How long were you married before you had your first child?

Question

I get married in two weeks and within the next 2 years I want a baby. However my husband said 3 or 4 years...

Best Advice?

Answer 1

I got married in 6/86 and had my son 10/87 but my husband was 35 when our son was born.

Answer 2

our daughter was born after we had been married 3 years 7 months.

Answer 3

Married in September.  Baby in November.  NOT the way to do it.

How about for the first year NEITHER of you mention having a baby.  Enjoy your first year as a couple.  On your anniversary you can discuss how you both feel.  Unless you are in your late 30's, I would agree with your hubby to be.  

Take some time to be husband and wife before becoming mom and dad.  It will help build a stronger fooundation for the two of you.

Answer 4

3 1/2 years..

I was 18 when we got married, so we both agreed to wait a few years.

Answer 5

I was 23 when I got married; had my son 4 months after my 24th birthday.  I was pregnant at the time of the wedding, although I didn't know it (diaphragms are NOT the best form of birth control sometimes!)

Answer 6

  I've never been married, but my parents were only married about 3 months before they got pregnant.  Having kids was their biggest priority.  

  After watching them my whole life I would suggest waiting a little while to have kids.  You and your husband should enjoy married life with just the 2 of you for awhile, because that's one thing my parents regret.  You also wants your baby(s) to have the best, and if you don't have much money now then you definitely won't have any when the baby comes, because they are expensive.

  Having kids sometimes puts strain on the relationship and the last thing you want is to resent your husband and hate your kids and all of them feel the same back.  I know I sound negative, but I'm just trying to save you from the bad things that no one likes to talk about.

  I wish you the best of luck and I'm sure you and your husband with make the the decision that's right for you.  

Answer 7

2 yrs for us, but we said 4 when we first got married but it happend. it wasnt planned it just happend. so honestly it doesnt matter 2 or 4 as long thats wat u both want.

but one thing thoe........ try not to get pregnant right away, u want to enjoy ur marriage before u start having children.  

Answer 8

We were married 4 years before we had our first baby. It gave us time to know each other better and to put money aside for our first home. When we had our baby we had our home and it was furnished the way we wanted it. We did not go in debt, but bought things as we went along and paid cash. My cousin married a month after I did and had her 1st baby 10 months later.They went into debt early on and lost almost everything they had because they could not keep up with payments on their home and furniture. Plus they had bought a new car and had an inground pool put in. It is now 30 years later. We have a new home, our kids are grown and on their own. My cousin has lived in a rented house off and on for all these years. They had 4 kids. We had 2. When you get married, go slow. Don't get into debt, It can take years to get out. Best wishes on your upcoming marriage.

Answer 9

I think you both may need to compromise. It would be the best thing to look at all the motives. You have to make sure that you're not only physically and emotionally ready to have children, but you have to be financially ready as well. having a child is expensive these days. This is something that the both of you must communicate about a lot more. Remember, plans can change at anytime. You don't have to be on a fixed time line.

Answer 10

Getting married is a big change and a lot to get used to. Give yourselves times to get used to it and get comfortable before you bring someone else in to the house. We have one on the way now and we have been married almost 7 years. It's best to wait, though I'm certainly not advising you to wait that long. 3 or 4 years sounds just right.

Answer 11

2 days

lol i'm just kidding i dont even know why i answerd this question

but shoot have kids whenver you want

Answer 12

Got married august 2005, pregnant in September 2006, had the baby June 2007... so I got pregnant barely a year after we were married. And now, we're getting divorced! hehehe