How long should you wait before deciding to get married??

Question

I'm ready to get married but only been with the man for a month should I wait longer?

Answer 1

YES.

you've known/dated him for a month. please. wait.

Answer 2

"honestly, you're not going to do anything I say and my opinion is worthless"

Answer 3

Personally, yes. Remember that dating is very different from living together. In my opinion, you should get to know him and his family better and consider moving in together later. If you are still having a great relationship after living together, then marriage may be the answer. If you really love each, it shouldn't matter when you get married since you're committed to each other to the end anyway.

I'm not saying that this is the only solution, but I've seen friends get married quickly....and subsequently divorced quickly.

Good luck.

Answer 4

That is up to you and how you feel about each other, and if you are ready to make the commitment.  I met my husband in March, we were friends a very short while, and started dating in June.  We were married in August and have been for 5 years now.  It all depends on you guys.  

Some people can date for years and marry and divorce within 18 months.  There is really not a set standard.  However, we both were already well into our 30's when we married.

Answer 5

yes wait at least 6 months and the move in together and after a year then you can consider marriage.  that way you will be sure that you guys will be able to make it work

Answer 6

Take it very very slow.

Answer 7

I think you'd regret it. And anyway, what's the rush? Why do you need to get married right now? Give it a year, and see if you still feel the same. If you're confident he's the wonderful man you think he is, then you two should still be together in a year, and you can think about marriage, if that early. If you're afraid you two won't still be together by then, then you shouldn't marry him.

Answer 8

You should wait much longer then that i would give em 5 or so years it appears that your rushing into that type or marriage take it easy and take your time. You should get to know him more because there could be more bad then meets the eye.

good luck

god bless

Answer 9

yeah

Answer 10

Uhhhhh.YES!  Holy c**p!  You should be together at least a year probably, but if you can't f**t or p**p in front of him, I would say wait.

Answer 11

Thats hard to answer, because everyone has different callings. I got married pretty young (22), but thats only because I was with my wife for a long time before then. If you and you're partner feel the time is right then go for it. Providing your both of legal age ofcouse.

Answer 12

I think you should defiantly wait longer.  A month is too soon to get married especially if you have only been with him that long.  Take your time, get to know him, don't rush into marriage.  Because if you do, especially without really getting to know him, you could end up regretting it.

Answer 13

Are you kidding me? I would say about 3 or 4 years.

Answer 14

Oh my goodness yes. You need longer than that to know if this is the person you want to trust your all with and stay with forever. Consider counselling, too. Best wishes.

Answer 15

You need to wait, I recommend you go through every season, every holiday, through sickness, and health, meet the family, church, and social events.

Are you crazy or desperate? Their is no way you can know a person in a month. You are still blinded by all the beginning drama of a relationship. You have not had a chance to see what is under the cherry disposition. Please let the rosy glasses come off, or months later we will be giving you advice on how to get a divorce.

Answer 16

hi Chasity, tough question. first off let me tell you that there is no predetermined amount of time, and i think the answer would be different for everyone. from experience i would say that if you feel like its time and you have waited long enough, then give it a little more time, only because you are never 100% sure even though both think they. wanting to give it more time in no way means you dont love him. simply be asking this question i feel you will do the right thing and make the right choice. good luck kid  

Answer 17

omg yes like a year you know to know him better cause people cange once they marry just study him carefuly and get to know him more

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Answer 18

You may THINK your ready...please give it more time...a month isn't long enough to even think anything one way or another.

Answer 19

heck yes! at least for a year or soo...you can't really judge a man within a month..you don't know if he's actually nice or good.  

Answer 20

If you're both feeling like your totally ready and committed, then who cares about any type of time guideline. My hubby and I knew each other a month before we got engaged and our families were 100% supportive. We were engaged for two months and then got married and its been magic ever since. Don't let people make you feel crazy for knowing what you want in life, they're all jealous anyway.  

Answer 21

Yes, longer.

I wish that divorce would be made illegal, and I wish that people who want drive-through divorce would remain miserable, except on the grounds of infidelity.

It's vitally important for a woman to choose a correct man, and this would happen if they would all close their legs prior to the ceremony. 99% of the undesirables would be weeded out.

Men need to be very principled and you need to put them to the ulitmate test. In other words, "Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?"

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Answer 22

Take your time, divorce is not something you ever want to go through.  Make sure that you know him completely, emotionally, financially and physically.  Don't set yourself up for something that may end up not how you want it.  I learned that the hard way!  

Answer 23

There is no right time. The time to get married is when you find a person that you love that loves you back. Who cares how long you have been with him as long as you are sure he is the one.  

Answer 24

thats a question only you can answer since your the only one who know how you really feel I will give you something to consider though do you just want to get married or are you really in love with them. can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person.  

Answer 25

6 months minimum!!  

Answer 26

you dont need to marry after a month.you dont know him at all.wait till you know everything about him,and that takes awhile to know someone.you need to know his whole life history,spend time with him and ask about his every thought and feeling on all subjects about life.children,do you even know if he wants them.has he ever cheated?does he know everything abou you?all your likes and dislikes?just take your time,please!god bless you!

amy

Answer 27

I agree that some relationships do work after such a short amount of time.  But most of those fairytale stories happened back then when people stuck together no matter what and divorce was not a option.  Not knowing who your partner is can be disastrous.  He can be a con artist, lazy bum in disguise, future dead beat dad or capable of spousal abuse.  Depending on your religious background sometimes the easiest way to get to know someone is to live with them. But it seems that taking your time (a good amount of time)  to marry or live with someone is always best to avoid future emotional trouble.  Not to bad mouth the fairytale relationships that never end in divorce.  But it's simple, it is difficult to know if your future spouse will be there for you through thick and thin, sickness or financial loss all in a month's time.

Answer 28

I waited one whole year and glad I did..one should get to know some one better over a period of time

Answer 29

this question is multi-level. After a month, or so, If you cannot see yourself marrying someone, I'd say don't continue the reletionship. Bc I feel there is no point in wasting your time....now as for actaully walking down the isle after one month, I would say that even if you cans ee yourself marrying someone, that you should wait. Bc, you havent had enough time to really be yourself, and see yourselves through trials etc.  So if your ready to get married, in a few more months, you'll still be ready to get married. Its not worth a lifetime of uncertainty. And divorce rates are so HIGH. Now, before I allow myself to sound like a hypocrite, I was enganged after 3 months, and married after just three more, and we are very very happy. But this sint the case with everyone. I would say get engaged, and plan a wedding in like 6 months if your really that eager.... If your supposed to be together,you will be, and rushing things can really make things bad. good luck!

Answer 30

well diffidently until u know u wanna be with him/her 4 the rest of ur life( in sickness and in heath, 4 better or 4 worst)i wood wait till im done with school just cuz i wanna concentrate on my school work

Answer 31

A month? Oh heck yes!

I would wait a year or two or three and make absolutely sure it was the right choice. Jumping into it after just a month or a few months even, would be a signal that something is strange.