How many of you don't believe that the parent?

Question

child bond in adoptive families is valid?

Answer 1

I DO believe the parent-child bond in adoptive families is valid. I loved my now-deceased adoptive parents more than I could ever love Beth, my first mom I met when I was 18, even though she is very dear to me and I love her too, I will never think of her the way I think of my mom, even though my mom has been dead for 20 years.

Answer 2

If it wasnt valid it wouldnt be a bond at all.  You either bond, or you dont.

Answer 3

I'm more concerned with the child-parent bond.

I have no question that adopters love their adopted children, most do but I'm not sure the bonding goes the other way in every case.

Of course most adopted children will tell you what you want to hear (adoptees are known people pleasers, and there is empirical eveidence of that) but I'm not sure that's the same as true bonding.

Answer 4

As a parent of both adopted and biological ( we refer to them as "home-made") children I know for a fact that the bond is real.  We love them all, they all love us, and they love each other, we annoy them, they annoy us, and they annoy one another, without regard as to who was born into the family or came in by other means.

I can't imagine anyone of us trading another of us for even the greatest treasure in the world, since we all believe we already have it!

Answer 5

Of course the bond is valid. Every bond formed through relationships is valid. It may different than a traditional parent/child bond (don't think it is but for arguements sake lets pretend it may be) but it is still a very valid bond.  

Answer 6

I think that it totally depends on the person...I personally would love a step-child or adoptive child the same as my own...but I have always had it in me...however I know that people like my step-mother could never...she treated me like garbage and now she adopted 2 kids that were foster kids and she can careless...she lets them do whatever they want as long as she gets her check every month...also if I were to adopt a child with my husband...I don't think that he would love the child as his own...thats why I would never adopt..I could never let a child feel that way....

Answer 7

God i hope no one I lost enough faith in humanity already.

Answer 8

It is totally valid, I have seen it over and over again.

Some parents have stronger bonds then others, but the same is true with birth parents.   Look at all of the dead beat dads out there, they are proof that birth bonds are not strong 100% of the time.

Answer 9

my father adopted me and I love him so much, we have always been pretty close and we love each other very much. he has done more for me than anyone else in the world, and been there for me through everything, even when he didn't think I was right he would still stand behind me on anything. I don't think you know very much about the subject your talking about.