How long should we wait to have s*x?

Question

hi! Umm.... Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 10 months. we get along so well... we were best friends first before we got together. so he have a great foundation. we respect each other. he would never push me to go anything i didn't want to do. he has never pressured me. but one day last week. we were with our friends and one of them said "haven't you guys. had s*x yet?" we looked at each other and said no. but that caused me and him to think about it. after that, we went back to his house and we talked about it. if we wanted to lose our virginity to each other. if we were ready to have s*x? if our relationship could handle all that? even if we were to young to do it? we talked for hours. but we never came to an answer.

oh. ya! im 15 be 16 in October. and he is 16 already

Answer 1

If you cannot come to an answer about all of the above and you are doubting things then you are not ready.

I was with my boyfriend for 9 months before we decided to have s*x, i knew it would be happening so i went and got on birth control before it happened and we had s*x when we were both 16.

I am still with him, we are now married and have a almost 7 year old son together.

I am now 28 years old and we have been together for 13 years.

I had s*x with him because i knew he was the one for me and that we would be together forever so far i have been right...How many 28 year old's can say they have only had s*x with one man?

Looking back even though i do not regret it at all i could have waited. Wait as long as you can and don't waste it on someone that is not the one.

If you do make sure you get on birth control.

Answer 2

I would wait but if you think you are ready, use protection!

Answer 3

When you are ready, not when other people say you should.

Answer 4

until marriage.

Answer 5

i say just talk about it plan it out, research on birth control both of you can use.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-...

talk about each other fantasies, where you would like to have it. but mainly research until you both are physically , emotionally, and mentally ready to have s*x.

I'm 18 a virgin and going thought the same thing with my bf of 6 months. we have talked about it. i have research on birth control at that site i gave you. he said he is ready when i am. I'm glad i talked to him about it

Answer 6

It is wonderful that you two have a strong enough relationship to talk things out...especially s*x without feeing pressured or scared. I personally would wait though, being that I was a mom at 17. s*x is wonderful but when your that young its not worth all of the worry that comes along with it, and I can gaurantee you worry comes with s*x when you are 15 and 16 and 17 and always! Also, if you have a strong relationship with your mom, or an aunt or older sister, you should talk to them openly about the want to have s*x, so when you decide you are ready for it you have a solid birth control plan and doctor visits. s*x comes with a lot of responsibilities that shouldnt be on the shoulders of a young woman and man. Good luck with your relationship!

Answer 7

Whats the point in waiting for marriage, it's on the paper, so your wasting your life to a paper, I would seriously go ahead and do it. If you love each other to do it. If you are ready to do it, then go along and do it. But make sure you are well relaxed and that.

Answer 8

  Waitr until your married.  Sorry sweetie, but its the right choice.  You don't want to get yourself pregnant this young.  Even if it was protected you might feel you could have unprotected.  

Answer 9

Wow, you sound really mature for you age actually. To acknowledge that you aren't ready and are willing to wait is a good idea.

:)

Answer 10

That's great that you two haven't already had intercourse!  But, you should DEFINITELY wait until marriage!  Especially, since both of ya'll don't want to you're soooo young, and, you don't want to grow up to fast or do something you'll later regret!  Trust me!  Don't let the idiot who told ya'll that pressure you into something as to that!  

Answer 11

when you think youre ready

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Answer 12

then i think you came up with your answer.

but it sounds like you have a really great relationship.

wait until you have been going out a year and a half.

then think about it some more.  

Answer 13

It sounds like you guys have an amazing relationship and you know what your doing + what your letting yourself in for.Im 15 and im not a virgin :) and there was a time when i felt just like you do now , me and my boyfriend went over the same questions  and didnt know if it was a good idea to have s*x at such a young age,  but now we have s*x regulaly , its great !   AND youl get loads of people on here saying " your too young"..bla bla blah" lol but if you feel ready for s*x just go for it !

life isnt a rehearsal so don't hold back :D

MuchLove

Answer 14

I see things in a more practical light, not so much in terms of "saving yourself" or morality or stuff.  I think you should avoid intercourse until you're both out of school and have jobs with health benefits.  Intercourse is designed to make babies.  I'm not saying that s*x should only be for making babies, just that no birth control method is guaranteed because the odds are stacked in favor of a baby being the result.  For the potential baby's sake, wait until you're both in a position to give him or her the best possible, stable home.  

And not to be negative, sweetie, but teenagers' brains are still developing, and continue to do so until their early 20's.  That means their goals in life and their likes and dislikes are also still developing.  High school steadies rarely are the ones we marry even though at the time we all swear that that's who we want to be with "foreever and ever."  The odds are just against it.  Better wait now than sorry later.  I do care, but remember, you've never been an adult, but all adults have been teenagers.  Best wishes.

Answer 15

First of all, whoever asked you that was amazing nosey -- and not all questions deserve to be answered.  Please develop a sense of privacy -- what happens between you and your boyfriend is no one else's business.

This sounds a lot like you are feeling pressure from outside of your relationship to have s*x -- as if there was some sort of deadline. That's NOT a good reason to have s*x, ok?

Personally, I don't think you should have s*x unless you are in a position to accept the consequences of s*x, i.e., pregnancy.  You are 15, you haven't finished school, you have no job that can support you.  YOU cannot provide shelter, food, medical and clothing for a baby without a great deal of help.  To me, that means that you aren't ready. Actions have consequences, and frankly, killing someone and birthing someone are THE two biggest consequences in life.  Are you really ready for that?

Answer 16

well seems like you 2 are close.

if you think you ready then go for it.

proabably wouldnt be the best idea.

i personally would wait till marriage.

Answer 17

do it when you feel ready dude lol dont force each other to do it cuz then ti will just s***w your relashionship up!!

Answer 18

WOW i wish i had a boyfriend like that you guys are REALLY close i dont think you should if you nor him want to than thats fine but dont let other people make you think that you need to have s*x that it

Answer 19

I say dont have s*x until you're PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND FINANCIALLY ready.

-Physically

-mentally-

emotionally

-finanically

because s*x has its conquences and unless you want one of them, dont have s*x until you're really prepared. what happens if you have a baby? are you ready emotionally and finanically? Having a baby may seem exciting but trust me..its not. I dont have any kids but I practically grew up raising my little brothers and sister and its not...a fun job. You know what I'm saying?

Also..i dont think you should have s*x at a young age because really..you're just a kid, A KID. you may not like the sound of it but its true. you are a kid and kids dont need to be having s*x. enjoy your youth because time goes by fast. dont grow up so fast! thats why scoiety is kinda messed up. kids wanna act like grown ups and grown ups wanna act like kids.

Answer 20

When you are married!!!!