How much do looks matter in finding a partner?

Question

My friend had a crush on this girl in junior high even when he didn't know her well because she is very pretty. She has dark hair like him and nice eyes. She's nice but she doesn't really stand out personality wise.

But now they finished university.

He is friends with this pretty blonde girl who has a business degree, is very pretty, outgoing, fun personality, and has a lot of friends and she likes him. He went out with her a few times but when we ran into the previous girl again, he seems really interested in her even though he hasn't really talked to her and she is not doing as well (she finished a history degree and has to get another degree to find something that will get a job). I asked him why and he says he just feels something when he sees her. But he knows the new girl better, she's good looking and she likes him.

How much do looks affect how much you like someone? If you started seeing someone good looking and nice, would you leave it for someone very attractive?

Answer 1

Well in the guy's case i wouldn't leave a good thing for something that just LOOKS like a good thing.  Looks attract and the personality keeps..that's how it normally works....cause when you grow old and ugly it's the personality that keeps you still thinking they're beautiful.  

Everything in a relationship is mental for the most part, the physical is a VERY small portion of any relationship....so if your mental attraction isn't 100% then what makes you think that relationship will work?  If someone is unattractive to you it won't be until you KNOW that person when you can grow to like them, that's like skipping ahead into the future as if you've already grown old with them and can see past the looks.  And the odds of that happening is only if you 'BUMP' into that person or somehow get aquainted be it work or whatever.  How can you be attracted to them by personality when you don't know them?  It requires TALKING or making attempts to talk to them.

People who look good to YOU...stimulate you mentally...what happens when they want to make love and you can't because they aren't appealing enough to excite you?  People can still make love when they're together for YEARS because they're use to that person and the changes that occur overtime....their bond allows them to be accustom to whatever flaws come up, cause to them it isn't flaws as they've seen them for YEARS and can care less (for those who are still truly in love.....when some people let themselves go some of the shallow b******s suddenly wanna cheat or end the relationship.).  But from the start you won't be mentally into it just like that....

So again in your friend's case i'd stick with whom he KNOWS he has a good thing with....that other chick can be a complete b*tch and he would've ruined a good thing playing russian roulette.

Looks get you to a person in the first place...THEN the personality get s you to keep a person.

Answer 2

if had the choice between looks and looks with a great personality, i'd chase after the girl that had both. i'm with someone who has looks, but not the greatest personality, and used to have it the other way around. if i could have someone with both, i'd consider marrying her! those don't come around too often.

Answer 3

If you are going to look at looks for a mate, sorry. Beauty is only skin deep and you will probably regret it later in life. You should take the person as a whole, looks, personality, values and so on.  

Answer 4

I would go with someone who has a personality and not just look. Honestly, if people think about it..looks..the whole beauty thing..it fades away when you grow old. Unless you have the money to have plsatic surgery and such.

It's more important to be with someone you can communicate with and basically what you said about this girl who likes him.

As a girl, I wouldn't leave this guy who has a personality, who likes me, and good looking for some hottie who don't talk to me. Unless of course, he can TRY and talk to the girl who is 'attractive' and get to know her. Then..you can compare and choose.

Answer 5

Well I already have my partner and in my eyes he is the hottest, sexiest thing... Before when I was looking and dating I didn't go for looks that much... I tried dating some really good looking guys but they were to much into themselves or they always wanted someone better looking than me... I like what is inside a person and how they treat me more than how they look....

Answer 6

well in my opinion gud looks rnt that imp. whn an individual wants long term relation it shud b d person n who shud b imp not d looks of d person..coz this looks will vanish off as 1 gets older. so looks hardly matter on how much v like sum1

Answer 7

Looks, intelligence, and personality all matter in the choice of a mate. It is a person's responsibility to pass on the best possible traits to the next generation.

Answer 8

It is important to me but not that important, at least if they are easy on the eyes they have a chance with me, I do however look for other things as well like, how they treat me, personality, intelligence, sense of humor and stuff like that.

Answer 9

The heart knows what it wants.

Beauty is only skin deep.

What is inside is what counts.