How many more days a year would I be able to see my boyfriend if we got married? He's a marine.?

Question

My boyfriend is a marine now and I'm practically never going to see him. He gets to come home for 30 days a year but he won't actually be able to use all of those days. If he and I get married in the future & have a house given to use for the time that he's a marine, how many more days a year would I be able to see him?

Answer 1

You would be living with him and how much time you saw him would depend on what his job is and what unit hes with..

Lets assume hes an infantry Marine. He would leave for sure for about 6-7 months to deploy somewhere in the world.

And when back from deployment they train alot and many times leave for up to 1 month at a time. Sometimes they leave for 3 days while other times its 8 days.

There is no solid answer to your question because there are many variables to it.

Answer 2

Ok, you need to seriously think about a decision as important as getting married.  This is a life altering decision that you shouldn't take lightly.  Getting married for a trite reason (i.e. so I get to spend more time with my boyfriend) is NOT a good idea.  If you look at the situation objectively and can say that you are ready to commit to spending the rest of your life with this man, if you can say that he will be a good husband that will treat you right, and if you can say that you will still enjoy being him when you are both old, then, and only then should you think about getting married.  You didn't mention your age, but I suspect you might be fairly young (under 21?).  Being married to a service member (both my husband and I are in the Army) is a challenge.  Don't get me wrong, military marriages can work, but they require a degree of communication and majority that many people find difficult.  You need only look at the very high divorce rate to see that.

To summarize: marry him only if you can honestly say you are ready for such a commitment.  No one else can tell you exactly how many days a year you will see him.

Answer 3

I assume you are talking about 30 days of leave a year. Which is the equivalent to vacation for civilians. Housing has no effect on how many days off a year he has. If you were to move into base housing with him  or move in together period, you would get to see each other more than if you two lived in different states/areas. Getting married won't stop him from deploying, and how often he deploys depends on his unit, mission, job, etc.  

Answer 4

You need a major reality check.  If, as your question indicates, your primary reason for considering marriage is the amount of time you will be able to spend with him and the benefit of  housing (it's not "given" to you, it is either base housing or Quarters Allowance), then you need to seriously reevaluate both your maturity level and your relationship.  This isn't a game of playing house, there is a great deal of stress on military marriages and your spouse is married first to the Marines.  A military wife and family are  the unsung heroes  and backbone of our services and the sacrifices are many, so think long and hard before you make this commitment.  

Answer 5

I guess you will see him the days that he comes home from work (aka not deployed). But don't assume you'll get a house if you get married. Families with children get priority.

Answer 6

You'll be able to see him all the times he's not deployed, not working, and not doing training. That time all depends, no one can answer that for you, not even him.

But don't marry him just to see him more...marry him because you want to, you know?

Answer 7

Just depends, if he goes over seas a lot more than, it would be about the same, But if he is stationed some where in the US, you would be with him a lot more.  

Answer 8

He'll be home for the same amount of time whether or not you're married.

I always strongly advise military couples against getting married for the benefits, ie housing.

The Marines - although they ARE, in fact, my favorite branch to work with aside from my fellow Airmen - are the least family-friendly branch of the US Military.

The needs of the service come first, always.

As someone else mentioned, housing is tight right now, too; on a lot of posts and bases, it's only families with children who are getting houses.

Good luck!!