How long should you be with your partner before marriage?

Question

How long should you be with your partner before marriage?

Answer 1

If I would could do it all over again I would be with a partner for I say 3 to 5yrs just because that will give chance to see how the other person and how it would be to live with them.  So if there is something you don't like about them you can work it out or just move on.  Because if you have problem before the marriage you will most likely will have when married

Answer 2

years

Answer 3

i dated my husband for 4 years before our wedding.  i think that it was a good amount of time.  we lived together for a year and 4 months, and were engaged from September to April, got married in April.  living together gave us an idea of how we lived.  it's not for everyone, but i think that at least 3-4 years is a good time to date.

Answer 4

You need to make sure you REALLY know the person you are marrying. Figure out their goods and their bads, what makes them mad, what makes them happy and what makes them hurt. Get to know their friends and family (more than likely most of them will be there for a long time). Personally, I would say wait for at least 3 years....what's the rush? If they love you and you love them....they will stick around!

Answer 5

I don't agree with the people whom have commented so far... my ex i was with for 5 years and that turned out terrible, my partner now of 6 months makes me more happier then i have ever been and i know i will be with for as long as i live, we are even planning on getting married soon actually!

I think everyone is different and it doesn't matter how long you have been with someone if you feel it is right then you know!  

Answer 6

3-4 years, especially if you are young.

Answer 7

Yep give it a couple of years, you need to make absolutely sure marriage is the right decision

Answer 8

The simplest answer I know is that when both of you realize you can't imagine living without the other, then the time is right. Whether it takes 6 months or 6 years is immaterial.

Answer 9

Until you BOTH can accept that you don't want anyone else, that the relationship is almost equivalent to having a best friend, that you can deal with every little annoying thing they have..and you can deal with that FOREVER...that no other person gives you this urge to 'try them out' ....that if you both value s*x, that you have NO PROBLEMS with the s*x, and that you both understand ALL of what you want from s*x, how often, what it entails, and what fantasys or whatever lie in your head.

Also that money, lifestyle and communication is in order, that you would like that he helps aroudn the house..or the fact he likes to go out a lot and wants you with him...or that he likes watching family guy and you wanna watch lost.  

When you get all the kinks and crannies that can cause the relationship to falter compromised and out the way, and you know that if this person may change in the future you can STILL work with him/her and still devote yourself to them.....THEN you've been with your partner long enough to get married.

That may take years, may take months...but as long as the ground rules have been set and you KNOW 100% that THAT is what you can deal with for the rest of your life....have at it.