How many years should you be together before you marry?

Question

How many to have kids?

Answer 1

As many days, months or years as it takes for both people to feel ready. There's no set time limit.

Answer 2

No one has the RIGHT? answer for that question. It depends on how ready you feel to marry. I personally think the longer your with someone the better you get to know them.  

Answer 3

i think its different for every couple. although i think 4yrs for marriage and maybe a couple of years after that for children

Answer 4

atleast a year

Answer 5

You should be together at least two years before you get married.  Though if you are younger or developing your career, there are situations where you should wait even longer than that.  There isn't any problem trying for kids right after the wedding as long as that is what you want both.

Answer 6

There's no right answer for that it's all up to you. Some people date a year and get married, some are together forever and still never get married! Its all about how you and your partner feel.  

Answer 7

Personal preference. We were together a year before marriage..then pregnant 5 months later. It's worked for us. =)

Answer 8

I honestly believe you need to date exclusively for one full year prior to getting engaged.

You need to experience all the events and happenings in a person's life (from deaths to births to Thanksgiving dinner to Super Bowl Sunday and everything int between). You need to see and understand their life and their family.

Then be engaged one to two years then marry.

This gives you time to begin to find your way into his life and his family's lives and holidays. Plus, planning a wedding is stressful and takes time.

Ideally I would wait at least one year before trying to have a family.

You really need time to settle and be a couple. Start traditions of your own. Enjoy your time together because once baby gets here there is little time for being a couple again.

Answer 9

honestly you will just know when you are ready. I personally did it a bit young married @ 19 had son @ 21 which when I think about it was too early but everyone is different.

Answer 10

at least 2 years before marriage.  

start: 3/2006

engaged: 2/15/08

baby: 2/26/08

will get married in 2009, not date yet

Answer 11

It depends on how comfortable you are with that person. After all you really never get to know the person you marry. My parents have been married for 50 yrs and still learn more of each other every day. The kids part I would say as soon as you finish going to college, getting a stable job or a home to be comfortable in.  

Answer 12

Everybody is different! I know a couple who has been together for 6 years and are still not married and they now have their first baby on their way. my husband and i were together for 1 year before we got married then married for one year (after trying for 7 months) and are now pregnant with our first baby. I know couples who were married shortly after meeting, then didn't have children until 8 years after being married. seriously, to each their own. it's what makes you two feel comfortable and you will know when the times are right. Good luck to you two :D

Answer 13

Atleast a few. But don't get married until you're absolutely ready. And then have kids when you're ready as well. There's no set time limit. Do it when you feel it's time.

Answer 14

Thats up to you and your future spouse to decide.  Its different for everyone.  Some people get married after a week, some wait 10 years.  Same goes for kids.

Only thing I can say is if youre not ready, dont do it.

Answer 15

I dont think how many years matters. I was in a 5 year relationship before I met my husband and was never was never nearly as close to them as I was to my husband after only a few months. My husband and I were together a year before getting engaged, and were engaged for a year. We are waiting a year before we try to have kids so that we can enjoy being married and get used to be married as well

Answer 16

at least 10 years

Answer 17

Minimum one year before you marry.. Anywhere between 1.5 yrs to 3 yrs.

To have kids.. I'd wait at least five years after you've gotten married.  Gives you time to get to know each other better and strengthen your own relationship before you add a child who is completely dependent on both of you to the mix.