How many people were adopted as a child?

Question

I wasn't but I'm thinking about adopting, how did you feel when you found out have you met your real parents

Answer 1

I've always known.  My adoptive family told me from the very beginning, before I even knew what it meant to be adopted.

I just met my firstmom a few months ago.  I am 35.  It's been a whirlwind and a lot to take in.  Reunion is not what I expected.  Still,  I am glad that I have found her.  It's something I wanted my whole life.

I'm pretty sure that she is glad that I found her too but it has opened up old wounds for both of us.

I have a good relationship with my adoptive family.

I have found that I have more issues with being relinquished than with being adopted.

My adoption was closed and it was hard growing up not knowing what happened or why I was relinquished.  I am a much happier person now that I know the truth of my origins and have been able to connect with some of my bio family members.

My reunion has not taken away from my relationship with my adoptive family.  If anything, reuniting with my biofamily has strengthened the good ties I have to my adoptive family.  I'm not sure if everyone feels that way but that is my experience.

Answer 2

I was adopted into the family. If the child is young and has had a bad experiance they probably need therapy. I was in it for 5 years because my dad was a jerk and didn't care. It, in my opinion depends on the parents. My neighbor gave her kid up for adoption but she wasn't able to give her everything she needed. So i guess it depends on the situation. My dad always made me upset. I didn't find out what really went on until I was about 13 years old. I only see my mom and lil' bro since he passed away.

Answer 3

I was not adopted but my cousin was.  He had to find out in his teens from a neighbor.  He was shocked!  His Mom foolishly denied it.  He is a loser now and actually was spoiled too death (not literally).

The best thing is be honest to the child from the beginning.  Don't deceive the child!

Answer 4

I was adopted as an infant and I think the earliest that I remember that I was "different" was when I was around 5. It was a little obvious, I am Korean and my family isn't. And I have yet to meet my real parents. I am interested in only meeting my mother however for personal reasons.  I think that it's great that you are thinking about adopting. There are so many children here and around the world that need loving families to call their own.  I think that I am really lucky to have been adopted. I have a great family and have had so many wonderful experiences that I may not have been able to have if I wasn't adopted.

Answer 5

I'm not adopted, but I'd still like to give my input if that's alright..

I think if I were adopted it would be awkward to meet my real parents. It would probably at some point even feel awkward knowing the people I'm living with aren't related to me at all by blood.

But, I think I would much rather go through a few moments of awkwardness then go through a lifetime of not having anyone. Especially if I were from a country that was poverty stricken or something like that.

Answer 6

I never felt any way my parents always told me I was adopted so I always knew that I was. It wasn’t a big deal.  I ended up with my family when I was 3 weeks old as a foster child, and was official adopted when I was 3 years. Never meet my biological parents and have no desire too. To me blood does not mean family. The only real parents I have are the ones that have raised me since I was 3 weeks old, their only parents I need.  That said they have always said that if I ever wanted to search they would support and help me.

I hope to one day maybe adopted a sibling group from Brazil and maybe a child from America who is multiracial.

Answer 7

I was not adopted. But my sister was. We told her when she was 2. We explained that her first Mom couldn't care for her and as she got older we told her more and more. The sad thing? Her and her birthmom were in contact and were going to meet but her birthmother died in a carcrash. Her birthdad and her are talking about seeing each other, but she doesn't know. She's still getting over the fact about her BM dying. She was adopted as a tiny baby since her mom was a drug addict and her dad was in jail. It was the best thing to do and now I would like to adopt kids to help them.

Answer 8

I was adopted as an infant.

I grew up with my "real" (oh how I hate that word!) parents.

I have met my first mother.  She is a sweet lady.  My first father is nowhere to be found, not that I have looked all that hard.

My son was adopted as an infant.  He is growing up with his real parents.. all three of us.  his first mom is an active part of our lives.  he calls her "Mama" and me "Mommy" and my husband "Daddy".  His first father has chosen not to be a part of our lives, and frankly, considering the person he is, I'm grateful for that.

My husband was adopted as an infant.  He grew up with his real parents. So did his sister, who is also adopted, and his brother who is a bio-kid.

All of us knew from the time we were tiny that we were adopted.  It was just a fact, like the fact that we had hair and toes and were human.

I guess the point that I am trying to get at is that any parent who gives birth to a child is a real parent, and any parent who raises a  child is a real parent.  It doesn't matter who gave birth, who did the raising, or if the same person did both.

Adoptive parents are real parents.

Foster parents are real parents.

Birth Parents are real parents.

We are all real people, with real kids, and real feelings, some of which are terribly complicated.  

Complicated feelings only make us more "real". (and I still hate that word)

Answer 9

I've always known I was adopted.  It was difficult to find my bio family as the adoption records were sealed.  I finally did find them and have been reunited with most on my bio moms side. I've been in contact with bio dad but never met him.

My 'real' parents are my adoptive parents.  I call my bio mom Susan.  I have a good relationship with her, but it's a friend thing and not a family thing. It was very hard on my Mom.  She didn't understand why I need to find the bio family.  She thought I was going to move away and have a new mom.  I was 32 at the time.  : )

Answer 10

I've known all along--my mom never kept it a secret from me. I also think that because she was open about it, I have no desire to meet my birth parents. They're not my parents--my mom is. All we share is DNA. (though I would like to find out their medical history so I'm prepared for what's coming). I'm proud of being adopted--it shows that my mother WANTED me. I think that's the best thing about it.

Answer 11

i don't remember finding out. My aparents said I cried every night for my real mother after finding out for over a month. And then one day i stopped asking for hr and never talked them again until I was 13 and they gave me my non id, which I found by snooping at a much younger age. I gave up, but remember walking to the end of our driveway as a young girl and hoping they'd come get me. Looking at every woman and wondering if it was her. Looking at every man and wondering if it was him. I used to straight up ask women on the street if they were my mom.

Yes, i have met my real parents. We are very much alike, same laugh, same smile, same mannerisms, same hands, features its incredible really.

Answer 12

I was adopted when I was a few days old - according to my amother, when I was told I called everyone I knew asking if it was true.  It's affected me my whole life in one way or another - mostly bad though.  I've met my natural mother, but not my natural father since he passed away due to heart problems 15 years ago.  That medical information would have been nice to know since I've been having the same problems since I was a teenager.  They would have treated it sooner/better had the doctor's known of the family history.  IMO, I don't think people should adopt, unless it's from the foster care system.