How much contact do you have with your ex?

Question

A friend of mine and I are at odds when it comes to what you should do when you break up with someone. Ideally, I'd say, you should quit talking to that person. Of course I realize not all situations are ideal and a lot of times when you tell someone not to contact you they still do. Sometimes it even gets ugly, sometimes things happen that you would never expect in a million years or they contact you in an emergency because they feel they have no other option. My friend thinks that one can remain in contact with ex lovers as long as certain boundaries are not crossed and you always tell the truth when asked about the situation. What do you think? And does it make a difference if you have been married and divorced from this person EVEN IF no children were conceived in the relationship?

Answer 1

I think its to hard to have contact with an ex.

There is to much history and drama to just be friends. I have never seen it work.

I do not think it would matter if a couple were married . The relationship ended for some reason, you usually do not get many " clean " breakups.

Answer 2

From my experience ( from my last relationship that lasted almost 5 years from when i was 14 to 19) i find that unless there's a good reason to talk or even see your ex ( like kids or payments on shared things) there is not need to keep comunication with them...it gets in the way of ones life.....peace

Answer 3

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Answer 4

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Answer 5

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Answer 6

well i disagree with everyone else. It depends on the situation, but I believe that you CAN be friends with ur ex-... as long as those boundaries are not crossed and u are JUST friends..remember, they are an ex for a reason. I am still friends with my ex from over 14 yrs ago. I am now 32. We lost contact and i had a lot of hatred towards him for years, but once we got back in contact we can actually be civil and are good friends now.. ONLY friends...we do not talk everyday or anything, just every now and then just to say hi and see whats new.. I am happily married and I made that clear from the beginning.. Just be up front and set the friends guidelines straight from the beginning, and if the ex doesn't want to follow those guidelines or violates or tries to violate them, then they do not  respect you and  DO NOT DESERVE UR FRIENDSHIP!!!!  

Good Luck!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I"m in contact with one of my exes because there's a child involved.  We keep it business-only and not personal.  We only discuss things relating to the child.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Everyone handles situations differently. What might be a perfect solution for one, may be the worst for another. When a relationship ends, the easiest way for me to to get over the heartache faster, is to act like that person does not exist. I completely remove them from my life....forever.

Answer 11

before any couple gets together they start out as friends. and then it gets more serious and moves into love. so even after a break up since the person was at one time a friend then you should at least still have that connection with them

Answer 12

None AT ALL...Ex's are your ex's for a reason....They don't work as friends.