How long should i wait before engagement?

Question

Ok, I've known my girlfriend since last Nov (2007) and we've been going out since February this year, So we've only been going out just under 7 months, but I am 100% sure this is the girl I'm going to spend my life with.

I want to ask her the big questions, but I am not too sure if i should wait, I'm 22 and she's only 17. Her mum and dad are fine with it, as we were just casually talking about it one day and her mum said she gives her approval when we get married, so even she reckons were right for each other.

So do i wait? is 7 months too short to have been going out, or do i just go ahead and ask??

Answer 1

Like you said,

she's ONLY 17.

Maybe you should wait,

she's still young, or you could go

ahead and get engaged but don't plan

on getting married too soon!

Good luck :)

Answer 2

go for it just because you get engaged 7 months into the realtionship doesn't mean that you have to get married asap. You can have a long engagement and get married when she turns 21 or whatever point that you guys feel that both of you would be ready to get married

Answer 3

I would wait til she is at least 18 if not 19 and graduated from high school. To ask her to marry you. I hated when girls in high school  used to come in with rings...even though your older those relationships never last. Give her the time you had to grow up or it won't end well.

I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 22..we have been together 4 and years living together almost 2. And we still aren't engaged. We have gone and looked at rings but nothing serious I want to be able to at least drink at my own wedding and batcholette party...maybe try a promise ring. I got a promise ring when I was 16..we were together 6 months. Make her realized you do want to be ith her forever but forever isn't ready to happen just yet.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

If you're sure this is the girl for you, age is just a number, especially since you have her parents' blessing. Whenever you feel the time is right is when you should propose. Just make sure you really know all about her and that you're not still in the "honeymoon" stage. Have you had a first big fight? Do you know her aspirations in terms of career, children, etc.? Have you given thought to living arrangements? If you can answer all the big questions, then ask her the big question. However you should make it a long engagement - this way she'll know you want to marry her but it'll give you both a chance to grow even more together and make sure it's the right thing for both of you.

Answer 5

well maybe wait until shes 18?

but to be honest you could have a long engagement over a period of a few years you dont have to get married straight away as your both so young so if your 100% sure then maybe you should just go for it! good luck :)

Answer 6

I say wait a couple years. 7 months seems a bit early in my opinion.

Answer 7

You still have so much living to do, so much to learn about each other. YES it is to soon. even though you do love her. give yourself and her some time to learn about each other. you could do a small pre-engagement ring.

ask each other some very important questions...ie: will she work...how many children would you like. ..what if one of you get sick, are you strong enough to hang in there.

love is the hardest job you will ever have. You must be prepared to work your butts off to make it work.  answer the questions honestly. life can change in a heart beat.

if you truly love each other it will be there when she gets more time to mature. to finish school. maybe hit college. get a trad now as when you get older time goes quicker and time runs out.

encourage her to develop... take parenting classes... learn to manage money, a check book. all  those things put strain on a new marriage. so take as much stress away before making the step.

Love is a wonderful, exciting thing. it isn't meant to take lightly.

you're a sweetie.

enjoy being together.. picnic..  

Answer 8

You could do it on your 1 year anniversary! That way, you will have left it a bit longer, she will be a bit older and it is a nice time to do it. Good luck :)

Answer 9

7 months is soooooooooooo short!!!!! get to know each other better first, plus it will be fun to hang out and be young. before you become married and get old and boring.

Answer 10

She's 17 moron, at least wait until she is allowed to drink champagne at the wedding.

Answer 11

3 years i think is good

Answer 12

She's 17...so I would let her grow up first let her experience her teenage years without the hassle of starting a family. I mean you have to find out what page she is on in terms of the future before you start making FUTURE plans with her.

Answer 13

I was married at 23 and have learned a lot.  Generally, people should wait 18 months before deciding to get engaged.  By then, the "honeymoon period" has worn off and you can really tell if you are compatible with your partner.   However, considering she is 17 and you are 22, I would say wait way longer than that.  You should be out having fun, dating, and taking it slow.  Are you really ready to be weighted down, with bills, children, more bills?  What are her aspirations in terms of her education and career?  What are yours?  What life style do you plan to have?  How will you organize your finances?  Doesn't sound romantic but if you don't have some hard-core conversations, you don't have a prayer.  Marriage isn't always hearts and flowers and romance, it's the mundane, day to day stuff that gets to a lot of people.  Running a household and a marriage takes a lot, and I mean A LOT of hard work.  Her parents are okay with this?  Are you kidding me?  As I said, I was married at 23.  My husband and I were high school sweethearts.  People change a great deal throughout their 20's - goals, outlook on life, you name it.  We grew apart and are now divorced.  Don't get me wrong, I hope to get married again someday, and I'm glad I learned some good lessons.  Definitely wait.

Answer 14

Date two full years at least first. She's just a teenager; you want to wait til her brain is at least closer to being fully developed, which is in the early 20s.

Answer 15

I dont think that 7 months are too soon, I think she might be too young, now I am not one of those people who is going to judge, but you might want to wait till she is a little older that way you are both in better more stable places to make those decisions... I know no matter what people in here say, you are going to do what your heart tells you. I mean if you know she is the one, than there is no time limit.. I wish you luck in whatever you decide!!!

Answer 16

I personally think it's too early to get engaged but I know people who have been together only for 5 months and they are now married for 2 years so you never know!

Answer 17

do it on ur 1year

Answer 18

You're both still young - there is plenty of time!

What are your plans for education? Did you go to college? Do you have a stable career?

What are her plans for further education? Career?

What are your plans for kids, money, a home, jobs? etc?

All things to think about and I'm probably being the bearer of bad news, but you're both still young! Take your time and don't rush into anything. Marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment and at 17 and 22 people change alot over the next couple of years.

jmho  

Answer 19

Seven months is too short.  Wait at least a year or two.

Answer 20

Wait until she is 18. Orr until your 1 year anniversary, that would be so cute.

Answer 21

When it's time and you're with the right one, then you know. You sound like you're feeling it. So, it's been long enough.

Answer 22

it sounds like you are both ready, and i think you should ask her how she feels and then decide if you want to wait just a little long then you can still have fun if you dont want to get married right away.

Answer 23

This is a really hard decision and i erally do belive from what youre saying that she is the one.

But if you do love her think of it from her side: seh needs to finish school let alone college, she lvies with her parents still so shesnever gotten the chance to live by herself or think for herself, and shes not even old enough to toast at her own wedding!!

Lots of people do it and survive but since its only been 7 months i think you should wait. See how you feel in a year...

Get Promise Rings!! if its really important to you to prove your commitment get promise rings and see how that goes. But really let her live her life a little first. 17 is young.

Answer 24

I'd wait a little bit - at least until she is 18 so her parents don't have to be involved in the legal process.  I would talk to her casually about it as well, as she might not be ready to get married.  I bet that would be a nice 18th birthday gift :)

My husband proposed to me when I was 19 (he was 20), 7 months after we started dating.  We will be married for 5 years in October (08).  We've been through a lot and have had our ups and downs - but we're really content and happy.

Marriage is built on communication, love, and trust.  If you're sure you have a strong foundation in your relationship then do it. I can't tell you not to. :)

Although we didn't get married until a little over a year later because of wedding preparations.  So we were together about 18 or so months before we actually got married.