How many of u gone tru this?

Question

u clean they mess.... u clean they mess.. and u clean and clean again.....

i feel like exploding of anger... but i am the mother so it is my duty to clean!!! how to discipline this kinda kids.. age 14,12 and 7

Answer 1

walk like the crab then runaway

Answer 2

May be u should do like others said train your 14 and 12 first. When the older child start to do the cleaning then the younger will follow if you give complement to the responsible.

Answer 3

If you want them to be a clean freak and not mess things around, then you have a lot to worry about coz that would mean that they are not normal.

Answer 4

That's the life of a mother of children. Everything ALWAYS seems to be messy. It's only clean for about 3 seconds. Well, to discipline the 14 year old, you can tell them to pick up after their own. Like, make sure they put the toothbrush back in the holder or if they eat something, to make sure to clean the dish. If they don't, take away an hour of television watching or something. For the younger children, tell them to clean up after themselves and if they do it, put one marble in the jar and if they don't, take one marble out. And once the marble jar is full,take them to dairy queen for one free cone or something of that sort Good luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like a typical mother to me but you are the only one who can put a stop to all these.

Frankly, I think it is too late to discipline your children now cos the root has grown in them and it has become a habit.

I would suggest that you start drawing out a schedule for the 3 of them to follow. Take for example, every Monday and Thursday, get the oldest to pick all the mess and put back into the respective places. Then Tuesday and Friday the 2nd ... and so on. When I say put thing back in their respective places, I mean to get a proper "equipment " (examples, boxes for toys, trays for stationeries, setting a specific area to place their school bags).

Make the 3 of them sit down and make this announcement. Tell them that you are tired and feel angry whenever they mess up the place, after you put everything back in order. Tell them that you are going to give them grace period, like 2 weeks, to see some improvement about the messiness. During these 2 weeks, if you see something which is not supposed to be there, just remind them. And after 2 weeks, the things are still lying all over the place, just pick it up and head for the dustbin. Before you throw, call them there to witness the throwing ceremony. If they argue, just tell them that you have given them enough warning and this is the last straw. When I say throw, I mean you have to throw, if not they will still have the mindset that you are just bluffing them. During this period of time, you don't have to be angry and you don't have to shout at them. Give them those tidak apa attitude.

Good luck...

@_@

Answer 6

make a competition, my mom did that to me and my siblings, i realy like to mess up my room until got no more space to walk

the cleanest room will get a hamper (chocolates), because of that we clean and decorate our room until it's hard for my mom to choose the first winner.. huhu

you can try it too, children in that age level like to compete with each other, so good luck

Answer 7

Your job title is 'House Engineer'

hehe..

Answer 8

do not clean anymore!!!! let them mess up, and then they'll realize...no more space to mess up! if ur hubby question/scold u, twist his ears!! give the mop to him!!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

you are the women.... and you cant discipline kids 12 and below..try pass the responsibility to the 14 yr old hehe..

Answer 11

I know what you're going through.  It's so annoying and disrespectful to you and your home. The first thing you must realize is it is not your duty to clean up after them, it is your duty to "train them up in the way they should go".  I went on strike and quit cleaning up after them, but they were not allowed in my room, the living room, or the kitchen.  They could only come in the kitchen when it was meal time and had to clean up the mess before leaving the room.  I stopped doing their laundry and picking up their room.  They were responsible for them and lost privelages the next day if they weren't done.  No phone, no tv, no video games, no friends over, just books.  If their chores got done they got their privelages back.

Answer 12

Oh dear !  you are doing the exact wrong thing- u clean, they mess, and you clean again; i.e. you are motivating them, i.e. you are encouraging them to mess again (they love to see mum at work...).   Solution- do the opposite.   Don't clean....Father do the cleaning...

Answer 13

hihihi.

dear mother, ur deeds is very very noble.

thank you so much.

there's no one ever can replace the 'mother'

:)