How many of you feel like you are more of a parent to your mom or dad than they are to you?

Question

i feel this way and just curious how many others feel like both or one of your parents is your child? i mean...ever since i was 17 my mom was a drunk (and now even worse) and i constantly am telling her whats right and wrong and just talking to her as i would my own kid if they were in that spot (altho they wouldnt be in the spot shes in...i bet you that!). but i am really just getting fed up with this! i think often about cutting her out of our lives (i have plenty good reason but i will spare you). have you been in these shoes? what did you do? thanks =)

Answer 1

hi i can sort of relate to you.........I'm 15 and I'm almost a parent 2 my mom..she has 5 jobs and goes to school and hardly has anything 2 do for herself because she supports our family...i have to do alot of things for her everyday like iron her work clothes and make her bed and cook her breakfast lunch and dinner.........i dont really mind  doing these things for her but other times i wish i had a life ..........she will be graduating soon so things should get better soon.................but if i was in your situation , I would try to take my mom 2 rehab consoling.........hope i helped

Answer 2

yea so much. my mom is always trying to act like if she was a teenager and i hate the fact she try's to be my friend. and not a mother and it just Makes want to kick her ***. but at the same time i wont because she is my mother and some time i fell like crying and at times i fell like my whole world is coming to an end.but i have to look on the bright side i'd rather see her then never see her. and just thankful that she still here and although i cant stand it am still happy she here with me next to me. a live...

Answer 3

that is every d**n day for me and i get tired of it. i talk to them here and there but i slowly decrease the time i talk to them. this is life i guess for people who parents that are like that

Answer 4

Don't worry you aren't alone. My mom is also Bipolar and it's so tough. She always does stupid things and never listens. We are in major debt because of it. So, here's what I do to cope. I get her attention and manage everything she does. It's tough but its getting better. Why don't you try to get your own place and just let your mom live her life?

Answer 5

i do, if something is wrong with the tv, my dad doesn't know how to fix it, so i gotta do it for him

Answer 6

i feel exactly the same way, my mom used to be off her medication(shes bipolar) and she would do all sorts of crazy things(sleep with people she barely knew, give away money and things, and basically let people walk all over her). I tried to tell her she wasnt thinking about what she was doing and that she would regret it later but she wouldnt believe me, shes well again, but she is very ashamed about the things she had done. i literally had to tell the people that were messing with her to **** off. it was hard, but it had to be done. i hated seeing her being used.

i think you should wait it out for a little while, see if it gets better and if not, tell her that when she gets her drinking under control to call her, then just leave.