How many have sent a 4 yr old to kindergarten?

Question

ok, well, my boys are 14 mos apart. My 5 (6 next month) yr old is in kindergarten, and the teacher says it might be a good idea to have him repeat kindergarten. problem is, my 4 (5 in sept) HAS to start kindergaten this year! Anyone ever been in this situation? To me, My 5 yr old seems on par with the rest of kids his age. He tends to forget some letters, and numbers, but is great at the "harder" stuff, like adding, and sounding out words.

Answer 1

i did and my sisterr

Answer 2

Trust me it is okay to put your 4 year old in kindergarten for I went through the same situation. It actually helped my 5 year old with his education. He was motivated by his younger brother and his younger brother wanted to be JUST like him so he was encouraged as well. I would see if you could try to get them in separate classes just to give them a little space.

Hope that is helpful

Answer 3

if your smart she'll make it.if your wondering what i mean it's called GENES.

Answer 4

i dono, my son was 3 when he went into jrkindergarten and he turned 4 in the dec so he's done fine this year, he will be 4 going into kindergarten this comming sept and his teachers didnt see any problems, maybe you can just try giving him a lil extra help at home?

Answer 5

Ask the teacher why she wants him to repeat?  And maybe work with him on it over the summer, that way he will be ready for 1st grade come time for school to start again.  The reason teachers hold kids back is so they don't fall further behind the next year, but it being kindergarden I'm sure its something small you could work at home on.  (Like phonics, reading, letters & numbers etc).

At that age you could probably put them both in kindergarden, and it would not bother them.  

And later if he gets embarrassed he'll probably just make up a story and blame it on you lol.  (Like...my mom thought it would be cute for us to start school together so she held me back).

I started Kindergarden when I was 4...also born in sept.  I think it helped because I graduated younger than everyone else...haha.

Answer 6

HEED the recommendation of his teacher.  I did not listen and my child had MANY problems later on.  I also work in an elementary school and see this all the time.  Some kids just need the extra time to mature before they can really succeed. Very normal and will be doing him a favor by following the teacher's advice.  Regarding the 2nd child....that is a tricky situation.  BUT you have to do what is best for the individual child.  Just make sure they are not in the same classroom.

Answer 7

I had 2...one boy and one girl

the boy had to repeat

at least the following year he was at the top, and not the bottom of his class....

there were only 2 kindergarten classes and for years he thought that going from one to the other was the normal progression...

Some mature earlier than others...like my daughter..she  was fine.

Answer 8

Here in Japan they start Kindergarten at 3 years of age, yet it is more like preschool, they start with the basics.  In many countries they have two years of kindergarten starting at 4 years of age.

I teach 4 year olds and it all really depends. Most are ready, some are not but they do get some benefit out of starting kindergarten early. For one, they get other skills out of the way like learning how to use scissors and glue, developing social, listening, cognitive and motor skills which are precursers to reading and writing and mathmatics. Usually by upper kindergarten (the last year) they can be ready to focus on the more difficult stuff.

If  your children are going to end up in the same class, or if your kindergarten is just one year (5 is a little young for 1st grade I believe)  you may want to consider that carefully and work with your 4 year old at home for a year.

Answer 9

Not sure I would send the 4 year old yet.  I think the older they are the better they do. I think if your older one needs to repeat the year then have him do that and wait on they 4 year old.

Answer 10

A friend of mine has two boys who are 10 months apart - yes that's right!  I never thought it was possible either.

Her older son who was born in November was held back... Her other son was was born in August was then held back because of the older brother.

At my school we also have a situation with twin brothers who were born in August who were held back.  Their younger sister was then held back for a year so that she would not be in her brother's grade.  

In life, in the long run, it really doesn't seem to matter.

More importantly, do you know that your child is entitled to an IEP in your school district.  It might be called something else where you live but it's basically an Individual Education Program that's designed with a child who has been identified as needing help.  Depending on what your child's special needs are, you may be entitled to extra help during and after the school day.  It has made a tremendous, huge difference in my older child's school experience.  He LOVES school now!

Answer 11

Why does your 4 almost 5 year old HAVE to start K this year?

If your five year old's teacher is telling you that yourchild needs to repeat kindergarden, especially if he is a boy, then I would listen and have him repeat it. If you don't, he will continue to struggle and lag behind. It's better to keep him back now than in a year or two.

As for the other one, I am not big on children with September birthdays or late summer birthdays starting K right when they just turned 5. For most kids, it's too much too soon, especially if your state has full day kindergarten. If there is a need for him to be in school, regarding your work scehdule or the fact that he needs something more stimulating than he is getting now, check out a pre-school or a daycare that offers preschool. It might help him a lot.

Answer 12

I was sent to Kindergarten when i was 4 and it helped out my education immensely.  I'm now in 2 advanced classes and acing them both along with all the others.

Answer 13

i know some parents who let their 4 year olds go to kindergarten.  he shouldn't have to repeat; that would be stupid

Answer 14

Her the law states that they must be atleast 5 years old to attend kindergarten, before that is pre-K (or preschool).  Kindergarten is hard enough for most 5 year olds no child under 5 should have to go through that.

Answer 15

if the teacher thinks holding the older boy back will help, do it now. don't wait until he's older and there is more of a stigma with being held back. he's young now and won't (and shouldn't have to) understand being retained. as for both boys being in the same grade, don't sweat it! I've know plenty of people whose twins, closely spaced children, or other situations (similar to yours) who've children attended the same grade, no sweat! Also, you should never draw a comparison between the two kids. they are individuals and need not be compared/contrasted. do what's best for each one even if that means retaining one, starting the other early, being in the same grade. I would however suggest they never be placed in the same class so that they don't bring sibling rivalry into the classroom. good luck & don't stress! retaining one child is no reflection on you as a parent or him as a student. children develope differently. the important part is that he has a good, well rounded education with no holes in his learning that may really make things hard in the future. I'd say, better safe than sorry.

Answer 16

Its just kindergarten. I would not have a kid repeate it unless something was really wrong. Move him to 1st

Answer 17

not me but i know people who have (and acctually I did im only in sixth grade) my parents had me repeat and it great too because he can make more friends trust me I did it's normal and it's ok if he doesn't understand that stuff yet because thats what kindergarden is for

Answer 18

Lots of kids do it... it's fine and he'll be in an advantage over other kids his age.

Answer 19

i was 4 when i started kinder so was my sister (she turned 5 in oct i turned 5 in nov) never been in that situation but known of people and both kids are in kinder they just request to have them in different classrooms. i work at an elementary school and just work with him as much as you can on his numbers and letters and show the teacher he knows his numbers and letters and they should let him go to 1st grade its great that he gets the harder stuff but work with him as much as possible on the simple stuff.