How long should an engagement last? i'm 20, he's almost 30.?

Question

I'm 20, he's almost 30. How long should our engagement last?

Answer 1

Our engagement will be 1 1/2 years long.  I don't see that as too long whatsoever.  However, there may be some people that do.  I say, do whatever makes you happy- whether that means a 2 week engagement or a 10 year engagement.  Its your relationship that matters the most!

Answer 2

there isn't a set time limit for how long you should be engaged.  normally a wedding takes about a year to plan.  it all depends on what the two of you want to do together and when you want the wedding to be.  Wait as long as it takes for both of you to be ready.  Don't rush the wedding.

Answer 3

Are the two of you living together already? If so, a shorter engagement is a good idea. Stretching out an engagement too long in that case can be detrimental to actually getting married. If you're waiting to finish school, save money, buy a home, etc., give it a year or so.

Answer 4

it takes about a year to plan a nice wedding

unless you are having a very small (under 50 guest) and then you can probably do it in 6 months

so how ever long it will take you to plan the wedding

Answer 5

Give it a little over a year that way you have plenty of time to plan everything out. There is more to it than you could guess.

Answer 6

Well it is taking us an entire year just to plan the wedding so probably at least a year.

Answer 7

Why are you marrying a pedophile? Your engagement should last forever.

Answer 8

I don't think there is any rule on how long engagements should last.  It's really up to you and your fiance.

Answer 9

I'd wait about a year (at least). It takes at least that long to plan a wedding.

It sounds to me, though, like you aren't sure you're ready for marriage. Maybe you feel like someone that much older than you might want things to move quicker than you will? Like maybe you're afraid he'll want to start a family right away and you aren't ready for that? Just throwing that out there.

Your ages shouldn't have anythig to do with how long your engagement should last. You're both adults, it's up to you. If you are still in school and want to finish first, then wait until then. If you just don't feel ready for marriage (or you're having too much fun just being engaged!), then wait till you are. I'm 28 and my fiance is 27, and we've been engaged for almost 2 years, so I don't think waiting is a big deal at all.

Answer 10

Typically they last about a year.  Mine lasted 3 1/2 years because we waited for me to finish college and get a job.

Answer 11

Engagements should last however long the couple wants them to last.

Ours was almost two years because of planning and saving purposes.

Some are only engaged for a few weeks.  Some are engaged for far longer than two years.

It is up to the couple.  Age really doesn't take into account in this case.

Answer 12

That is completely up to you guys.  Some people can't stand the idea of an engagement that lasts longer than 12-18 months - my fiance and I will be (officially) engaged just over 2 years when we get married.  It depends on where you are in your life and when it works out best for you guys.  Although we were ready to marry each other about 8 months before we were officially engaged, we have been waiting because we weren't logistically prepared.  (We're currently living on opposite coasts - not so good for the first 2 years of a marriage, huh?)

Nobody can tell you how long your engagement should be, although I think that if you are pursuing a college degree, it might be easier to keep your education goals in sight if you wait to get married until you've finished.  However, there is no "one-size-fits-all" for engaged couples - only you and your fiance know what's best for YOU!!

Answer 13

That depends on how quickly you want to get married.  Do you have a certain time a year you want to get married?  Are you planning on having a big wedding?  Just think about this if you want to get married on a certain date you need to start planning right away.  Reception halls can be booked months even a year in advance.  Planning all the small things takes time too.  I think the typical time period is usually about a year but that is solely up to you and your fiance.

Answer 14

Simply put, the engagement is basically the time period in which the wedding is planned and/or when official plans for a wedding have been made (in other words, I don't consider a couple who are planning to tie the knot in any matter of year"s" to be engaged). The average wedding take a year to plan, therefore the engagement should last about a year or however long it will take to plan your particular wedding.