How long will you wait before telling your partner your pregnant?

Question

i am 8 weeks pregnant now. i previously had a miscarriage in december 2007. and my partner took it very hard. i dont no whether to tell him now or wait till im 12 weeks. what do you think i should do?

Answer 1

Congratulations. If you didn't tell him, who would support you if the worst happened. But if you can hide it from him then go for it. The surprise in 4 weeks will be great.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

I would tell him. Everytime I found out i was pregnant i didnt hesitate and told him as soon as the test revealed a positive result..But others like family members and friends I had wait a while before telling them...I had a miscarriage a few yrs back but i still told my husband as soon as i found out i was pregnant again 2 months later...It depends on you but usually miscarriages happen for chromosome reasons that the mother could not control and the chances of that happening again are slim.....

Congrats and Good Luck!

Answer 3

Here's some food for thought:  Keeping a secret from your partner causes stress on you, which will cause stress on the baby.  You have a history of miscarriage.  Do you really think that added stress will be good?  Men have a way of knowing when they are being kept in the dark about something.  When he finds out that you were keeping this from him, do you think he'll get angry with you?  Or maybe feel like you don't trust him?

I know he took your miscarriage hard, but I think you should tell him sooner than 12 weeks.  Me?  I told my man when I found out.  I was going to wait a couple of weeks, but I knew he'd get suspicious when I suddenly didn't drink at our Super Bowl party.

Answer 4

if he took it hard, maybe you should wait....the general rule of thumb is to wait till your past 12 weeks (first trimester) as the risk of miscarriage decreases quite a bit after this stage. But sometimes your body will miscarry a first baby, as it's a foreign object in the body and sometimes the body just doesn't know what to do with it, there's no saying that this pregnancy won't progress just fine. I know you might still have concerns, and trust me, I understand, I had a miscarriage a year ago and my husband took it hard as well, now I'm in my 37 week with a healthy baby boy!! So keep your chin up, maybe wait a few more weeks and then spill the beans!!! I wish you all the best of luck and congratulations!!!!!

Answer 5

i told my fella like a few hours after i found out.  

Answer 6

I would tell him right away.  If you tell him right away then he will know what you are going through.  Just let him know that there is a possibility that you might miscarry again and that you need him, but he might be able to help you not miscarry.  He can make sure that you are relaxed and aren't overworking yourself.  If you want to wait until you are 12 weeks, there isn't anything wrong with that either.  He will be excited if you are 12 weeks because the possibility of miscarriage drops dramatically.  Good luck, and congrats!