How many people think it is ok to....... ?

Question

have lots & lots of children as long as you can afford it?

My sister is in the hospital right now about to give birth sometime this evening to her sixth child. The thing is, I don't think she is done. Personally, I don't want that many kids. I am pregnant with my 3rd & we may have one more but 4 is our limit. I could never handle that many kids but I give her credit because she handles it very well. Today's society seems to down this type of thing but I feel that every family is different & if you can handle it & of course afford it, then why not? What is everyone elses opinion on this??

Answer 1

I say if you want them, love them, and can afford them then go for it.

I think my max would be 3 kids though.

Answer 2

i am pregnant with baby #6 noone knows yet coz its  still early  but all ive heard since #5 was born is u must be done now surely u wont have more do know what we PLANNED #6

the way i see it is my husband works  all OUR children are doing well @school and they all know how much we love them.

my kids are ALL well looked after well behaved etc i personally will NOT have any more after this but thats our choice

its very hard having this many children but i wouldnt change it 4 a second

not every one agrees but a couple decide  how big their family will be not gossips

good luck with ur lil 1 x x x x

Answer 3

why do you sound so defensive?

I don't see anything wrong with having a lot of kids. in fact, i love watching all those shows on TLC and DHC of large families... like the Duggers... you know what I'm talking about?  

Answer 4

I think it is a personal preference as to the size of your family.

Years ago large families were the norm.  Then, parents started having one or two children, maybe three, but that was it.  Now you are seeing more and more large families again.

It isn't just "handling" the kids.  It is do you have the time to give to each child that they need?  You may have one child that once he or she is up and moving, they don't need you to hang around them all the time, but then you decide to have another, thinking it is going to be the same.  Wrong.  Each child is different and each family situation is normal.

Evidently your sister and brother-in-law had decided long ago what size family they wanted as you and your husband has decided on 3 or 4.

I think as long as you have the time and the love, it is up to you as to how many children you have.

Answer 5

I AGREE, MY HALF SISTER HAS 5 CHILDREN, THAT MEANS IM AN AUNT. THE FUNNY THING IS THAT IM YOUNGER THEN MY NEPHEW. HE'S IN 7TH GRADE. BUT YEA. MY NEPHEW HELPS OUT WITH THE LITTLE ONES. SO MY SISTER CNA RELAX.LAST TIME THEY WENT TO MY HOUSE. THEY ALMOST BROKE MY CHINA TEA CUP SET AND NEARLY TRIPPED ME OVER> AND I GOT IN TROUBLE FOR IT. SO MY DAD PULLED MY HAIR. LOL. THATS JUST HOW CHINESE PEOPLE DEAL WITH THEIR KIDS

Answer 6

I think it will be very hard to give all of them attention ...

I know a lady who has 10 kids (all single births) and is always complaining that one of the younger ones is trying to get negative attention by saying hes going to kill himself or going out into the front yard and yelling "HELP MY PARENTS WANT TO KILL ME!"

Hes only 8 years old!

I ask her if she gives them attention but she says no because shes tired after work and doesn't feel like dealing with them all ...

My thing is what is the point in having 10 kids or whatever if you wont be able to raise them all equally ...

If you have a multiple birth like 6 at one time ... fine I understand because It must be hard to say "yea kill all 5 and let me keep 1" I couldn't do that!! Could you?

If your sister feels that she can handle all of them and give them equal attention good for her but if not then she should think about stopping now ...

Imagine that Duggar lady that has 18 kids and shes still getting pregnant! I saw it on tv ...  

Answer 7

i think if she can handle them and so can her body then go for it...i mean if they are aged a couple years apart it shouldnt be that bad....i personally want 3 maybe 4 but i think i might just stop at one for now lol

Answer 8

I think if you can afford to have a lot of children and you WANT a lot of children, all the more power to you.  But if you can't provide those kids with a good lifestyle- safe and healthy- then don't have a ton of kids.  Live within your means.  

Answer 9

As long as you can cope and they will all get treated equally then it's great. I think Angelina Jolie should stop adopting and having kids for a while. I read she can't cope and has 2 nannies but is adopting another one anyway. Having that many children is unfair if you can't handle it.  

Answer 10

like you said if you can take care of them they all eat.sleep and live well every day of they're lives this is fine BIRTH ON SISTER lol

Answer 11

i dont know. i guess if your not  being selfish and your finically wealthy then its alright to have as many kids of you'd like. I dont think I could handle 6 kids myself though..lol

Answer 12

Sure, Jacob had 12. :) Not with the same wife of course, but still. I love kids. ;)

Answer 13

If you can afford six children go for it! The more the merrier.

Answer 14

I think as long as they can afford to have that many children good for them. Some people just love having kids!!! I see nothing wrong with it :), I myself only want 3, but everyone is different

Answer 15

Only 50 or so years ago it was the norm to have a crapload of kids.  This day and age, though, how could anyone afford that?  Some people that can afford it have a lot of kids and they raise them perfectly fine.  My cousin had her fourth kid last year and everyone couldn't believe that she had that many kids.  For me, personally, that would be too many but I've never been a part of a big family (I was an only child).  

Answer 16

I think its an utterly selfish thing to do in terms of resources, especially in the west where each baby consumes thousands of times more resources than a child in a poor nation just in its infancy.

I also think if someone needs to have that many children, they must be seriously lacking emotionally. What do they expect to get out of 4 5 and 6 that they didn't get out of 1 2 and 3?

Answer 17

I think every family should do what they want.  I'm pregnant with my 5th and am very excited.  I just found out yesterday that we are having our 5th boy...can you imagine that?!  It's crazy, but I can't wait to meet him and now that I know what I'm having and have seen him through ultrasound, I can't imagine not having a 5th child.  The more the merrier if that's what you want. :)