How long should I wait to have another child?

Question

I am 21, married and have a 14 month old son. I am kind of wanting another child. However, I know how it is, when you see a newborn and think "oh i want another!" and then when you have one you think "oh no!" I said that I wanted to have another when my son was about 5. but now im not sure. Should I wait and have time now for just my husband, son and myself or go ahead and have another?

Answer 1

It takes two to make a baby so I think you should really be asking your husband not us.

Answer 2

If it is a question of money then then you should wait. If money is not a factor then you and your husband should decide together. I have three children 10, 8 year old girls and a 6 month old son. My two oldest children are 22 months apart and while they are very close now, it was hard when I had my second. If you decide to have another now you will need your husband to help with your oldest son. A child that age has serious jeolousy issues with "mommy" spending all this time holding this little "thing" they call my brother or sister...lol. Its wonderful to be able to have your children close together but its a TON of work for years to come. I have an 8 year gap between my 2nd and 3rd and it is wonderful. They are such a big help and there is no jeolousy at all. My son was born on Christmas morning and when we got home from the hosptial I thought they would be so upset that they missed Christmas with me and didnt get to open their gifts. Instead, they told me that he was the best Christmas present they ever got. Either way you go, children are a blessing, there are pro's and con's to waiting or not. Its just a matter of figuring out what will work for your family. **** Luck!

Answer 3

I have been wanting another baby as well. My daughter is 2, now that she isnt a precious cuddly baby, I miss that and want another so bad... even tho like you said... its mainly seeing and thinking how cute babies are.

It seems that there is no real right answer for your question tho, people I have talked to have had several different remarks. Some think its best to have them close to each others age and some think you should wait awhile.

I think its whatever you feel like doing.

I DO think however that maybe you should wait a year or two more, just so you can spoil this baby some. You have plenty of time to have a second child later.

Answer 4

When you feel you can afford another one.

Answer 5

Babies are great but I'd wait for awhile at least until your son is out of diapers.

Answer 6

I got married when I was 21 and my husband I decided that we would take advantage of the fact that we were married so young and have our children young so that they'd all be out of the house while we were young enough to enjoy life!

I think if you're both ready then take advantage of your age and go for it!!

Answer 7

Don't have any more.  Let the boy grow, move out, and live your life like a rockstar.   Stop bringing people into this miserable, deteriorating world.   Enjoy as much of whats left of your life, as you can!

Answer 8

It depends on what you have and what you and your husband want.  My son will be five in October and will start kindergarten the following year.  My husband and I are now trying to have our second baby.  We both have careers, but realize we would be paying over $1,000 a month in child care.  I am a teacher, so we get a little break in the summer.  But I felt we should wait until my son goes to kinder so we only have to pay for one child in school at a time.  I have friends that had their children close together and love it and I have others that said they wished they had waited.  It is really about how you and your husband feel.  The most I can comment on is time being divided.  I was an only child for 6 years and then my mother had my sister.  It was hard for me at first because I had been an only so long.  It is still hard, because my sister and I, while we are getting closer, are still not as close as I would like to be.  I have been able to focus on my son and making sure he is getting what he needs at each stage and I hope that when I have my second child, I will be able to do the same for s/he.  And then I realize, I am not Wonder Woman!  Do what feels right for your family!

Answer 9

You are still young, and I think you should wait at least another year or two. Having more than one young child, especially around the same age, is very difficult for parents at ANY age. And because you're 21, it may even more that much more difficult for you.

But hey, if you really, honestly think that you, your husband and your son can handle having another addition to the family, by all means, go for it. Take into consideration all aspects of things and maybe even make a list of Pros and Cons.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 10

your getting that baby itch! Its starts around now I swear...but seriously wait until you can afford another, and also wait until the other one is out or almost out of diapers.

Answer 11

my husband and i are waiting no matter how bad we get baby fever. We are waiting til our daughter is 4 then by the time our baby is here she will be in kindergarden and much easier to handle 2.

One is enough for now for us! lol Plus we really want to enjoy her and every little thing she does. Its gods miracles.

Good luck