to a child psychologist on the 20th of august from my family doctor because i would like my children seen. they have been witnesses to violence since birth and still see abusive behavior from my ex to me.
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