How many parents feel it is their responsiblity?

Question

To supevise their 11 yr old daughter so she does not get pregnant so the decision to have an abortion has to be made. I answered a question about this decision being made with the answer... as a parent I would be more involved with her life not to give her the opportunity to get pregnant. My answer was deleted by yahoo claiming not an answer or question! :):)

Answer 1

I agree.  An 11 year old child should not have enough freedom to be able to get into that situation. Where are the parents?

Answer 2

i think if you supervise them too closely, they'll run once they're out of your sight. you have to show them that you trust them by giving them freedom. make sure she knows the consequences. explain to her how hormones make her want to do things but that she can't do them because s*x is meant for marraige. it's an uphill battle, but don't stand behind her pushing all the way. let her climb some too.

Answer 3

I feel like its the responsibility of a parent to watch over their child, to stop them getting in to trouble until they are 18 (And much longer if you are my mum lol)

My sister is 11, My mum knows who she is with, Where she is and what she is doing all the time, She has a mobile phone which my mum rings regularly and my sister has boundaries on the street where she isnt aloud to go past. At 11, Pregnancy & Abortion shouldnt even be a issue, When i was 11 i knew what s*x was, But there was no way on earth i would of done it, And i had no idea what an abortion was.

It is the parents responsibility to know what there child is up to, And therefore should be held responsible if that child becomes pregnant.

Answer 4

An 11 year old child should be under someone's supervision all the time.  Even loosely.  11 is too young to go to the mall by themselves, go to a movie by themselves etc.  They should be encouraged to take part in Group Activities including Church school and Youth groups.

They should not be allowed (and are not by law in most states) be home by themselves for extended periods.  In some states they are still required babysitters if they are left unattended for more than 2 hours.  

It is hard on the parents.  but that is what you signed up for when you had her.  YOU have to make the sacrifices and arrangements to make sure she is safe and attended, not out smoking dope, hanging with gangesters and getting pregnant.  YOUR J O B MOM and DAD.. Do it.

Answer 5

I agree with you, but I would also say that my mom has very high morals and was very strict with me. I had to be home by 8:00 every night until I was 16. I was grounded often. But as strict as she was I still did things she wouldn't approve of. You can supervise your kids and teach them morals, make them go to church, but you cannot keep them captive in your home. Some kids will listen, but some kids will still find ways to get into trouble. Unless you plan on never allowing your child to hang out with friends on weekends or stay all night at a friends house, you can never be sure of what she is doing. Don't judge other people's parenting because you don't know how these things happened. And whether you believe or not you too may find yourself in this same situation in a few years. Even the greatest parents can't protect their kids from everything.

Answer 6

Your answer was deleted likely because enough people, or one person with multiple accounts decided they didnt like it and reported it.  It happens frequently.  It is also an automated process.  Yahoo doesnt actually review the post.  It gets enough reports, it gets deleted.

Yes, it is the parents responsibility to supervise the child, instill morals and give s*x education.  However, you cant be with your children 24/7.  You just cant.  

And as I said yesterday, I think we here all know that kids can, do, and will have s*x.  Its natural curiosity.  And also as I said, I want and hope my child waits, but making sure they have proper education and accesability to birth control and std protection is more important to me than condeming them to h**l because they thought about having s*x.

My parents brought me up right, they taught me morals, pounded into my head that it was wrong to have s*x before marriage and I believed that myself.  But it still happened.  I was 15, I didnt use a condom, or even know how to.  It was one of those things that I didnt plan for, but got caught up in the moment and it just happened.  I know I cant be the only one with simular experiences.

And today, with the media and internet, kids learn about s*x much earlier.  My 18 year old cousin tells me that his friends were having s*x at 8 and 9 years old.

I think more than making sure a pregnancy doesnt occur, its our responsibility to make sure they feel comfortable in coming to us if a pregnancy does occur.  After I had s*x for the first time, I spent the next 6 weeks terrified that I was pregnant, with no one to go to.  If I had went to my parents, I would have been in the most trouble I have ever been in, and I was too afriad of what she would say.  Now, I wasnt pregnant, and I feel certain that I would not have considered abortion, but I also feel certain that I would have been kicked out.

Answer 7

Generally yes I do think it is the parents responsibility but kids are not always at home, are not always with the parents and if a kid is determined to do something - they usually can find a way.,

Answer 8

I have a 12 year old, and to a large degree, I agree with you.  Parents should know where and what their children are doing.  Saying that, as a child, i ran wild, but never was pregnant.  Although there were lots of boys who wanted to "let me see yours and I'll let you see mine" - I was far too prudish to fall for that lot.

I think the world has changed a lot - and attitudes towards s*x.  My parents were in the background, and we were expected to get on with it and not bother them.  And I only knew two girls who fell pregnant when I was at senior school, too.  That's out of 1000 kids.

So yes, it is my responsibility to make sure my daughter has morals.  The rest .. well, that's luck, good sense and fear of me, rather than lack of opportunity.

Answer 9

Everyone makes their own decision in life, and while I am a huge part of my child's life, I cannot make every decision for them.  I can only guide them, give them love and discipline them when they need it.

I'm not going to be nieve enough to think that I can control everything my children do--there comes a time when they have to live their own lives and learn the consequences of their own decisions :)  

Anyways, I find that the mothers who try to hyper control everything their children do get disappointed more often than not.