How much comprimise do I need to do when being with a woman with kids?

Question

I tried things her way for 6 months. Clearly, that doesn't work. The kids are getting to the point of becoming disrespectful. They're doing so because there's no real consequence that comes with that behavior. Their mother is all about treating like babies. I believe when kids get too out of line, that's when the belt comes into play. I'm not the father, who's now in jail by the way, but I feel the mother should handle that part of the discipline. Thoughts

Answer 1

You married this woman. You owe it to her, and her children to make the marriage work. You need to get some help in how to discipline those kids. This is a team effort- the two of you need to discipline them together. Get help from a counselor, a pastor, friend etc. The kids need you to be a good father figure in their lives. Your wife needs you to respect her and love her children as your own. Step up and be a man.

Answer 2

she should disapline! you also need to understand that the dads in jail your in thier life and they are protecting the mom! its really hard for kids you need to place your self in thier shoes and your lady needs to talk to them without you around but not get in thier face but change the tension on good things they do. show them you care for them too!! its hard but stick with it and you will feel better when you win over the kids, it took my hubby a year but now they like him more than me!!! good luck be the bigger person dont play on thier level or your just going to get worked up!

Answer 3

find another gf - you will only have problems with this situation - whether or not she is the mother of the year - her children will (and should) always come first - clearly she sees no problem with their interaction with you - since you have had problems for 6 months, that is about 5 months too long

i'm not going to get into discipline theories with you - but find someone closer to the same page as you

Answer 4

dont get in between a mother and her children

it is totally up to her how she chooses to bring them up

if you are in a relationship with her

you need to decied is it her or do you want to step in as the father

coz if you dont then dont give advice