How many other marriage are sexless?

Question

I have been married over 20 years and have been in a sexless marriage for sometime. Not totally sexless but one the is absolutely no joy or excitement in s*x. Are there other to share my pain.

Answer 1

I can empathize. I share some of your pain.

Answer 2

a selfish hubby if he don't get any then i don't, we tried viagra it didn't work, i have told him that i am going to cheat on him when i don't feel bad for doing it but thus far i haven't, he has been to the Dr.  

Answer 3

if you like s*x why did you get married

Answer 4

you are not alone-it has been 8 years for me, I never have enjoyed s*x to much-not enough foreplay and my husband doesn't believe in romancing me, He started to put me down (which I know isn't right) and that was also a big turn off for me. Just really don't care a whole lot if I get any or not.

Answer 5

I have not had s*x in three years. We are in the marriage for our youngest son's sake.  He is 13 and the joy of our lives.  Our 20,19, 18 years old attend community college.  We are putting our lives on hold until at least the first two graduate and get a job.  We just put our nose to the grind stone.  We rarely sleep in the same room.  It is not by no means enjoyable of course.  But these are sacrafices we have made and are deemed to keep at least for now.  Our kids have come first.  It is worse for me because my husband has had a recent past of alcohol and drug addiction and an affair.  I am just now wanting to at least go out with girls from work which is fun.  If I divorce I lose the house we spent so much money in fixing up and we live in a small community - it would really break the kids hearts.  

Answer 6

I, too am in a sexless marriage, and it really does suck.  It's been 5 1/2 years now since we made love and I miss the emotional closeness and the feeling of being alive that we used to have. I used to experience panic attacks when I thought that my s*x life with him was over.  I did the wrong thing----I took a lover.  The guilt was incredible and I almost committed suicide.  I don't know why I am even trying to answer this because it is a big problem for me, too, and I don't know the solution.  And, yes, I have my "toys"....it's just not the same....sorry this was not more helpful to you.  I truly feel your pain.

Answer 7

I'm in the same boat, we're currently deciding whether to go on with our relationship or not! Good Luck to you.

Answer 8

Sounds like a lot of you need to get laid!  What do You do?

Answer 9

join the club it suxs

Answer 10

d**n that sucks

how do you do it ?

im single and I have s*x atTHE VERY LEASTonce a month >

Answer 11

I was in a sexless marriage for the last 12 years. Just started up with a new guy now that I'm single and WOW! What was I missing? You need to have a frank talk about either breaking up or taking lovers. s*x has many health benefits, and if you're not having it, you may not be ABLE to have it.

Are both of you bothered by this? If you're both OK with it, hey, whatever, but I'd seek counseling if you want to stay together.

Answer 12

I have been in a sexless marriage for 6 years with no positive outlook for my wife to "recover" and start having s*x. I have come to terms that I will no longer accept the fact to look forward to the rest of my life with no s*x. I love my wife but also have deep down anger/mad at her for closing off all intimacy (even kissing)  I'm in my 50's, still maintain a high s*x drive and recently advertised in the personals on www.craigslist.com seeking a married female in the same predictament. I was flabbergasted by the number of replys from some very nice ladies who felt like me (loved their spouses, did not want to leave the marriage but in desparate need for some sideline intimacy and good s*x). I only wanted one person and it was like running a job opportunity. In the end, I have become involved with a highly educated woman who holds a high professional position within my city.  We meet a couple times a month for lunches and have an intimate encounter once every month or two.  As result of this affair, I no longer am mad at my wife, no longer frustrated, no longer m********e to p**n and feel like a normal guy.  I felt guilty about being mad, the masterbation and now all that is gone and I have absolutely no problems or guilts about the affair.  I have become very fond of this lady and the relationship has come down to being very good best friends with benefits.  She too has bettered her marriage by our affair by having a negative edge taken off and tolerate her husband.

Answer 13

lol

1 in 2 marriages end in divorce.. I'm guessing you're not alone.

Answer 14

welcome to the club.. LOL...

Answer 15

Instead of answering your question I would like to ask one you can answer by editing your question - why do you stay in a marriage like that?