How long were you married when you had your first child?

Question

My husband and I have been married for almost three months but dated for five years before we got married. He is so ready to start a family and truthfully I am too, but everyone in my family thinks I need to wait a few years. We're both 25 and we just feel it's the right time. What do you think?!?!

Answer 1

OMG you are soooo ready personally its not a bad thing to wait BUT you and him are the decision makers of YOUR family....not your family decides when you guys make a family....GO FOR IT....I am not married but I was with my fiance for 3 years and we have 3 children.....but yall are soooooooo ready....GOOD LUCK....

Answer 2

we were married for about 10months before i got pregnant. and yes he was a very planned baby.

we had been together for 8 years at that point and he is our first baby.

Answer 3

my husband and i have been married for 1 year and 2 months im pregnant and im do any day now dont listen to your family they are just trying to run you marriage telling you when you should have kids its your choice not the families. you want kids go ahead.

Answer 4

If you are married and are relatively financially stable then it really doesn't matter what other people want for you.  You have to decide if this is what you want.

Not that it matter but - I was married 9 years (together for 11) before I got pregnant.  Everyone is different though.  If both of you are ready now and you think you can afford it then,  start trying.

Answer 5

We were never married.  Together for 9 years, had two kids.

Answer 6

my husband and i dated for a month before i got pregnant.  married 2 years later. still married

Answer 7

if it is the right time for the both of you then no one else should matter

Answer 8

My husband and I had been together for a year and a half (not married yet) when we found out I was pregnant. We got married a month after we found out and had our daughter 8 and a half months after we got married. I say if you've been together for five years before getting married you can start a family together now or anytime you want to. It really should not matter what your families think, if you are ready then go for it. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 9

i am a mother of 2, pregnant with my third. my husband and i have been married for 2 years, together for 4 years. we actually started trying 2 years ago. my youngest is 8 years old. i just got pregnant in feb.(tried for almost 3 years) if you are both ready, go for it!! your family should be there for advice. advice is to be taken if you choose, and thats it!  you didn't get married to start a life together just to fall back on other peoples opinons. this is you and him only!! my 2nd "advice" is i had both my children before i turned 26. i am now thirty. it is the hardest thing i've ever had to do. numerous people have told me, including doctors, that it gets harder , the older you get. also not to scare you, but the older you are, the more complications can occur. (god bless those of you who are 40 and pregnant!!) do whatever is in you and your husbands heart and tell everyone else, be happy or tough!!! thats what you got married for girl!!! ( btw- im married to my second husband, my first 2 was with my first! sorry)

Answer 10

We dated for a year. We got married on June 24, 2006 on the day of our one year anniversary. Three weeks after coming home from the honeymoon I was at the doctor, and he came in told me I was pregnant. I looked back at it on the calendar to find out I got prego on the honeymoon. We were okay with it though when we found out were were expecting. He is our honeymoon baby!

Answer 11

We dated for 2 years.Our 5 year wedding anniversary was 13 days after our son was born.I think if you are ready,then go for it.It doesn't really matter what the family thinks,only you & hubby.

Answer 12

9 months! Our oldest was conceived on our wedding night....or some time around there!

Answer 13

I was aged 21 when I fell pregnant with baby # 1, she arrived shortly after my 22nd birthday and it was totally the right time for us...in fact, it's really hard to define the right time - you can never truly be ready until baby arrives! My partner and I aren't married but that's personal choice, we've been with each other since age 17 and have another little one on the way. If you feel secure and ready enough to add to your family then I wish you the best of luck :] It seems like you are in a great place to start trying.

Answer 14

me and my hubby got married december 29th 2007 and i found out i was pregnant in march. We dated for about 5 years as well. Im 23 and he is 25. We are financially ready etc so it really completely depends on when you feel ready.  This was more of a surprise than planned but i couldnt be happier.  If you are ready go for it.  Good Luck

Answer 15

My husband and I were maried for 2 years before we had our first child (who is now 10)and I was also 25. We now have 3 other children with ages for 8,6 and 4. But dont feel presured to do anything until your ready parenting is a big step and you both need to be ready to give your child a loving environment

         All the luck to you two!

Answer 16

My husband and I were together 6 years before we got married (high school sweethearts) and our son was born 14 months after we were married, so we only waited 4-5 months.  We were both 23 when we got married.

Only you and your husband know when the time is right... never "wait" to have a baby because sometimes babies don't come right away and then you'll be sorry you waited.  Children are blessings, enjoy them!

Answer 17

It's not up to your family...it's up to you guys.

we will be married 3 years when our 1st arrives. but we got married younger then you guys.

Answer 18

You have to do what you want to do. I got pregnant on my honeymoon. We planned to start right away!!